to cry in the middle of Sainsburys.... :(

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or AIBU to think I'm not a totally crap mummy??

DS2 is 3 weeks old, after "one of those mornings" with my toddler and newborn, I dropped my toddler of with my aunt and took DS2 for a blood test as he is still a bit jaudance. He was a bit upset during the blood test but had a good feed afterwards and was fine.

Taking advantage of having just DS2 with me, I quickly went into Sainsburys chemist to get some cream for the piles from hell .

Whilst waiting to pay, DS2 had a little cry and the lady behind me said "that baby needs feeding, you mothers now adays, he should be a home"

With that I burst into tears, said he wasn't hungry and was a bit cross after a blood test.......she then tore me to shreads " a blood test!" On and on she went.

So I cried, left my pile cream and cried all the way back to the car looking totally stupid in front of everyone!

Oh and then I couldn't get the car seat in the car as I had been boxed in, so poor little one had to be lifted over the front seat. AH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Should I have gone straight home from the hospital??? Was a being a crap parent??

What a total miserable excuse of an old lady. Sour mouthed old hag.

I can't see anything in what you wrote that in anyway suggests you could possibly be a crap mother.

And yes you can have a small glass of wine when breast feeding. How long between feeds? Alchol will leave your breast milk at the same rate it leaves you bloodstream - which is one unit per hour after you have stopped drinking.

In otherwords if you have a small glass of wine (under the 12.5% mark) just after feeding and you then take an hour to drink it and then it's two hours before the next feed there will be on alchol passed on.

That make sense

I hope you see that nosey, interfering, bored old bitch again one day when you haven't got piles, have 2 happy children with you, you are smiling and have had a really good night's sleep and I hope you will tell her to fuck off.

Chin up love. We have all been there.

Of course YANBU. You are being a fabulous mummy.

So many of us have had similar experiences, I don't know why these stupid rude old cows think they have the right to mouth off. I hope she's feeling like shit.

It's your decision re the wine - but I certainly had a big glass every now and then when bf. And I think you deserve it, especially given the crap day you've had!

Try and forget about it now

Big hug

Good job I wasn't there. I laid into a nasty old harridan last week who was doing much the same to a young mum struggling with a crying new baby. Told her to mind her own business and stop being such a bully and a know-it-all.

She did that thing when they look all around as if to say "Can you all hear how I'm being spoken to by this young guttersnipe??" but sadly had no sympathy from anyone.

Happened to me in the lift at the hospital last week, my little one snarked slightly and some women said "Oh she's uncomfortable". Like, "how the hell would you know??!"

Sometimes babies cry and sometimes people feel the need to chip in and and offer their stupid comments wisdom. Tis the way of the world, you sound like a great mum OP. Give yourself a break and ignore them!

You poor love.

Taking a young baby out and about is a perfectly reasonable thing to do and will help them build their immune system.

How are you feeling now - any better? Do talk to your health visitor if you feel down. The early days with two babies can be wonderful but it can also be overwhelming.

That woman sounds not all there - how can anyone comment on anyone taking a baby to a chemist.

Remember it's not typical, most people are kind and lovely. I was in M&S once, and I had left it late to feed DD and she was crying and all the old ladies in the queue ushered me to the front (making all the youger people move) saying they remembered what it was like. Bless.

You poor thing she had no right to speak to you like that!
No you are definately not a crap mummy and actually the walk in sunlight would have done his jaundice the world of good .I guess hormones are still playing their dreaded part so crying is nothing to be ashamed of. The woman should be thoroughly ashamed though

OMG am so for you. What a nosey, rude cow. How dare she tell you what you should be doing and when.

I am at that womans behaviour, what a rude nosy $%&"£@ she is. No you sound like a lovely mum dont let that one b$%^&h put you off. I would have handed her the pile cream and said to her the pile cream and said hey thats to put in your mouth

sorry rephrase, i would have handed her the pile cream and told her thats to put in her mouth as she is in more need of it.

Wish that i was there for you i would have given her some

what a bitch. You need some teaq and biscuits.

please just put it down to a bad day. you're not a crap mum atall, just forget about people like that nosey bint at Sainsbury's. Poor you

Get yourself a cup of tea or something, and a huge bar of chocolate. that will help after the day you've had.

[hugs] [hugs] [hugs] hopefully little one has settled down now and is letting you get some well-earned down time

if it is any consolation, no one who was really happy and contented with their life would bother to say things like that. poor bitter old bag.

Was about to post exactly what MrsBadger said.

That woman was a rude old bitch and 3 weeks post partum is hard enough without things like piles and blood tests to deal with.

What an awful old witch. Raging olds are quite shocking. So much in the media about sink estate yoofs but I find the rise in abusive wrinklies quite eyebrow raising. I am not joking. I was laid into by one last week, f*ing and blinding at me in front of my 3 and 6 yos. Because I opened my car door for 3 seconds and didn't notice her.

I have no doubt that you are a much better mother than an old bag like that.

Much empathy.

YANBU but don't judge that lady. Terribly unkind remarks here.

She could be one of our special needs kids 70 years on

Very bad luck on coming across this crazed loon.

Got upbraided myself for ds crying at a checkout. Woman kept going on about she hated to see babies too hot. He was crying because the pram had stopped and babies go red faced when they cry. Grr even now.

Much sympathy but don't let her scare you off.

Have a glance at the special needs board. Mums concerned that their autistic kids' are being misunderstood.

What do you think happens to these kids when they reach old age?

The lack of compassion here is astounding

No jasper. She was a rude old cow who was mean to a tearful mother with a baby.
I couldn't care less what her problems are.

The only lack of compassion was from the old lady.

It seems far more likely to me that this was an opinionated and rude old lady who made a young mum cry. I reserve my sympathy and compassion for the OP, jasper.

YANBU horrible old trout!

double standards.

don't be so ridiculous jasper.

what a nasty old weevil - she probably spends all day wandering around sainsbo's hacking people off.

she doesn't know what the fuck she's on about

Bollocks. I really hate the "oh, but you don't know her. Her dog might have just died" attitude you get on Mumsnet.

There's no excuse for rudeness.