to wonder why all of mumsnet seems to meet NUTTERS

[SuSylvester]

and i have never had mad old women givine me parenting tips or similar.
it is
a) becoz I is perfect
B) they all live near you lot
C) you all attract them

does anywone ele not have mad passer by moments?

I meet lots of nice people all the time, old ladies in shops in particular like to tell me how lovely my children are, and old men on trains like to talk to them too.

I'm a random talker too which probably makes me seem like a nutter. If a stranger has a lovely dress or shoes or something I'll always comment and ask where they got it from.

As for parenting I have only ever had lovely comments. One day I had DD in a sling (actually I had locked myself out of the flat with no pushchair and only the sling!) and an elderly gentleman stopped me and exclaimed 'Oh, that's love, that's love, she's is going to be so bonded with you when she grows up', and as for breastfeeding, I've only ever had 'Oh, well done dear, you're doing it the natural way' or people actually tweaking her cheek while feeding

I breastfed in public all over the place - I was desperate for someone to tut or complain so I could get all self righteous, however all I ever encountered were old ladies smiling and nodding at me.

My mother in law is lovely.

No members of the public ever say anything askance (maybe I look frightening)

I've had compliments for breastfeeding in public, too. .

I think it depends how you take things, too, I find a lot of AIBU thread-starters seem to be hypersensitive to casual comments.

Last week DS was throwing a strop in public and an older lady came over and started saying things like "Father Christmas won't bring you toys if you keep on like this". DD somehow got involved, with older lady telling her she shouldn't wind her brother up (which is what kicked off the tantrum).

Afterwards DD was irate with me and said I should tell that lady off for interfering, but tbh I was amused & didn't mind a bit. If DC will strop in public or wind each other up, they are going to attract the attentions of interfering old biddies. If DC don't like it, they should desist from tantrums over trivia and being horrid to each other! I suppose some MNers would have kicked off an AIBU thread about interfering observers, but I was just glad that someone was trying to be helpful rather than judgemental.

My daughter is so going to grow up to be one of these nutters too (a nice one I hope). She is two and talks to anyone. In the supermarket queue:

'Man, man, I've got Peppa Pig wellies'

I also often think I am the only person on MN (or maybe in the history of the entire world) to have a had a very lovely and sensible Health Visitor.

DH was giving dd a bottle of milk in an M & S cafe one day when she was a few months old, an old dear came up and tapped him on the arm and said "it's marvellous how you can cope".

@Bumperlicious - I remember the cries of 'man, man' or 'lady, lady' to attract the attention of a random stranger to tell them something completely random

DH's are a different target altogether, jeez, they only have to hold the baby to be complimented on their parenting.

The best 'interference' we experienced was when DD was 2 days old. We'd walked to the co-op but the pram was too big to get into the ridiculously small shop so I went in and left DH with the pram.

An elderly lady came up and cooed at DD. 2 minutes later the woman had tapped DH on the shoulder and shoved a tenner into his hand saying 'that's for the baby mind, don't go spending it on beer'. Still makes me to this day (actually making me cry a little bit now, fecking pregnancy hormones).

I breastfed DD until she was old enough to have a sensible discussion with me about the virtues of baby led weaning and the worst I ever got was a slight bug eyed look from a man who came to measure up some new carpets. I fed at Crystal Palace during the grand prix and at rugby and cricket internationals - no one ever said a peep.

I did used to get tutted at when out with DS2 when he was smaller and his severe ASD just looked like a badly bahaved toddler.

I have had a strange woman standing on my doorstep, and some tourists all came and took each others photos by my front door. But thats it reallt.

I did though have one woman come over to me in a coffee shop and shout at me. She said I was a rude cow for moving away from her and her toddler. I sat there a bit until she stopped ranting and I was able to break it to her that I had move next to the window as I had forgotten my glasses and needed the light to read.

she is the face is summon when reading some of the miserable old caaawwww posts that appear on here. And I imagine a drunken crowd of dimwits similar to the extras in the Queen Vic when the posters join in with "yeah...quite right...fucking tell her...rude caaawwww"

If you do that it all starts to make sense

I've never had any adverse comments either- not for bf in public, or tantrumming children, or anything.

Quite the reverse, actually.

For e.g- ds2 was enjoying a little strop in the queue in Waitrose the other day,. Behind us was a very staid looking man in a suit. He looked at ds2, bent down and started whirling the 'PLEASE WAIT HERE' sign round and round for ds2's amusement. The whole queue was smiling.

Maybe that's Waitrose for you.....

Mind you, I do know I can look rather scary. Perhaps people are afraid NOT to help....

I get wittered at by nutters because my dad is a witterer, so the universe has to keep in balance

Bumper - my dd2 is like that too. She's been known to peer out of her pram at random people walking near her and trill "Lovely day isn't it!" at them!

I think Op is mad. well, i thought the comments on the thread today were very diverse.I think Mn is mad, often. am often shocked when i see that the majority of posters agree with OP/disagree with OP. and i think, i don't agree with that. i always consider myself so middle of the road it is frightening boring. so mn threads regularly shock me. i think, is this what the adverage mum thinks, becasue i don't agree. how frightening.

I always seem to meet lovely people. Met some today, in fact.

Bumperlicious - ds1 used to call people 'Man' too. I remember being on York station, and a man smoking a pipe sat down next to us.

Ds1 - Man - what is that in your mouth?

Man - It's a pipe.

Ds1 - What are you doing with it, man?

Man - I am smoking it.

Ds1 - Hmm - you are going to die.

Man -

Ds1's parents -

That was the point when we ruled out a career in the Diplomatic Corps for him.

Oh, and he was about 3 at the time, if I recall correctly. I must remind him of the incident.

Oh just got a warm glow in remembrance of 'man' 'lady' conversations from toddlers.

Re 'your baby has lost its sock', I once had some eejit ask me why I had taken one sock off and left the other one on. Wish I'd had the wit to say something like 'because I want to punish his left foot'.

I suspect that there is a small, mobile black hole - related to the one in the washing machine/tumbledryer, that can suck a sock off a baby's foot in the blink of an eye! It would explain why you can never find the sock again.

I think it's got a hat from when ds2 was a baby - we knew exactly where it had been left on the train, and it still couldn't be found.

It's a plot I tell you!...

Think you might be onto something, DT'sGirl...love your 'man' story as well!

Thank-you!

Squeaver I also wink at small children and had a nice Hv. Me and you are one.

I told a small boy he had a cool jacket on today in .He followed me around the dining and kitchen areas grinning at me. Every time I turned around he was behind me staring at me like this->