To think FIL is digusting for constantly farting loudly in company?

[Yvonne2010]

He can fart all he likes on his own but is it too much to expect him to show some respect for me and everyone else by not farting around us? I really don't want to breathe and smell air that has up his backside and we aren't talking silent but deadly, these are loud farts. He doesn't have a medical problem and his family say nothing. He is pretty normal in every other way and has a professional job - he just seems to think better out than in. I hate it.

YANBU
minging!

How do you know there is no medical problem? I know someone who farts loudly in company because he is unable to stop it.

very bad manners

I doubt he will stop now, tbh

just cut down the amount of time you spend with him

or pointedly get up and walk out of the room, when he does it ?

who the hell does he think he is ??...it shows a certain level of arrogance to think that the rules of polite behaviour don't aplly to you !

I don't s'pose he cares what you think or he wouldn't do it.

What's he supposed to do? Cross his buttocks? It's a fart. Meh.

He's my FIL, we all know it isn't medical. He should go to the bathroom if he has to.

It's disgusting - I wonder if he manages to hold it in when he's in a meeting, or talking to clients. I bet he does...

Does your DH not mind?

He's an IL. Get your DH to sort it out. Perhaps DH could suggest he goes to the toilet if he can no longer contain himself?

There is of course the worry that if FIL is actually squeezing them out that one day there will be follow-through.

Take action now.

Just because it isn't officially "medical" doesn't mean he can control it, nor should he in his own home.

YABU.

Maybe I should buy a gas mask from eBay and give it to MIL? That would be a big hint :-)

YANBU. If he genuinely can't control it, he should apologise.

YANBU He sounds charming.

But this is when he visits us. DH used to do this but has been house trained now. None of them seem bothered but in my family this is just snout as big a no no as exists.

Oops meant about but snout just about covers it!

snout

I think (I hope ) it's probably a no-no in most families, especially when you are in "company"

Save your soft furnishings! Cover everything with plastic.

That'll be a really good passive-agressive way of making your point

Better an empty house than a lousy tenant.

My Fil and MIL do this - I think a little bit of DH dies every time they do. Highly unpleasant in company.

My mum doesn't have a specific medical problem with this but has a frequent problem with flatulence in the last few years. She does apologise though.

If I were you I would just say 'Lordy, scuse YOU!' in a loud Redcoat type tone, or hold up cards with marks out of ten. Genuinely. Better to make a joke of it than expire choking.

I don't know why, can only assume they have tried and failed in dim and distant past or maybe it really doesn't bother them. DH was told this was a break-up-able offence when he first did that around me back in our dating days so I suppose they grew up with it and don't see the problem???

Good to hear I am not only one who thinks this is manky.

Everytime you get him a cuppa, make it Peppermint tea. Should help

"DH was told this was a break-up-able offence when he first did that around me back in our dating days"

Please tell me he's able to do it now, though?

I manage not to fart around people - have managed it since I was a child and realised it was not a pleasant thing to inflict on anyone else. If I really need to fart I will go to the bathroom.
If you are unable to control it you should apologise quietly afterwards. I have been around elderly relatives who are less able to control wind and a quiet 'excuse me' ensures that nobody thinks twice about it.

If you accidentally burp around people don't you say excuse me? IMO people who flatulise openly around all and sundry have no manners! The only people I tolerate it from are brothers and DH. And I can't say I like it.