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AIBU?

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to pissed off school rang to tell me DS has banged his head?

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BigMomma3 · 25/02/2010 13:53

although they say he seems to be OK and will be monitored while in class until hometime. If they don't want me to pick him up, there's nothing I can do about it ffs!

Now I am going to be on tenterhooks for the next two hours (they rang just after 1pm)terrified that he will start vomitting and collapse etc, etc and I will get a call saying he's been rushed to hospital .

Why could'nt they have just given him an accident slip to take home or his teacher let me know (which is what they've always done until now)!!

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Hassled · 25/02/2010 13:56

It does seem to have been a pointless phone call if he's fine, but equally there could just as easily be a thread on MN saying "Why didn't they call me even though they thought he was fine?" . The schools can never win.

Anyway - don't fret. They sound pretty clued up and I'm sure he'll have forgotten about it by pick up.

cravingcroissants · 25/02/2010 13:58

YABU. As it's a head injury they did the sensible thing and informed you of it. There can be complications arising from bumps to the head that aren't apparent at first and don't appear until a couple of hours after the injury that need hospital checks eg. Vomiting, drowsiness etc.
If they hadn't have rung you and then your DC had to go to hospital later you would be complaining and asking why didn't they tell me.

stealthsquiggle · 25/02/2010 14:01

YABU - forewarned is forearmed - should he take a turn for the worst at least you won't be dealing with your own shock, as it were. DS's school have done this a couple of times - once because he ran head-first into a post and once because he almost passed out for no apparent reason - on both occasions he was fine and I collected him (on the first occasion with v. impressive bandage on his head) at normal time.

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 25/02/2010 14:01

i think its good practice to call parents. What if the teacher missed you at home time or the note wasnt read? They have to inform you and this seems like the best foolproof way and gives you a heads up (no pun intended) to whats happened.

cory · 25/02/2010 14:03

I think it was sensible. It warns you to be on alert and not (for instance) switch your mobile off or go to a place where you can't easily get to him if there is a sudden emergency.

Children with head injuries can deteriorate very suddenly and unexpectedly, so I would certainly want to be warned in a situation like this. My own dd looked normal for the first 10 minute after her bump and then slipped into a coma. A friend of hers went through several hours before he started showing signs of concussion. Otoh lots of children bump their heads every day and are fine, so they can't tell the parents to take them all home at once.

fernie3 · 25/02/2010 14:04

I dont see the problem and I can see why they do it. I get little notes in the book bag or called to see the teacher to say that my daughter has been "sad" or "quiet" occasionally so they do seem to want parents to know even the smallest things!

thumbwitch · 25/02/2010 14:05

I see your point but think YABU. When I was 8 i was knocked out by a fall in the playground (slipped on some ice and passed out for a couple of minutes). My mother swore blind she never knew about this, despite me having to sit in the nurse's office for a while afterwards (presumably to check I didn't have a concussion). So - it is better that they have informed you, even if it is ahead of time. I expect he'll be fine though.

KarmaNoMore · 25/02/2010 14:07

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YoginiBikini · 25/02/2010 14:09

YABU - Head injuries can affect a child very quickly and suddenly. I would want to be informed if my child had a head injury while in someone else's care.

You are on tenterhooks for the next couple of hours? So you should be

Sorry to sound harsh. Hope he and you have a good afternoon

psychomum5 · 25/02/2010 14:14

YABU, but understandable......tis the pregnancy paranoia kicking in.

like the others have said, if they hadn;t rung you would have been upset.

SomeGuy · 25/02/2010 14:20

YABU, head bumps can turn out to be very serious, they could get sued if they didn;t tell you and things turned out bad.

JaneS · 25/02/2010 14:24

It's important - if he did suddenly react badly, you would know to be in phone contact, so you could give consent over the phone to medical procedures. My brother had a complex multiple fracture on his arm while he was at school and when my parents were out of the country. Trust me, it was a nightmare trying to sort out who could and couldn't give consent, and he needed an operation pretty urgently. They just don't want you to go down the shops for three hours without your phone, I expect.

