to think there is nothing more mind numbingly booooring than people banging on about being unwell?

[moondog]

Christ, I am sooo bored with making comforting noises to peopel who think I want excruciationg detail about their sleeping/sniffing/vomitting/medication patterns.

I don't fucking care! Not one jot.

I have also resolved never to speak of health issues, even if my left leg is dropping off.

Take note please.

How do yuo bear it?
Do you just grunt or make semblance of being intereted?

I made a rod for my own back.

She was all worried about being pregnant, so I was all nicey nicey and played the caring friend role, which causes her to tell me each and every one of her woes. I kind of think now I have started to be nice I can't just stop.

I should have just been a miserable awld bastard in the first place.

Never mind. Am leaving there in a few weeks anyhow.

Bless her and all she is only a young girl but honestly - keep all your gynae issues to yourself.

Are you a GP?

YABU

When my DM rings, I have to listen to all the medical problems her friends have and who has died since the last phone call.

Mum never has any medical problems of her own.

She did ring me once and then said "I have to go now dear the ambulance is here".

After almost freaking I discovered that she had had terrible pains for the last two days so decided she would call an ambulance.

Spent time in hospital after having her gall bladder out.

Oh my God!!!!!!! I've just realised that I'm doing what you hate. Sorry

You know, I was "unwell" and apparently a "whinging well" for about six months before finally being diagnosed with a life threatening disease. I'd been ill for six months before that but hadn't wanted to be seen to be whingeing.

Even the doctors gave me the impression they thought I was whingeing. In fact they had fucked up spectacularly.

It didn't help that my issues were "personal". So I should have shut up because my serious health problems offend your delicate little ears? So I should have lied about why I was unable to manage the smallest task?

How preposterous.

weneedtoleave

did the OP mean shut up to doctors?
no.
why did you even post that? of course you're meant to tell the bloody doctors about it!!!

Seriously though, we all know what OP means.

When I go to my friends home and her Mum is there looking miserable, I know I am going to get a rundown on the latest round of specialists she has been to.

She has been "seriously ill" for about 50 years.

Or my DS's MIL who gives you the complete rundown on every medication she is taking. How do they remember the names?

They must spend all day co-ordinating their medication.

I mean this in as a helpful suggestion. If they are chronically ill, find them a support group. Ton's of them on line. That is why they exist, for people to be able to vent about this kind of daily feeling like crap without feeling a burden to other peoples ears.

I have a pita freind who i swear is a hypochindriac! I think she reads medical dictionaries and decided what todays illness will be.
Her back hurts, she's all swollen up, her throats sore, she's lost her voice,she's CONSTANTLY tired,more tired than you or I could EVER be, and i can't be doing with it, I've had cancer, came close to death a few times, so I REALLY cant do with it!! The crux of the matter is, as the dr's tell her when she decides to attempt to get an actual professional opinion, she is VERY overweight. But its not her fault Because she 'never eats',but thats a whole other thread

chickydee I work with someone just like that. Except she "mirrors" other peoples illnesses. For example a new girl started that has diabetes, the hyperchondriac girl then started banging on about her blood sugar being low etc. The managers partner has something very similar to CF and has to have IV every 2 months, she then complains that she has a lung problem and cant breathe properly... and so on and so on.
It can get very tiresome.

Im the opposite. If there is something wrong with me, I shut up about it until I keal over!

my uncle had prostrate cancer - we were all terribly worried etc etc but there are boundaries.

he took dh and i out to dinner and described in great detail about his swollen purple member. i can't look at a buddleia in flower in quite the same way ever since.

Nothing, but nothing, is so tedious as listening to people bang on about their intolerances, their wheat bloat, the cramps caused by dairy, the finicky details of their faddy diets.

I'm sorry if they feel ill, want attention, want to be important, actually have a life-threatening illness. But I still don't need to know the crushingly dull details of their bowel movements, what they can or can't ingest without lovingly-detailed consequences.

I feel better now.

Good lord Bariatric, that is truly hideous

@ bariatricobama

OP, YANBU - there's always one isn't there who doesn't just have a sore tummy with period pains, but is wailing on the floor, her nails desperately climbing at the walls, hair matted to her damp for'ead - children weep when they see her and cats seek out a quiet place to die. They don't have headaches, they have migraines which stop worlds turning.

Oh and as for the low-blood sugar one - once ended up on a day out with the most infuriating man. n.b., I did not invite him! Anyway, he was one of those who wailed continuously about his problems - blood sugar crashed - ate 2 doughnuts, high as a kite for 20 minutes, crashed, sweeties, high, crashed, ad nauseum - all feckin' day!

Hmmn, I see a career for myself as a doctor's receptionist.

My mother really needs to look at this thread.
Of course I'm sympathetic if someone is genuinely worried or distressed, and I quite like a bit of "gore talk" in the right situation, but some people need to know that banging on and on about their cold/twisted ankle/constipation is right up there with competitive tiredness in the conversation-killing stakes.

There, I feel better now.

YANBUatall...it seems to be some kind of competitive poorly-ness thing (won't even drama it up by calling it illness)
Sore throat/tummyache sort of stuff.
People have too much time on their hands and being poorly makes them feel more important and justifies their FB updates.

they get right on my fucking nerves too....and i am a nurse.

sniff, have i told you about my knees after my death plunge yesterday??

sniff

and house prices too and directions!

YAWN.

Feel for you Herbietea.
My DM has been complaining of ill helath for the last year, on top of her MS, Diabetes, Arthritis etc. Constant colds, mouth ulcers etc etc, I'm always sympathetic as i actually care, about her and others who are ill.
Turns out she has 2 or more serious conditions on top of her existing problems, took 12m of docs visits then 3 trips to hospital to sort out.
Many would have thought her a malingering whinger and maybe started a bitchfest like this one.
Personally I'm just glad she's alive and will help her all I can in future as she is repeatedly struck down with virus after virus due to Multiple Autoimmune Sydrome. (Often classed as whingers untill a very difficult and time consuming diagnosis is eventualy made.)

Someone i know is like this about her pregnancy.

Yes i know she's having a rough one but ffs i do not need to hear in detail about every fucking twinge, pain, expelled fluid and feeling of pressure she experiances. Lots of us have had horrible pregnacies and not felt the need to whine incessantly.

I've taken to avoiding her

Was having coffee the other day with friends and as everyone turned up we did the usual 'how're things?' 'ah, fine' ritual... one woman turned up and was asked how she was and replied 'now, do ye want me to answer that honestly?'.... she was greated with a chorus 'oh good god no, i'm fine will cover it!'. We then started discussing what would happen if everyone started telling the truth when asked how they are... we came to the conclusion people would simply stop asking!

are you OK herbietea?

YABU! It's attitudes like the OP's and many others that make people suffer in silence and maybe not seek help for fear of being told they are malingerers. Sometimes it can be left for too long till it's too late.
Herbietea, don't know you, but I'm here to talk if you need it. Have an un-mumsnet type hug.