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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be a bit pissed off with DH?

35 replies

MmmCoffee · 26/02/2010 00:49

I had an asthma attack yesterday, not a rush-to-hospital one but I just couldn't stop wheezing. DH hadn't taken his mobile to work so I couldn't text him, I didn't want to worry him by phoning him at work because asthma always sounds SO much worse than it actually feels. My mum came round and we had lunch together, so I wasn't alone.

Anyway I rang the doctor, he got me an appointment for the afternoon, and I ended up on an extra inhaler to add to my usual 2, plus a course of steroid tablets. The wheezing had got a bit better by the time DH got home around 9:30pm.

Well, I told him I'd had a shitty day, and about the doc and the medication, and he just sort of 'huh'-ed and didn't really say much, watched telly for a bit and went to bed.

Today he got home from work, never asked ONCE how I felt . I am much better btw, just a bit wheezy still, and I feel like I've been kicked in the ribs. I did washing today, shopped, cooked dinner AND washed up. And when DD had to go to her dance class tonight, a 5 minute walk, he was REALLY surprised when I asked him to take her.

AIBU to want just a bit of sympathy? I feel really pathetic because it really wasn't that big a deal but I feel really knackered and ache-ey and still a bit wheezy, and I want someone to say "Oh I'm sorry you had a crap day and feel like shit".

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GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 00:53

well i'm sorry you had a crap day and feel like shit

my dp is the same, mind you if he's ill...............

well, we ALL know about it

Joolyjoolyjoo · 26/02/2010 00:56

YANBU, but it always seems to be the way- to him the fact that you managed to achieve all those things today means you must be "fine" (grr!)

because if he had a snuffly nose, he would need someone to change the channel for him.

If he's anything like my DH, it may be that he just prefers to bury his head in the sand when it comes to things like illness in people he loves, and only deal with it when it HAS to be dealt with. My DH, when we were told his father's cancer was terminal and that he was in hospital- COME NOW!, kept saying "he'll be ok," casually, like a mantra, then was bemused when he strolled in with his paper to find his dad deceased!

Anyway- sorry you've had a crap day and feel like shit!

BitOfFun · 26/02/2010 00:58

It sounds like you underplayed the whole thing, so you can't blame him for not understanding. Next time make sure you give it the full martyr treatment.

MmmCoffee · 26/02/2010 01:02

Thanks I do feel a bit silly though, DD just started her periods and it's knocked mine all out of kilter, I'm late and PMSing and probably being stupidly emo because I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes because you were nice to me

Thanks for the chocs Goddess!

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Mumcentreplus · 26/02/2010 01:02

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:04

MCP step away from the chocolates!!!

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:05

aha! acting ill when you are ill... who knew? i'll have to try that next time

have you had a bad day too? cos if not......

xxkt1xx · 26/02/2010 01:07

yes you have to act ill with sound affects...its what men do so its all they know
xxxxx

Mumcentreplus · 26/02/2010 01:07

Damn!

mummysgoingmad · 26/02/2010 01:08

Eat the chocolates it'l make me feel better that i have scoffed a whole...yes a WHOLE box of thorntons milk chocolates!

I have asthma so i know how you feel, i hate taking an attack, it feels like someones putting a pillow over my face. little tip thought MCP a roasting hot bath works wonders for the sore ribs and back and helps losen up anything left in your chest

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:09

I am also pissed off with dp he has been a twunt all day and now thinks i am going to be his friend. I can't find a cheap enough drier to buy, my glasses have broken, there are a few keys on my laptop playing up and my bedroom floor is wet from the rain again.

can i have a choccy please?

MmmCoffee · 26/02/2010 01:09

Right. Next time: wheeze loudly, groan, moan, lay around on sofa farting and watching telly.

Oh wait no that's DH

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mummysgoingmad · 26/02/2010 01:10

do that all the bloody time..ment Mmc

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:11

LOL MC you been watching my dp the last few days with his man flu pnuemonia

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:11

lol i was trying to think of a polite way to tell you that you are living up to your name

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:13
mummysgoingmad · 26/02/2010 01:15

keep them away from me, i think 1 box is enough

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:15

why are men such twunts???

can anyone actually answer that?

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:18

how long have you got lady? i blame the cave women! they started it

MmmCoffee · 26/02/2010 01:20

They're taught it by evillovely MIL

Thank you all SO much, you've cheered me up no end. I'm off to bed and DH is taking us out for dinner tomorrow. He doesn't know it yet

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GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:24
Grin
TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:25

GITK I have quite a while as i am searching for a condenser dryer and do you think i can find one under £150 grrrrrrrrrrr mine died just outside the guarantee

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:31

aaarrrrrggghh its always the way isn't it!

well, i think that if the cave women had invested in some clubs of their own and gone and killed some animals themselves life as we know it could be sooo different

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:33

it sure is the way lol

oh i do agree with you those cave women were a bit too soft for my liking being dragged into caves by their hair and all that lolol

dp really pissed me off i told him he has a month and i want him gone and i mean it...now he wants to be my bosom buddy grrr

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:37

another thing that always goes that way.... funny that isn't it, he'll be cooking and cleaning by tommorrow

are you sure its what you want?