to LOATHE whispering by kids

[SuSylvester]

my kids dont whisper.
i find whispering really reall annoying and odd and sly.
whos tarted this whispering thing?
ds's mate whispered to him in the back of the car
i saiad " oi we dont whisper"
its so
vile

Agree. And even when its children it makes you paranoid.

I hate it too. Dd has a friend who does that and dd then carries it on. Pah.

i said something similar last time the friend was with us!!!!

He was prob saying he fancied you. He must go for the stern older woman thing

i agree. dd's best friend is all about the whispering. her mother told me it was a developmental stage adn made me feel guilty.

yanbu. My own DD keeps whispering to me because she's shy. Or is just shy about what she wants to say.
But it is rude to company, and I'd like her to stop.
I don't think she whispers with anyone else though.

It's a stage some people never grow out of. I used to work with two adults who were constantly whispering away to each other. I was getting a bit paranoid, until they started whispering to me too and it was always about something totally innocuous like what they were having for lunch. I really used to feel like saying 'what's with the whispering.' Adults should have enough sense to realise how rude and unsettling this is for the people around them.

lol @ adults whispering about lunch. that would drive me mad

Or maybe what they are saying is none of your business?

Rockbird

If people in an office want to have a private conversation, do you not think they should go out of the room, instead of constantly standing around whispering. That is just plain rude in my book.

I am a rotten mum, I won't tolerate whispering. it is sly and can be nasty. My dd, although a very strong character is easily led. Her and a friend were being horrible about another girl. They were whispering just loudly enough that the left out child could hear her name being mentioned but not make out details. I was furious, I told them both that if they couldn't include LOG they shouldn't talk about her. DD's friends tend to dislike me. A lot.

lol
this was a teeny kid
i hate it

I hate it, one of the rules in my CM setting is

No whispering, if you cant say it aloud, you shouldn't be saying it at all.

Maybe there is no other room? Where I work there are schoolchildren in all rooms and corridors constantly (not a school). Should they go to the loos?

If people are in a car with you, should they stop it and get out? That's just silly. You're just being nosey

My son has speech issues and often whispers to me when out in public. He finds it difficult to form words and sounds.

I would never tell him to stop and he would be mortified if a stranger asked him to stop, it would probably set him back months too.

If you know the child, I guess theres a place for it, but if you dont, please think on.

I think adults whispering would set me on edge too !

lol at usual mn finding excpetions

normal kids wiht no issues abotu speech

dont need to whisper

Rockbird

They were doing this every single day. There was a corridor outside with seats on it. And yes, if I wanted to talk in private about something and there was nowhere else, I would go out to the ladies. If I was in a car with someone I would wait until we'd got out. Why is feeling paranoid and uncomfortable when two people who are in a room with you are constantly whispering to each other being 'nosey'? I wasn't interested in what they were saying, I was worrying that they might be talking about me. {angry].

grr
why cnat people just agree

Or even.

I think there are some children who enjoy whispering, even if it's not about something secretive, because they like the drama! But I agree you need to know the child doesn't have a speech problem before getting judgey about this kind of thing.

We have a friend of DD's who can be a bit catty at times and she insists on whispering all the time.

I always say to her that there's no need to whisper. If she and my daughter can't say what they need to say out loud in front of me or their mums then perhaps they shouldn't be saying it at all.

I can easily see this other girl being a whisperer when she's grown up...not because I don't like her, but because she's just a whispery kind of girl. You never know, though...she might grow out of it (you've got to hope so anyway!)

God yes, dd's friend does this a lot and it really infuriates me, especially as she looks slyly at me at the same time to see if I'm listening.

The mother of one of my dd's friends from gymnastics always speaks to me in a whisper. We get paranoid looks from other mums, even though we are usually just discussing pretty boring things, and they can hear my part of the conversation. It was all very conspiratorial and a bit strange, for a long time I used to assume she had a problem with her throat. Her dd, meanwhile, always speaks in a very very loud clear penetrating voice.

Overall, YANBU.

Better than shouting/screaming kids.

I detest whispering. I can never quite make out what people are saying to me. I get very ratty with DC when they whisper to eachother, they are young enough though to believe me when I say I know exactly what they are whispering at all times because I have super ears.

And when one of my DDs gets shy and whispers in my ear she deposits half a litre of saliva all over my ear as well. Blerrughgh.

eh? It never, ever occurred to me to object to whispering.

I mean yes, extreme whispering as in never speaking normally or conducting lenghty conversations in a whisper- weird. But to categorically oppose whispering?

Either I am failing to abide to another parenting tenet I knew nothing about- which makes me a Bad Mum. Or YABU.

I think I'll go with YABU.