To be angry that my MIL arrived at DS 3rd b'day with his presents wrapped in xmas paper!!!

[fordywastaylor]

She pitched up yesterday at my DS 3rd Birthday party (at one of those activity places) with all the other mums and kids, and presented me with her gifts wrapped in last yrs xmas paper! She never lets me down in showing how tight fisted she is....AIBU

Gosh, but surprised at the reaction here??? I wouldn't send my DS to a b'day party with a gift wrapped in anything but what was appropriate, we are not posh, well off stuck up or anything, just do what's right that's all....

oH ffs grow up!

I'm sure you could try harder to find a reason to get angry with her

My mum was brought up in an era where you don't waste things. She regularly saves wrapping paper - she's not tight, she's careful and hates waste. It really doesn't matter. It appears that you are more concerned what other people thought rather than if your DS was having a good time. He's 3!

".... Probably matters a bit, ....."

Do you really think so? He will not be traumatised for life because his granny wrapped a birthday present in Christmas paper. He may, though, be traumatised if the relationship between you and your MIL is toxic.

Be grateful that you have a MIL who turns up to parties with prsents, who cares what they are wrapped in.

get over it.
if you were embaressed in front of your friends then you should reconsider your choice of friends

and [snort] at concept of three year old contemplating familiar christmas iconography on wrapping paper and pondering the christmas vs birthday ramifications

Seriously? Get a grip.

You get whatever wrapping paper I happen to have a roll of here. When it runs out I buy another one suitable for that occasion and it it then used for all until it runs out.

I don't do cards either cause I think they are a stupid waste of paper.

Suck it up will you.

Unbelievably unreasonable. Is this all you've really got to worry about? Get a grip ffs.

I'll bet your MIL is damned if she does and damned if she doesn't.

Hang of his first christmas?! Do you seriously think he noticed?

If IF he mentions that FC presents were wrapped the same as one of Grandma just say "oh yes how funny? They must have bought it in the same shop"

yabu - find something more important to be bothered about.

Its nothing to do with how DS will react, ofcourse he won't hold it against his granny ffs! Nothing to do with what anyone else at party thinks either....my DS, my only DS (maybe precious about it) but whats wrong with some effort here??? Causing some controversy though!!

YABU I've done this a few times. Not because I am tight or even that much into recycling but because I am disorganised and have gone a bit dotty with the menopause. I concentrate that much on getting a pressy I forget the wrapping paper. I'd hate to think the recipients thought bad of me.

Not much controversy, really - it's looking like a 100% YABU to me. Congratulations!

it's a big effort to come to a party at a play place, they are they seventh circle of hell, imo!

you are not causing controversy. Everyone agrees you are being ridiculous.

did he really notice, honestly??

If he did, I find it hard to believe. Most children never notice, they just rip it off with glee!

so, in essence, YABVVVVU.

you should be thrilled they want to come and celebrate anyway. My PILS have NEVER attended any of my childrens parties. Tis not their thing TBH, and I accept that. They treat them wonderfully the rest of the time.

oh, and MIL never wraps their presents either.....she puts them all in a bag, (a gift bag I will admit), and gives them to them like that. Again, nothing to fret over, the children love what is inside, and THAT is the point isn;t it??

The gift was wrapped in paper - what's inappropriate about that? You 'just do what's right'? PMSL at this wind-up - it has to be because noone in RL is really this precious, surely?

It's nothing to do with effort. The same effort goes into Christmas paper as to birthday paper. Maybe she cares a bit that there is still a planet for him to grow up on? You are being really, really silly, you know.

Bet your DS didnt notice at all. She brought a present, wrapped it and came to his party - dont sweat it. So yes YABU.

Blimey, I'm a terrible aunty then, I've done the same. 3 year olds don't notice you know. The paper is ripped off in seconds using tooth and claw.

"and [snort] at concept of three year old contemplating familiar christmas iconography on wrapping paper and pondering the christmas vs birthday ramifications"

I don't know...

It took a while to convince dd1 (23 months) that I could no longer sing Reindeers and Rumpapumum because Christmas was over. If someone shows up at her party with Xmas paper it could reopen a whole world of tedious repetition for me.

I still stand by my post..feel its just a little tight, like I said the excess blue paper might just get used again!!!

Why on earth would a 3 yr old mind that???

Yes You most certainly ABU.

Admit that you just don't like your MIL and nothing she does will ever be right and maybe you will go some way to developing a relationship with the grandmother of your child.

"I've done this a few times. Not because I am tight or even that much into recycling but because I am disorganised and have gone a bit dotty with the menopause. I concentrate that much on getting a pressy I forget the wrapping paper. I'd hate to think the recipients thought bad of me."

omg you BITCH

at skidoodle.
I am with your DD and Roy Wood. It really should be christmas everyday.
ooh and snowballs