To be fed up with peoples reaction to me having 3 dds.

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I am so fed up with people telling me that because I have 3 girls my life is going to be terrible when they get older and they will be ghastly.
I have lost count of the number of people who have said such things and so has dh it is so annoying. Does this happen to anyone else or just me?
I love my girls and I am looking forward to whatever my life is like with them.

YANBU. think people probably get the same reaction if they have 3 (or more) of either sex.

If you have boys and no girls you get the same sort of thing.

Best thing to do is to give them your best face and say "I love my girls and I'm very happy with them, thank you very much."

Well, they are obviously tactless wallies, but I think people often spout this nonsense just to make chitchat. I don't think they really mean it! (Still irritating though).

YANBU some people say stupid things.....

However (adds stupid thing)
Start saving for those weddings now or get a ladder so they can elope

I have a grown up DS and DD, they both bring immense joy to my life as I'm sure your children do. Why do folk assume that if you have all boys or all girls they will all be the same?
People who comment on other peoples families are conversationally challenged.

My dh said to one person (just after dd3) was born and they had asked if he was disappointed that yes he was and we were hoping socila services would take all three so we could just get a dog.

lol

I have 3 boys and have always had people asking me if DH and I are going to have another baby to try and get a girl. YANBU to be irritated but it goes with the territory I think.
Just laugh it off with your best teeth-gritted-can-you-see-I'm-making-the-effort-to-smile-even-though-I-have-heard-this-a-thousand-
times face

I had dd3 7 weeks ago....we've had a few comments about the amount of hormones that will be flying around, how my Dh is outnumbered, the cost of weddings etc...but none of these comments were serious or malicious...jsut people making small talk and conversation...

I always tell everyone I'd have had no idea what to do with a boy anyway..!

I have 4 boys and hear 'least you dont have to worry about them getting pregnant'

I have 4 kids 1 boy 3 girls and I get the same.. when I just had the 2 girls I got told Double trouble all the time I used to plaster a huge big smile on my face and respond twice the joy.. now when I get told you have your hand fulls I respond similary yes isnt it wonderful? am I not blessed? or if I get old rather you than me I respond oh I fully agree I am very happy with my 4 beautiful children.

kinda takes the wind out of the insult

I have 3 boys and people tend to make pitiful comments.

You need to perfect your best 'Fuck-Off-And-Die' look.

I don't always buy the 'making conversation' excuse as when I am sat on the bus with them or something, minding my own business/looking out the window with them or something and someone INTERRUPTS me to make such a comment, it does piss me off.

3DDs are utterly fab so much so we wanted to have another but lo and behold DD4 is a DS (we are still in shock).

We have had all the comments too about DP building a shed to lock them up in etc. Children are children and all have their individual traits, I don't think one sex is necessarily easier.

And look at all the threads on here about Mums of only boys getting all the pitying looks.

Would it make you feel better to know that I, for one, would LOVE to have 3 children, regardless of gender?

People can be unintentionally rude. This is one of those occasions. Then again are these women saying this? Are they saying that as a teen they were god awful? Did they terrorise their mums? Have their hormones not calmed down enough to stop them spouting the first thing that comes to mind? ;)

We have 4 dds, 2 of whom are now teens and yes we have had these kind of comments over the years. Take it all with a pinch of salt.

Life is certainly not terrible infact they are all fab and great company for me. I wouldnt change them for the world.

One point though... there is one week in the month where there is rather an excess of hormones and dh tends to steer clear!

I prayed our 3rd DC was going to be another girl. I was blessed again! DDs rock.

I have 4 boys and I get "oooh, you have your hands full there" and "will you go again for the girl?" comments all the time. I really think people don't realise how much it grates as I can't believe so many people would be deliberately horrible.
I did have to comment myself once though when we all got into a lift in IKEA and there was a family of 4 girls! The Mum and I decided we would have to come to an arrangement!

Ah I get the same with 4 boys

'you must be mad'

'Were you just trying for a girl, love'

@ooh you know once they marry they;'re gone for good' (I usually point out that statistically ds1 and ds3 are unlikely to marry, SN, so i'm on a winner there LOL- there's no real reply to that is there? )

(Waves at Chipmonkey, clues erm April 08 )

I have 4 dd's and get all the comments about we must have been trying for a boy and poor outnumbered dp etc etc, my sil has 4 ds's and gets the comments about never having a girl.

TBH you get the same type of thing if you've got one of each! When DS was born people kept saying to DH 'bet you're glad you've got a boy so you can do lots of things together'. DH just replied 'I hope I will get chance to do lots of things with BOTH my children'. People seem to presume that DH is ecstatic to have a boy and I am ecstatic to have a girl. They seem to miss the fact that we are all one family, not just 2 pairs of child/parent!

I'm quite looking forward to my two dds growing up to see how they interact with each other and just how much they can wrap dh round their little fingers!!

I am already preparing for dh's mid life crisis when they get to their teen years!