to think that my husband might want to go to bed with me..

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..after we have been out for dinner on our own for the first time in months...

Instead he wanted to get back in time for Match of the Day and I went off to bed on my own.

Maybe he's wondering why you wouldn't stay up and watch MotD with him?

NBU if you had been hinting that some nice apres dinner sex was on the cards.
BU if you hadn't given any clues and he had no idea that's what you wanted.

Sometimes you can think you're being all seductive and they really have no idea unless you spell it out.
If you'd have been on your knees in front of him, would he have carried on watching the footie?

maybe he didnt know that dinner = sex

When it comes to football I am used to my weekends activities being dictated by what time the game is on!

However - dont take it personally, I have to constantly remind myself that DH (as a male) has completely different brain wiring to me (as a female) and when he does something like that (often) he genuinley doesnt put much thought into it and it isnt malicious in any way, he just doesnt think the same way as me and it wouldn't occur to him that I would take offence to that.

Its just men, at the end of the day they are very simple creatures and the world would be a much happier place if we just accepted that they are different to us and dont necessarily have the same priorities as us all the time.

Doesnt make it any less frustrating though!!

Hmmm Malificence I suppose I hadnt spelt it out but had just sort of assumed...or hoped he would be thinking the same way as me. If I had really insisted he would have obliged, but who wants to have to twist their dh's arm into having sex!

The thing is he then expects me to be up for sex 1st thing in the morning (at I am NOT a morning gal) just cos he has woken up with a hard on - not very romantic, not very flattering to me, iyswim.

They can't read our minds.

If you wanted a shag you should have jumped on him when you got home or said: "I want a shag". It really is a lot easier to just tell them what you want rather than hinting and then getting upset when they miss the clues.

Well Morloth I did tell him before we went out what I wanted, but said he really wanted to watch football instead cos his team were playing.

Nah, football is football! Expecting sex during MOTD is a big no no. I would have woken him up early the next morning though

Oh, I thought you said you hadn't spelt it out?

I find with DH, I have to spell things out. He wants to make me happy and I want him too as well, so best to just say what it is I am thinking.

Silly man turning down sex for football.

I find it a lot easier to just say to DH 'I am getting me a piece of that pie later on!'

Well I hadnt spelt it out until we were just about to go out, but by then he had already announced he wanted to be home for the football, and then I told him how I had hoped the night would have ended, not in graphic detail but broad brush strokes kind of thing, and he got all sheepish but said he reeeeally had to watch this match

Men! Cant live with them, cant live with them!!

My DH would never turn down sex on account of football - he hates football.

Seriously though, they can't see the blindingly obvious ( to us) sometimes, my DH asked me last night ( no word of a lie) why I was lying face down on the bed with no clothes on, we'd been in the bath and I got out first and went into the bedroom, he came in and uttered that and when I said I was in need of some "attention", he said "but I thought you wanted to watch Antiques roadshow" ! Honest to god.

Of course when I whipped his towel off he realised I was serious - he's just not used to me seducing him at 7pm on a Sunday night!
They do get confused easily sometimes.

You should have just jumped on him. Men are weird about sports. Luckily for me DH hates all sport .

If you had jumped on him and he had told you to bugger off then I would say you have a problem.

I think you are lucky, I wish my DH didn't want sex at every given opportunity, he is like a randy teenager at the moment

Sky+

Is it not on iplayer

I'd be very miffed if my DH had blown me off for a TV program, same as i'd expect him to be if it were the other way round.

All this men think differently thing is a crock of shit!

"but I thought you wanted to watch Antiques roadshow" PMSL.

I don't know about yours Gherkin but mine needs to be told things. Say I want a pair of diamond earrings for my birthday. I can hedge and talk about my birthday and talk about earrings and talk about diamonds - resulting in me not getting anything for my birthday and both of us being upset or I can say, this shop, go here, buy these, and give them too me on this date = result.

He is a simple boy, so I keep things simple.

I know exactly what you mean.

I regularly get bypassed on account of MoTD; darts; Olympics; some film that he has seen umpteen times before.

He doesnt do it deliberately, he just doesnt think about it in the same way.

Every now and again I throw all my toys out of my pram and stomp my feet at him.

spicedgherkin at the idea of your husband being miffed because he got blown off for a TV programme. Surely he would love that?

leQueen - hahahahaha

I live with a highly intelligent man who holds down a proper responsible job and everything but sometimes on things like this, he is as thick as anything. I think we do expect them to know stuff, stuff that is obvious to us but a mystery to them. Sometimes when we talk about stuff I can see that revealing some information to him is like a massive revelation, it seemed so straightforward to me of course.

I do think they are quite simple creatures really. Pains me to say that but i honestly think that it is true.

But Nikita did tell him, and he decided the match was more important.

YANBU

Malificence - I can't get that image out of my head ...

Yep Jamie, he chose football over sex with me.

What does that say about our sex life?

LeQueen can I get some of those flash cards off you??

I'll take both LeQueen, I reckon I need all the help I can get!!