AIBU to not get up with ds2 at 5am?

[LittleMrsHappy]

apparently I am, so would like others perspective on this please?

ds2 (7 months) goes to bed between 6.30 and 8pm, (depending on his nap, of 30 mins during the day)
he wakes at 5am every morning for a bottle, and when he has his bottle has a baby natter and then goes back to sleep with no problem at all, and wakes between 7-8am

Apparently I should be getting up with him at this time, instead of him going back to sleep.

Reasons I do it this way is because of work, Im due back at work Monday and will finish at 2am, 3 days a week.

If I done it their way I would get 3 hours sleep and if I do it my way I get 5-6 hours sleep (please dont say anything about my shifts, as that's the way they are, and cannot be changed).

He settles on his own and I am in NO way making him sleep, so am I BU to not get up with him at this time?

YANBU, how crazy of people to tell you that you must get up at 5am when your ds easily goes back to sleep!

My 7m dd wakes around 4am for a bf, but sometimes, like today, didn't wake until 5am. I fed her and she went back to sleep until about 7.30am. No way would I get up at 5am with her unless I absolutely had to, it's still night in my book!

Ignore them all-they are mad!

Tortoise they are lovely, but they do have their moments as we all do

Glad I am NBU, Im making sh get me a takeaway tonight for his UR's

I second everyone else, believe me when you're are back at work you don't want to be going in after being up since 5, I have been there!

I'm on your behalf that the relatives had a go at you for not staying up with him and not dh! [feminist emoticon]

YANBU! At all!

What you have there is a small child whio does his sleeping at night (as in, when he "should" be asleep) as opposed to during the day in the form of long naps (my DS is 22m and still has between an hour and a half to two hours for his nap).

Jeez, if he's going to sleep again after a quick feed, fantastic. You need your sleep, and so does your DS. You happen to be 'lucky' in that your son does his sleeping when you want to be sleeping (though I do still relish my DS's naps coz I can switch off for a bit!).

And totally unreasonable of the friends to blame you instead of your DH when he was the one doing the bragging. FFS, you do shift work, why doesn't he get up with him! (Don't know what your DP does work-wise, but I'd be making him get up for that 5am feed. Sleep has to be rationed equally with small children.)

If YABU, then I definitely am.

When we went on holiday recently, rather than getting DS (11m) up once he had woken at 6.30, DH and I just lay semi-conscious promising each other that we were going to get up in a minute and get him. We went back to sleep, and so did DS - until 8am. We had struck gold! - so did the same thing for the rest of the holiday. Heaven!

DD did exactly this - slept through til 5, had a feed then slept another couple of hours. About a month later she started sleeping through and having another nap in the morning.

Carry on as you are!

Ignore them, they're bonkers - I'd be all for a bigger bottle and hoping he'd sleep till 8 anyone who chooses to get up at 5 needs their bumps felt!

Yes, totally bonkers. I know plenty of people who have three and four year olds who are still up at 5am! I guarantee if they could make them go back to sleep for a couple of hours by any means short of drugs, they would! DD used to sleep in until 9 at this age. It was bloody great. Enjoy it!

YANBU - He's just waking for a feed and going back to sleep. Why would you get up?

SUrprised by only a 30 min nap though - DS2 is 11 months and he still has a short morning nap around 10.30 am and a longer afternoon nap around 3/3.30 he would be ridiculously cranky without them and if he misses them he gets overtired and is harder to settle at night. He usually wakes about 7.30/8 am and goes to bed about 7.30/8 at night. He sometimes wakes for a feed too at about 5 and there is no way I would get up with him then!

Hes always been a night sleeper, even for NB, today he fell asleep at 2.30pm (woke up at 7.40am) and woke again at 3.05pm, and is now asleep at 6.15pm, (roughly) and I am hoping that will be him (normally is. Im so glad I am not BU.

Most of my friends have the mindset that due to their dh being at work F/T they have the responsibility of tending to the children's needs and wants.