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to be annoyed that teacher says there is no such thing as fairies?

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BusyMummyof3 · 01/03/2010 19:42

DD is in reception and she has come home saying that her teacher has told her that there are no such thing as fairies! She's only 4.5 and what about the tooth fairy - that's real. I know because the tooth fairy used to visit me!

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lolapoppins · 01/03/2010 19:45

We had the opposite problem in the kindergarten ds went to.

rainbowinthesky · 01/03/2010 19:46

I would be more annoyed if dd's teacher told her they were real.

KimiGaveUpStarbucks4Lent · 01/03/2010 19:47

Does she not know a fairy will drop down dead now she has said that

I do believe in fairies I do I do

Whoamireally · 01/03/2010 19:47

That is SO mean - I don't think it's a teacher's place to dispel any childhood myths

I'd say something if I were you, or your DD will be coming home in December in tears cause her teacher's told her that there's no such thing as Father Christmas - she sounds like the sort that would

southeastastra · 01/03/2010 19:48

that's sad and they are real

ShellingPeas · 01/03/2010 19:49

Of course there are fairies. My 7 yr old DD is going to school for Book Day on Thursday dressed as the Lightning Fairy. Your teacher is misinformed.

ChippingIn · 01/03/2010 19:49

It's a shame when people feel the need to burst kids bubbles... I'd just tell her it's a shame that her teacher doesn't believe there are fairies as she wont have the tooth fairy visit her/do whatever it is she thinks fairies do!

LeQueen · 01/03/2010 19:52

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PortBlacksand · 01/03/2010 19:53

Tell Dd the tooth fairy will come in the night and remove all her teachers teeth...

overmydeadbody · 01/03/2010 19:53

Well my DS's teacher tells him all about God and that she believes in God and angels. Makes no difference to what my DS believes.

Just tell your DD that just becuase her teacher doesn't believ in them doesn't mean they are not real.

It's not a big deal.

said · 01/03/2010 19:54

Is it a faith school or one that mentions god in any form...

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BusyMummyof3 · 01/03/2010 19:55

What's even more confusing is that DD said she wanted to be a mermaid when she grows up and the teacher said that she would have to make sure she practices her swimming in order to be a mermaid! I think the teacher is just discriminating fairies.

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GermanMum101 · 01/03/2010 19:56

I really hate teachers who do this!
My mum had a huge go at my sister's teacher years and years back who thought it would be ok to tell 1st graders that Santa isn't real and that their parents lied to them.

Believing in these nice little things and seeing children's eyes when talking about or being told about fantastic things like this is so nice, I don't see how anyone would want to destroy that.

How did your DD react to that?

KimiGaveUpStarbucks4Lent · 01/03/2010 20:13

I remember a child at DS1s school telling him there was no Santa, (year 1, so 5 years old) DS1 stuck to his guns and said he believed there was, child brings mummy in to it and mummy says, "no you are right only stupid children believe in Santa" so I said equally as loud to DS1 "no you are right but Santa does not visit nasty bad children so their mummy's tell them there is no Santa" She had no answer for that one.

I would rather see a 5 year old girl in a top with a fairy printed on it then one with a playboy bunny, let children have some magic and make believe, they grow up fast enough as it is.

ChippingIn · 01/03/2010 21:14

Kimi - quick thinking - great retort! (You've given up Starbucks for lent?? (All coffee or just SB's??) How's it going??)

Teachers have no place telling children Santa/Fairies/Easter Bunny etc don't exist. They are only little for a short while - where's the harm in a little magic.

I know some people feel it's lying to your children and if you choose not to have those things in your childrens lives that's up to you of course, but it's not for the teacher to decide that.

TrinityIsFuckingTrying · 01/03/2010 21:16

I rhink the teacher is mean and quite dim to do this

BUT

just tell her that oh well your teacher cant enjoy fairies cause she thinks they aren't real, but we know they are

she'll be fine with that

NorrisMcWhirter · 01/03/2010 21:20

That is crap! A child in my class came in from lunch crying because her tooth had fallen out at lunch time, she'd tried to clean it up (for the tooth fairy) and it accidently got washed down the drain. I wrote a very serious note to the tooth fairy saying that 'matilda' had lost her tooth, we were sorry but we hadn't been able to find it but she had definitely had a tooth fall out at school that day' best wishes Mrs McWhirter. Child went home happy as did I.

TrinityIsFuckingTrying · 01/03/2010 21:20

rainbowinthesky

really?

what is the matter with fairies?

do you not do christmas?
or easter
what happens when her teeth fall out

or is noone allowed to have an imagination?

Joolyjoolyjoo · 01/03/2010 21:22

Aww- what a meanie! As others have said, it is such a short time when children can have magic in their lives- not up to her to try to take it away! My kids wouldn't have believed her anyway- they have been brought up on magic.

Although I did get directed to the "I love my mum because..." wall at dd2's nursery- in among all the "she makes my favourite dinner" and "she gives me cuddles" was my grinning dd and her proclamation that "she has magic powers" I told her that that was a secret too!

TrinityIsFuckingTrying · 01/03/2010 21:24

my kids know I'm magic too

ChippingIn · 01/03/2010 21:24

NorrisMcWhirter - you sound like the kind of teacher most of us dream of our kids having!!

Momma23 · 01/03/2010 21:42

I would be so and if my DDs teacher said somthing like that to her. She loves the whole fairy thing. She even had a visit from the tooth fairy and is still going on about it. It was my DD that convinced my other DD to give her soother to the soother fairy AND SHE DID!! Fairies are wonderful and that teacher was bang out of order!!
I really dont see why kids have to grow up so quickly, god knows they will be long enough doing grown up things...

NorrisMcWhirter · 01/03/2010 21:49

Thanks Chipping!

TrinityIsFuckingTrying · 01/03/2010 21:50

I think you're fab too norris
I would be beyond angry if a teahcer did this to my kids

she could have been non commital if she is so weird she doesn't beleive in magic

she didn;t have to crush a kids imagination

OneTwoBuckleMyShoe · 01/03/2010 21:51

I teach middle school and wouldn't dare tell the children anything like this, children grow up so fast as it is, plus a bit of magic and imagination never hurt anyone.

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