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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be a bit pissed off with DH?

35 replies

MmmCoffee · 26/02/2010 00:49

I had an asthma attack yesterday, not a rush-to-hospital one but I just couldn't stop wheezing. DH hadn't taken his mobile to work so I couldn't text him, I didn't want to worry him by phoning him at work because asthma always sounds SO much worse than it actually feels. My mum came round and we had lunch together, so I wasn't alone.

Anyway I rang the doctor, he got me an appointment for the afternoon, and I ended up on an extra inhaler to add to my usual 2, plus a course of steroid tablets. The wheezing had got a bit better by the time DH got home around 9:30pm.

Well, I told him I'd had a shitty day, and about the doc and the medication, and he just sort of 'huh'-ed and didn't really say much, watched telly for a bit and went to bed.

Today he got home from work, never asked ONCE how I felt . I am much better btw, just a bit wheezy still, and I feel like I've been kicked in the ribs. I did washing today, shopped, cooked dinner AND washed up. And when DD had to go to her dance class tonight, a 5 minute walk, he was REALLY surprised when I asked him to take her.

AIBU to want just a bit of sympathy? I feel really pathetic because it really wasn't that big a deal but I feel really knackered and ache-ey and still a bit wheezy, and I want someone to say "Oh I'm sorry you had a crap day and feel like shit".

OP posts:
xxkt1xx · 26/02/2010 01:37

night night all x x

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:38

night x

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:39

is it what i want?? no he is the best thing to happen to me in years!! but he is such an old fart at times lol. ok i mean he is older than me but does he have to act such a plonker at times??

apparently I can and should be getting myself out of this depression because i can't stay depressed forever ffs i don't chose to be!!!

back in a min lil man woke up

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:44

yes yes, of course you can get yourself out of it

tbh i think most men are plonkers a lot of the time, when dp pisses me off i just think 'better the devil i know'

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 01:53

its like he thinks depression is a choice i have made which annoys me tbh. I tried last night to explain that with DS1's behaviour, along with other things i feel like i am sinking further down his reply - "Well get up and do some housework" after i had just explained that i had no motivation to do so....

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 01:58

depression is quite a hard thing to understand for someone who hasn't been through it iykwim

is he usually supportive? do you think he's just having a bad day? it must be a little bit hard on him also to see you so down and frustrating for him that he can't just 'snap you out of it' (i'm saying these things assuming that he's usually supportive and understanding btw not defending him)

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 02:07

he is wonderfully supportive as a rule but desperatly wants the "old" me back.
I want the old me back. I try to explain to him when this started up again but he cannot understand why. DS2 was a home birth unplanned and very quick - 4 1/2 minutes - what should have been wonderful and exciting was frightening and worrying well for me. Because not only was he born quick, he was early and small 5lb 15oz.....anyway we ended up in hospital for 5 days where DS2 was in SCBU, dp only went up to see him once because he couldn't cope whereas i spent every minute up there with him and not on the ward.
the staff were BARSTEWARDS to me, i was not allowed to do so much as change his nappy, i wanted to BF but they wouldn't let me and then when they did, just as i knew would happen, DS2 fed for what seemed like 5 hours non stop and was well enough to come home within 12 hours.

So when i got him home i wouldn't put him down - he is mine iyswim?

but those 5 days were hell on earth for me.

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 02:08

ooppss that was a bit long wasn;t it sorry

GoddessInTheKitchen · 26/02/2010 02:15

ahh you see, he's probably just feeling terrible that he can't help and its coming out in twattish behaviour..

surely you'll feel worse if you force him out?

poor you with ds2 though for you but that he's home and safe and very handsome btw
i totally understand when you say that he is 'yours' i would feel the exact same way

i have to go to bed or i will NOT get to college tommorrow! keep your head up chat soon x

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/02/2010 02:24

Of course the sensible side of me knows i will feel worse if i kick him out...why did i say it- i don't know i just feel like running if that makes sense? which it probably doesn't....lol

anyway thanks for listening i am also off to bed as i need to be up at 7 arghhhh

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