to be cross with DH for waking sleeping DS at 6am to change his wet bed?

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DS is rising four and just started going nappyless at night, on his instigation. 3 dry nights but last night was a sog-fest. Bed was wet when we came up - changed it - then he arrived in our room at 1.30am with wet pyjamas - changed those ...

At 6am DH wakes to find DS sleeping peacefully in the middle of our bed, in a large puddle! I also asleep. DH lifts DS out, changes pyjamas, changes bedsheet - thus and inevitably to my mind waking DS up thoroughly and with no chance of him getting any more sleep before the alarm goes off at 7!

Was I BU to feel it would have been far better to let him (and us) get an extra hour's sleep, albeit in damp conditions? He's been very tired since starting nursery class 5 mornings. Or am I a hopeless slut?

Should add that I would never leave a child in a wet bed/ wet nappy for extended periods - if bed was wet during the night and he's asleep, would always lift, change and settle him to sleep again. And if DS wakes with a wet bed/ wet nappy, will ALWAYS change and make him comfortable. It's just that 6am is the witching hour when if he wakes, there is NO chance of getting him off again.

Thoughts appreciated!

I'd applaud your DHs initiative to change the bed.

6 is 'morning' anyway.

Agree with Kif. I wouldn't of wanted to continue sleeping in wee soaked bed.

I would have done the same as your DH, definitely got him up and changed the bed.

I would have probably left him too, but I doubt your DP thought it through extensively. Probably now realizes it was a mistake, so move on?

Instinctively, you'd change the sheets..... Seems wrong to leave a child sleeping in cold pee, but I can deffo see why it would have been better to leave him in this case.

I wouldn't make a big thing of this - he won't be wetting the bed forever. Good time to pick your battles.

YABU. Six isn't too early.

Why would you want to lie in piss until 7 am?

I would have been annoyed if I woke at 7am and DP said he knew it was all wet and he just left it.

I'm with you. An hour's more sleep always better.

I posted before I had seen anyone else's posts and am surprised!

It's not poisonous or hurting the child. Now he'll be exhausted and cranky all day? As soon as he woke up he would have been changed?

yabu, for expecting dh to lie in cold piss, sounds like the poor sod can't do anything right !

And 6am IS morning in this house!!

Hmm, is a judgement call either way. I would have done either depending on how knackered I was, but I don;t think any harm is done in the long run either way.
Sympathy to you though - my DS is 5.6 and still has a wet night every now and again.

6am is a lie in for us, so it wouldnt have bothered me in the slightest, but I can see both sides.

I would be annoyed had DH known and left it for me to deal with, but on the other hand an extra hour of sleep is priceless!

Move on and forget me thinks.

A tip for night wetting - triple layer his bed.... waterproof sheet, cotton sheet, waterproof sheet, cotton sheet etc and then when wet ones happen, strip off a layer, change PJs and hey presto - done! No faffing around in the middle of the night changing beds!

Personally, if I discovered DC in a wet bed on my way up to bed, I would have put nappy on child and tried again the next night without nappy, changed bed.

If I discovered child in own wet bed at 6am but sleeping soundly I would ensure child had blanket on and let them sleep on.

If child peed in my bed and I discovered at 6am I would also get up and change bed.

Everyone is different.

YABU, What did you expect your dh to do, leave him to lie on his own piss!

An hour more sleep in a bed damp with wee sounds pretty grim. 6am is not particularly early - and all of you lying in wee is quite horrid. Your husband is a very sensible man.

he made a parenting decision that you don't agree with. To be 'cross' about it, you have to think that your way is the best way. He just did it differently.

Oh, and if I were you I'd go back to nappies at night. They can't go through until their brains are ready for it, and it looks as if your ds isn't ready yet.

YABU - your DS is going to have to learn to wake up and use the loo if he needs a wee at whatever hour, so he'll have to learn to settle down again if this happens to be at 6am.

I'd be delighted to have a DH who'd deal with this. I think if this had happened to us DH would have woken me to do the cleaning up and retired to the spare bedroom himself.

Yuck, I think most people would prefer clean dry bed/kid.

YABU.

I'm on your dh's side. It's what I would have done. 6am not that early. And is miserable and bleurgh to be lying in pee-y bed. OK for you since you hadn't woken up. But if this happened in my bed, and it was me that woke up, I would have done the same as your dh.

tbh I think that if your ds is weeing three times in the night he's not ready to be dry at night and I'd go back to nappies.

YABvU, I'd be furious with dh if he noticed we (or our dcs) were sleeping in a wet bed at any point and decided not to do anything about it. FWIW, I would also expect my dc's to go back to bed/sleep at 6am and either sleep or wait quietly until the rest of the family wake up at 7.30, regardless of how awake they were.

Yabu.
If they are wet, change them. I find it pretty disgusting that you would be happy to sleep in a piss soaked bed tbh.

YABU, had he just peed? Was your DH wet? I would have been deeply gratefull to be woken and not have to wake in a cold puddle of wee.

6 is not that early, and your mattress will have soaked right through in another hour ick.

Well, tbh, I think YABU. I would be grateful that DH had done this, so I could get the morning rush underway without having to deal with stripping a wet bed as well! Could you not have crept into another dry bed for a snuggle with him for half an hour if he was still tired? (ds that is- not DH!)

I hate the idea of them lying in urine- and no way could I lie in a urine soaked bed! I'd have been up anyway!

Well done to your DH, least he wouldnt leave a child in a puddle of piss, how disgusting.