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AIBU?

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AIBU to not get up with ds2 at 5am?

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LittleMrsHappy · 27/02/2010 10:41

apparently I am, so would like others perspective on this please?

ds2 (7 months) goes to bed between 6.30 and 8pm, (depending on his nap, of 30 mins during the day)
he wakes at 5am every morning for a bottle, and when he has his bottle has a baby natter and then goes back to sleep with no problem at all, and wakes between 7-8am

Apparently I should be getting up with him at this time, instead of him going back to sleep.

Reasons I do it this way is because of work, Im due back at work Monday and will finish at 2am, 3 days a week.

If I done it their way I would get 3 hours sleep and if I do it my way I get 5-6 hours sleep (please dont say anything about my shifts, as that's the way they are, and cannot be changed).

He settles on his own and I am in NO way making him sleep, so am I BU to not get up with him at this time?

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jamaisjedors · 27/02/2010 10:44

Whose way???

You obviously can't see any advantages to getting up at 5am (not something to be encouraged in a child I feel) so why do it?

rubyslippers · 27/02/2010 10:46

ignore them

why on earth would you get up at 5 am - all this will do is reinforce the waking habit for the forseeable future

clam · 27/02/2010 10:47

Perhaps the people/person who thinks YABU could volunteer to get up with him instead? Is this your DP?

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LittleMrsHappy · 27/02/2010 10:47

A few "friends and families" comments, as they get up with their DC at the crack of dawn, and apparently I am being lazy for "making" him go back to sleep, when its him who goes back to sleep on his own accord.

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ShinyAndNew · 27/02/2010 10:47

Who is this their? They should get up at 5am if it is so important to them.

PureAsTheColdDrivenSnow · 27/02/2010 10:48

who is giving you this crazy advice?

YANBU!

we had a 5am waker, was utter torture. Do everything you can to keep him from doing it!

thesecondcoming · 27/02/2010 10:48

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minxofmancunia · 27/02/2010 10:50

YANBU at all, I do this with my 5 month old, he wakes for a bottle between 3 qnd 6 am, then chunters. cooc,gurgles etc, for 20 minute or so before waking again between 7 and 8. There's no way I'm getting up earlier!

It's a bloody long day if you get up at 5am if you don't have to!

MrsGravy · 27/02/2010 10:52

Huh?? Why on earth would you get up at 5am with a baby who is clearly still tired and goes back to sleep by themselves with no problem??

That's insanity. Heck, why not just get him up at 3am for a play, that would make just as much sense.

I sense jealousy if it's friends who have early wakers who WON'T go back to sleep.

Seona1973 · 27/02/2010 10:53

why the hell would you want to get up at 5am if you didnt have to?? I do all I can to not get up early in the morning.

TheCrackFox · 27/02/2010 10:54

We had a 5am waker and it was a nightmare. We tried everything but nothing worked. I am very jealous of you.

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LittleMrsHappy · 27/02/2010 10:55

I cannot remember how long a 7 month old baby should sleep, he is not unsettled during the day at all, and sleeps when he needs to sleep, which is 30 mins lol, but Im not fussed as he is a excellent sleeper during the night.
I wish I could say well you come over and get him at that time, they will probably take me up on the offer lol

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SloanyPony · 27/02/2010 10:58

The only think you are doing wrong is entering into discussions with friends and family about your own personal choices and giving a toss when they choose to disagree. Opt out of the discussion. None of their business.

SloanyPony · 27/02/2010 10:59

Thing. Thing. Arghrrr.

Mishy1234 · 27/02/2010 11:00

YANBU.

If he'll go back to sleep after a bottle, take advantage of it is what I say!

2rebecca · 27/02/2010 11:02

I encouraged my kids to view any time before 7am as still the middle of the night and time to go back to sleep which is what I usually did.

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LittleMrsHappy · 27/02/2010 11:04

I didnt even discuss it, it was dh he was "bragging" that "his" two slept well, after their own dh were saying they were knackered as such and such woke during the night, then "I" , NOT DH was called lazy for not getting up with him. It was stupid DH fault, but I got the brunt, I dont like bragging parents, but dh was a fool, and I got the backlash.

I just wanted to make sure I was not BU for not wanting to get up at 5am. I dont condone dh actions, no need for showcase parents.

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Doyouthinktheysaurus · 27/02/2010 11:04

Ignore them, they are probably just jealous.

DS1 went through a phase of waking at ridiculous O'clock and it was hell.

Your son needs his sleep as much as you do, be thankful that he goes back to sleep and make the most of the extra sleep you get.

Irons · 27/02/2010 11:12

If my DD (8months) wakes at that time, I make every effort to get her back to sleep and also occassionaly give her a bottle. 5am is NOT wake up time! 7am is a good wake up time. You are not doing anything wrong. I do exactly the same as you.

cranbury · 27/02/2010 11:19

oh FFS you need your sleep, baby needs his, it works, it will stop working at some point but tackle that later. Vast majority of 7 months old still wake at night and I classify 5am as nighttime. Getting them up at 5am is definitely a bad idea.

runnybottom · 27/02/2010 11:21

I wouldn't get up at 5 am if the house was on fire.
yanbu, obv.

JoandMax · 27/02/2010 11:22

God no, I have a 19 month old who wakes around 5/5.30am and it is horrendous! If I could get him to go back to sleep by feeding him I definitely would...... Short of drugging him we haven't found a solution yet!

StealthPolarBear · 27/02/2010 11:26

I regularly get up at 5/5.30 as that's when DS starts his day. Your DS isn't starting his day, he's waking for a feed and going back to sleep, so what's the problem?
Oh and I go to bed well before 2am!

EssenceOfJack · 27/02/2010 11:29

YANBU, your friends are obviously hysterical with sleep deprivation.

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 27/02/2010 11:33

And a second helping of Unreasonable for blaming you and not your husband. If these guys want to have company in miserable tiredness, why shouldn't it be your husband getting up at Stupid O'Clock?

Your friends are idiots, my dear.

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