In all likelihood your child will be fine and doesn't need time off school, but there is an outside chance you'd want to be by the phone, so they've let you know.

leavingonajetplane · 25/02/2010 14:26

Think you are probably more upset he banged his head than that they told you about it, if you think about it a bit.

School didnt tell me, he detiorated at home and we spent the night in hospital.

You do need to be alert to signs of brain injury when he gets home, so they are right to have made sure they spoke to you before you pick him up.

Hope he's ok.

ChoChoSan · 25/02/2010 15:47

You are definitely being unreasonable, I work with kids, and we get loads of aggro if the children have a bump to the head and we don't mention it. Some bumps may be perfectly fine, but develop a noticeable mark that means that parents are shocked when they pick up if they had not been notified. Also, you might prefer to be the person who takes the decision about whether a bump is okay, rather than leaving it to the discretion of the carer.

They told you the child had a bump, and that they think he will be fine, and that's the end of it. Get on with your day - you have no reason to think it will develop into a problem...particularly as they have already told you they would let you know if they have further concerns.

Be reasssured that they care!

MayorNaze · 25/02/2010 15:50

YABU sorry. i used to be in charge of 1st aid in a school and this was a very strict procedure that had to be adhered to. if we were at all concerned that the child was anything other than 100% fit then we also had to ask the parent to take the child home immediately.

OooohWhatAFuss · 25/02/2010 15:51

YABU. There have been too many 'Why didn't the school inform me that...' threads. They did the right thing as they might not have caught you at home time and little boys, no matter how reliable, will sometimes lose things like accident slips. They are obviously sure he will be fine but at least you are prepared when he gets home.
Hope the pregnancy paranoia is not driving you too insane

claricebeansmum · 25/02/2010 15:55

Agree with Cory.

If you have ever ended up in A&E at 2am whilst your son has a CT scan of his head you will wish to god that the school had bothered to tell you earlier....

indyandlara · 25/02/2010 15:56

YABU. Schools can't win.

I send home loads of notes in bags and a huge number of them never seem to get there.....a bumped head is too important to write a note for and dump in a bag.

Sassybeast · 25/02/2010 16:05

YABU. Notes get lost in the bottom of bags.

shivster1980 · 25/02/2010 16:10

YABU Agree with indyandlara

foxinsocks · 25/02/2010 16:15

yeah, the school when they call me (as ds is so accident prone) often say they are telling me so that I don't get a shock when I come home and see him looking black and blue

I appreciate the call tbh

I also think they sometimes call in case you want to pick him up - so if you said, you know what, I'd rather come and get him iyswim

SuSylvester · 25/02/2010 16:16

YAB a nob end

purplefish · 25/02/2010 16:16

How old is he?

When DS3 started school in September, i got a call from school to say he had keeled over on the carpet, not passed out, but wouldn't talk for 10 minutes afterwards. I asked what he was doing at the time of the call, they said he was charging around with his best friend. They asked me to come up and check him which I ed at so i did, with the pretence of taking something into school for him (said I didn't want him thinking I would be coming up to school willy nilly!) Got there just in time to see him climbing out of the playhouse window

I can see why they asked me to come up then (I didn't at the time) as they didn't really know him that well in September. I said he probably didn't say much afterwards because he was probably messing about on the carpet and keeled over by accident and felt a bit of a ninny

Now we get letters in book bags and the younger children also have a sticker on their jumper saying 'I bumped my head today' Means you can ask the teacher about it if neccessary. Saying that the classroom assistant normally comes out to tell us anyway.

cat64 · 25/02/2010 16:32

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niftyfifty · 25/02/2010 16:38

Agree that YABU - they have told you what happened, that he seems to be OK and they are monitoring the situation. If you were that concerned you could have gone and collected him - the decision is yours as his parent. If they hadn't rung you and he did deterioriate, the school would get the blame. Hope he was fine!

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