because I'm a little bit annoyed at DH for chopping the end off his thumb?

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God, that sounds so selfish. Here's some background. BTW, I also know that this could've been so very much worse, just need a rant.

DS (11mo) has various disabilities and I am his full time carer. I also have mobility issues and I'm in pain most of the time. We have a DD11 who is fab and I couldn't be without her help.

However, DH was out chopping wood last Saturday and came screaming into the house for me to "come here", which I did, to find blood spurting out the end of his thumb. OUCH! Now, I'm great at pulling my big girl pants up and getting on with it but this made me green. So I called an ambulance after holding his arm above his head, wrapped in a clean towel etc..... then asked our neighbour to go and look for said missing part of digit in the wood shed. He found it, and I stuck it in a bag of frozen peas (they were BYGOF at shops so happy days!! ) and off to the hospital.

He came back on Saturday night with a view to going back first thing Sunday. So there's me looking after him and DS, DD can take care of herself in most deparments. He went back (neighbour has been taxi service as I can't drive that far) they admitted him as were going to reconstruct the end of his thumb that day. Got bumped due to emergencies and has gone in today for the op

AIBU for being a tiny bit cross that this could've been avoided if he wasn't holding the piece of wood as he hit it? He said he was "steadying it". I feel so bad for what he is going through and I'm sure he feels v bad for adding to my workload but I can't help snapping at him......

I think I just needed to confess that I'm a bit cross and that he should've known better. BTW - he has a terrible track record of breaking things, glasses, bones, and getting injured doing the most simple of tasks. And he didn't bring my peas home

I don't know what else to say but YABU in the extreme.

well, YABU, but to be honest, I would probably feel the same in your situation!

It's fine to be annoyed, these things happen and it can frustrate the best of us, but it's not his fault so your annoyance shouldn't be aimed at him

Aw bless, poor man is in pain and probably feeling really guilty. Vent your frustration here and give him a break - surprise him by doing something really nice for him (it will make him feel twice as bad )

YANBU to be annoyed but you need to let it go. I am sure he isn't having much fun and of course he didn't bring the peas back!

I wonder if you're feeling angry because feeling scared is too difficult?

You are being a total bitch, and strangely I can see your point.

Yes to feeling annoyed with someone for doing something really bloody stupid which could have been a lot worse.

No to showing it!

Going to go get a fire blanket to put out my flames.

FIGT - Have let it go, just wanted to rant about it when I had five minutes

Kew - already got fab meal planned for when he comes home, thanks.

LFC - course I'm scared. Scared I'll lose him in theatre, scared it'll all go wrong and I know he'll be in so much pain

What a bastard! Having an accident like that

Nah, course you're not. It's understandable that you'd feel angry at him, as well as worried and scared and lots of other things. Congrats, you are human!

Feel free to hit him and tell him not to ever do that again

YANBU to be 'a tiny bit cross'.
Hope you feel a bit better after your vent - and I'm BVVU because your writing style has made me grin horribly.

Oh dear, your poor DH. Really you know, you should never have let him out of sight with an axe if he's accident-prone.

I do sympathize. I've got Frank Spencer for a DH too.
Last week he nearly fell off the roof (don't ask) broke half the glass in the greenhouse and cut his hand open with a garden cane!! All in one day!

So probably YABU but sod it! I'm with you

Thanks MeMudmagnet - I'm LMAS big time at that post. Your poor DH though!! He wins!!

The thing is, you know YABU. But actually, you need TBU on here to get it out of your system so I don't blame you! My DP is another Frank Spencer given the chance and can't stand the sight of blood which makes for interesting consequences every time the inevitable occurs.

Thinking about starting a Frank Spencer appreciation group, who's with me?

i have a ds like your husband and i can totally understand how frustrating it can be when it's just a succession of ridiculous accidents.

that being said ds1 gets it from me so i feel awful for your dh too as it's so incredibly infuriating when you keep having ridiculous accidents and yyou really don't get much sympathy from people.

so no YANBU to be a bit annoyed but YWBU to show it

I get the impression that the OP is going to be thoroughly sympathetic when her DH comes home. Which is why she needs to be unreasonable on here!

I can see why you are pissed off. >>am a moody cow too!

Thanks Pikelit - spot on. Apart from being snappy on Saturday when it happened (PMT too) I've been very loving and did him a lush bubble bath to clean him up when he got in from hospital that night.

Corona - nope, Mrs Nasty B1tch has been and gone

I'm also married to a Frank Spencer.
DD loves Gigglebiz Justin because he's the same.
and DD's got quite funny at saying "job done" when he messes something up.

YANBU.He obviously chopped the end off his finger just to annoy you

I can see your point My DH used to work with a circular saw (can you see where this is going?) and one fine July day decided to not concentrate (HELLO, BIG SAW?!) He pulverised the top joint of his longest finger and ripped the fat pad off his index finger, and was in hospital for three days. He still can't use the fingers for much as one is too short and the other is covered in rigid scar tissue with no fat pad.
I was horrified he had hurt himself so badly and gave him lots of spoiling and cuddles... but still thought he was a dumb fuck for not using a dangerous tool properly.

Urbtttu and I am exactly the same! Dh stuck his hand somewhere he really shouldn't have at work and crushed it! Couldn't do anything couldn't get dd up in morning or nowt! I was tttu but tried not to show it too much!
Hope op goes well and he gets better soon