to be annoyed that teacher says there is no such thing as fairies?

[BusyMummyof3]

DD is in reception and she has come home saying that her teacher has told her that there are no such thing as fairies! She's only 4.5 and what about the tooth fairy - that's real. I know because the tooth fairy used to visit me!

Trinity has the right idea - tell your DD that the teacher can't see fairies because only those who believe can see.

You do know they're not real, though, don't you?

yes I know they are not real but what harm does it do

if you live in a magic family then you gradually just realise that it isn't real but you remember the fun...

surely me remembering that I had a dragon on the top of my mums car that came with us shopping but didn't like to go to the beach cause it was cold cant do me harm

it just makes me feel happy and remember fun with my mum and that we have imaginations

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I am loving your imaginative childhood, trinity! had one of those too- my dad killed a troll once who stole my ball after it rolled down a gully. Now I too am a fully trained monster assassin

And I was always trying to peer through my mum's hair to see the eyes in the back of her head- and now my dd's do the same

Bloss, your post has really scared me. Our dd is 8.10 and still believes in father christmas, the tooth fairy and fairies in general. She has never lived in the UK and I think that children overseas are much more naive than those in the UK.
We are moving to Antwerp in July and I am worried that she will stick out a bit so I am having an internal debate about whether to prick her bubble or leave it.
OP, you are not being unreasonable. I would have been fuming.

Yes, I do the whole fairy/fatherchristmas thing. I guess I posted thinking of a recent convo dd and I had. She'd had a discussion with a girl at school and the girl's view point was that fairies were real and dd had told her they weren't and asked me if she was right. I told her she was right and they dont exist. Makes no difference though to next time she loses a tooth.

What Trinity said, all of it

Oh dear.

I have already told my 4-year-old that fairies are just pretend. It doesn't stop us having lots of fun talking about them, playing games about them, reading stories about them, etc.

But she sometimes asks me about whether or not things are real (eg monsters, dinosaurs, trolls). It just never occurred to me to distort reality when it came to this particular category of mythological creatures.

To be honest, I don't think I have blighted her enjoyment of her childhood so far.

Oh, why can't people allow a little joy and wonder?! It's such a shame when the mysteries of life are all explained. I teach teenagers, they're such a cynical bunch!

My grandpa could talk to the magic ice cream man and make ice cream appear It's a family tradition now and hope my dd will believe in him when she is old enough. But there can't have been many other children believing in a magic ice cream man - don't know if we just never talked about it or everyone was nice enough just to agree with us.

When I taught Year 3 (7-8yrs) we'd have a discussion on whether FC was real... How else did I get my presents? This was before I was married and after I'd left home so I lived alone. Everything they suggested I had an argument for ("Your parents bring them" - "No, they live 3 hours' drive away and don't have a key" etc) so by the end of the discussion you could see them thinking 'Hmmm'...

I never gave them a definitive answer, but gave both 'sides' reasons to think they might be right.

when i was younger i went to a catholic school where i was taught by nuns. when i was six one of the nuns told me that father christmas does not exist. we should refer to him as st nicholas or not at all.

that was the first time i remember seeing my mother properly lose her temper!