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Original poster

to be not sure about taking a free holiday?

52 replies

loolop · 14/03/2010 19:14

Found out last week that I have won a holiday through work for my performance last year which is fantastic. Big but is that it is for two people and cannot add children. It is a European city break 3 nights away and am just not sure about leaving dd (3) for that long. It cannot be transferred so can't give it away and would be wasted if me and dp didn't go. My mum is happy to have dd and they are v.close so think dd would be okay. Would be lovely to spend some time with dp but still. So aibu not to go or am I being a bit precious??

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 14/03/2010 19:16

Go.

AshleyFanjo · 14/03/2010 19:16

Go - you will have wonderful time and so will your DD.

Lulumaam · 14/03/2010 19:17

you are , forgive me, being a bit precious

3 days is not a long time, and if she is with a close and loving grandparent, it would be lovely and fulfilling for both of them

you can relax and enjoy and have some time away, safe in teh knowledge your LO is being taken good care of

3 days away will do you all a lot of good and be a positive experiene all round

SuperSmartMum · 14/03/2010 19:17

I think you have just made up this whole scenario to attract attention.

Jog on.

Ewe · 14/03/2010 19:17

Go.

Don't waste a free holiday, it's only 3 nights, your DD will probably have a fantastic time with her Grandma!

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 14/03/2010 19:19

go, you can always leave late on the day you leave and arrive back early if you want to make it shorter. But go, she'll love being spolit
well done btw

AnyFucker · 14/03/2010 19:22

SSM...do you know something the rest of us don't ?

OP...go on the holiday

monkeyfacegrace · 14/03/2010 19:24

SSM, I was thinking the same as Anyfucker. I really hope so, otherwise wow, what a bitch.

venusonarockbun · 14/03/2010 19:24

Lisad - Will the op not be flying? Its a European city break. If so how could she choose her time of leaving and coming back?

ruddynorah · 14/03/2010 19:26

go!

Original poster
loolop · 14/03/2010 19:27

Thanks all was really excited to hear about it at first but then a few 'oooh that's a long time to leave dd' comments made me think. Dp is def up for it! We'll still do a week in Cornwall/devon with dd so she won't 'miss out' on a family holiday.

Supersmartmum-why would I make it up?!

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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 14/03/2010 19:28

Go! It's not a long time to leave a 3yo with her GPs. Have a lovely time!

AnyFucker · 14/03/2010 19:28

loolop

3 days isn't that long really...you must take the opportunity

she will be fine with gp's to fuss over her

LittleSilver · 14/03/2010 19:33

Have a lovely time, and well done!

SuperSmartMum · 14/03/2010 19:37

loolop - It's either made up or you just posted it to get across to everyone just how much you love your child and feel oh so guilty about leaving it for three days - when you and I both know, you're going to be 'persuaded' by the other mums on here to go on the holiday.

If it's not made up, it's posted to make other mums feel bad - mums who leave their kids for longer breaks or need to leave them for work reasons.

Either way - it's a shameful post and hopefully will make you think next time

threeandcounting · 14/03/2010 19:59

Hmmmm.....

Go!

I posted a similar question last year as i had the opportunity to go away for a week...

Nearly everyone said go..i did feel really guilty, but went and had a great time!

Go! Go! Go! If your mum can look after dd you should go and really enjoy yourself!

Hope you have a great time!

QOD · 14/03/2010 20:04

SSmum - appropriate name........

I just won a holiday for 2 from work for the same (am I making that up?) - but took the easy option and am going with my bestest friend WAHOOOO winners all round!

In your situation Loolop I wouldn't have taken it when dd was 3 because she didn't do (and still doesn't) sleepovers, so we wouldn't have been able to leave her.

If she is happy with Nanny, then enjoy - you deserve it - SHE is in a safe comfortable, familiar environment, not being taken to a foreign country and unfamiliar surroundings.

Aaaachoooo · 14/03/2010 20:05

Bloody hell SuperSmartMum, someone got out of bed the wrong side today. Had a shit Mothers' Day have you? Any by the way, want to enlighten us as to how you chose your nickname?

glastocat · 14/03/2010 20:06

SuperSmartMum, maybe she is just looking for opinions? I don't see anything shameful about her post at all.

And of course you should go.

Original poster
loolop · 14/03/2010 20:08

SSM considering your other threads am going to ignore but suffice to say I did not intend in any way to make anyone feel bad and hope that I haven't.

Thank you 3andcounting - know we will enjoy if we go,it will be strange to be just 'a couple' again for a few days...!

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AnyFucker · 14/03/2010 20:09

SSM appears to have started a campaign of stupid posts around MN today

all deliberately inflammatory

'tis best to ignore

Portofino · 14/03/2010 20:10

Go! Your dd will have a fab time being spoiled by Granny.

Original poster
loolop · 14/03/2010 20:11

QOD you don't work for a high street bank do you??!

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thehillsarealive · 14/03/2010 20:15

loolop - GO, relax, enjoy yourself and if your mum is happy to have DD and DD is happy to be with your mum it is a done deal.

I have left my children before with my parents at our house for the occasional weekend away and even SHOCK HORROR a whole week once! Have to say that by day 4 I was ready to come home, missed the children so much but it really made me appreciate them all the more.

I have also gone away for a weekend with my best friend and DH looked after the kids. havent done that for a loooooong time.

anyway... GO GO GO

Alambil · 14/03/2010 20:16

naah, 3 days isn't long - it's a weekend, really. Leave on the Friday and home on the Sunday; unless it's three nights, of course... but still, it's not long

I bet DD will barely miss you (from having so much fun, not from not loving you!)