to thinks that eau de fags is not what I expect to my son to be wearing when he comes back from childrens birthday party!

[josieandthepussycats]

Have namechanged for this given that ds has only been in for about half an hour.....
DS has come back from a party smelling really strongly of cigarette smoke . I nearly had a heart attack when he told me there was a smoke bowl ..... fortunately / unfortunately it turned out to be an ashtray . He now tells me he really likes the smell of cigarette smoke. . There were about six adults sat through the party chain smoking - nobody went outside to light up at any point! Am fuming!

if you are at a party and the parents are present and they decide to drink no problem. If you take responsibility for other peoples children and cant wait two hours to have a drink not on.

fgs stop disecting modern life so much, you will drive yourselves demented

what are you more shocked by - your son liking the smell or the adults smoking around dc?

Did you not know that they smoked before the party? tbh I know who smokes and doesn't smoke as you can smell smokers and more so if they smoke in the house or car.

IVY disappointed by the first, shock and disgusted by the 2nd. No I didnt know they smoked before the party. Because of siblings etc I pickup from a different area of the school. I knew them by sight but that was it and to be fair that is how it will stay.

SEA am not disecting am venting because I am hacked off.

To be honest, i think the constant nagging of my kids about smoking would have put them off for life!

"mummy, why do people smoke when it says smoking kills on the packet?"

"mummy is it true that pregnant ladies can harm their babies if they smoke?"

"mummy, its not good if people smoke around children is it?"

This went on for weeks after the Life Bus came round to our school and terrified the lot of em!

And that advert with all those kids in it, appealing for their parents to stop had a good impact on my SIL who has finally given up due to her sons constant nagging

ok your son like the smell - don't go overboard now or later as it could back fire just don't talk about it in front of him

I would be hacked off clothes reaking of smoke arn't nice but will wash

maleeka sadly , think they are smoking lifers if they cant manage two hours off
Ivy, not mentioned it to him since, you are right the smell will wash out, the contempt will remain and that address is black listed but not the child

Yanbu.

People should NEVER smoke in the same room as small children. This is how I grew up and I HATED it!

thing is, if your child goes to someone else's house, then what they do is kind of what your child has to put up with. In the same way that I won't give in to kids who are "fussy eaters" when they come to our house. Although you don't like it (and I have to agree it's very unpleasant) it really is the parents' choice. As you say, just don't let him go there again.

Calm down, and seriously consider what long term influence this encounter will have had.

One of my DC once went to a party when the only food on offer was 20 varieties of crisps.She did not go on to develop an eating disorder nor become obese.But she loved the party food

Your rules are your rules, your child is young enough to be only influenced by your actions and opinions.