for getting really p****ed off with my MIL acting as if my DS is a clone of her DS

[girlafraid]

I guess they all do this, don't they? DS is a clone of my DH apparently and their side of the family, nothing he does can possibly have anything to do with me and he looks nothing like me at all blah blah.

I get myself involved in rather undignified moments whenever she says anything pointing out that I did have something to do with him too. We had a quite frankly ridiculous discussion recently where she suggested that DNA is not always passed on 50/50. I kid you not.

Should I be gracious and let her talk, after all she is a mad old bag dear old lady?
Or continue to seethe with irritation every time I'm forced to spend time with her

Oh my god, PIL came round yesterday and were talking to DS2 6mo saying "if you had blonde curly hair you'd look just like Gdad did" I just laughed and didn't say anything. But then they were looking at his eyes and asking what colour they were (most of their family have dark brown eyes) I say oh they're bluey grey. In response to this MIL says "oh wow he must get that from DP's GGG Gdad! I just looked at her and said "so my genes had nothing to do with his making then as my eyes are exactly the same colour!" I was actually laughing as I said it cos I remembered reading this thread the day before!It's the same with DS1 they just seem to have someone in the family who looks exactly like both of them!

Yet more anti-inlaw ranting.

Can't you just smile and let them have their moment? It's said with love, after all.

It's funny how genetics work.

When my DGC are with my side of the family you can see the similarities between all the children.

Equally when they are with paternal side of the family the same thing applies." Coralanne I was just thinking the exact same thing.

My mil is the same to the point that when my first ds was born, he looked like dh, then when he obviously didn't look like dh he looked like dh's twin brother (which he didn't). And I used to hate it, partly because dh's brother was a little odd but partly because he very obviously looked like me and mine . Then when dd was born she apparently looked exactly like mil cue the millions of pictures being dragged out of mil when she was young. I got over it when I realised I was just being jealous! I wanted dd's to look like me, just like me, a clone of me (well the good parts anyway). But as Coralanne says, when the lo's are around dh's family you can see the family resemblance loads, but when they are around my family, they look exactly like mine! They have genetic features of both families and it's lovely when they are playing with their cousins (on either side) and they all look alike, nobody stands out or looks odd. That is what families are about, no?

And as Cadelaide says, let them have their moment, it doesn't really do any harm. And I reckon when the dc's get bigger they will love hearing how much they belong. I wonder, does anybody mind if it is their own mother saying how much lo's look like you?

Thanks damnedchilblains

Although I once attended a function at a friend's home. Another family there who I didn't know.

They had 4DC and I commented that the second eldest didn't look like the other 3.

Mum rplied "that's because she's adopted".

That was 10 years ago and I don't think I've commented on any DC's resembling anyone since.

sometimes i feel happy my inlaws are in germany.

!!

and i am not.