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AIBU?

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Original poster

to let my daughter melt in the rain?

36 replies

Tortington · 24/02/2010 08:41

proper pissing down here, 17 yo dd, gets up and ready for college and then sits next to me on settee, closes her eyes and dozes off. i tell her to go get the train and she said " i thought you were taking me!" this is after i had directly told her last night i was not.

"nope, i am not taking you. i'm having my brew before i set off, have a lovely day"

to which she said " well i hope you don't have a lovely day, at least you won't be wet through when you get there]

and left muttering something about 'pissing down'

i think she was really mean. I hate setting off to work on rubbishness.

so, was i right to let her get pissed wet through on a 15 min walk to station or should i have got my coat on and took her the 5 min car drive ?

OP posts:
pjmama · 24/02/2010 08:43

Doesn't she own an umbrella!? Lazy little madam, you drink your tea and don't give it another thought

MiaWallace · 24/02/2010 08:44

If it was only 5 minutes by car I think I would have taken her.

You probably spent longer arguing about it that it would have taken to drop her off

throckenholt · 24/02/2010 08:44

She is 17 - she can make her own way. Has she never heard of an umbrella ?

If you were passing and she was ready then you could have given her a lift - otherwise - no it is her problem.

Original poster
Tortington · 24/02/2010 08:47

excellent! i told her to look for the unbrella - she made a pretense of doing so.

i'm off to get in my dry warm car

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EccentricaSchuster · 24/02/2010 08:47

I've had the same converstaion this morning!
last night - DD2 (who has trouble going to school on a good day) asked if i could drive her.

this morning had the screaming, whining, moaning, etc it's raining, you're cruel, blah blah

so now i feel bad for letting her set off in the rain, in a tizz and sobbing.

glinda · 24/02/2010 08:47

Children don't melt in the rain, they dissolve (pedant!)

Jackstini · 24/02/2010 08:49

YANBU - she shouldn't have presumed. If she really wanted dropping off she should have made your brew and asked really nicely in advance!
Hope she doesn't melt too much...

throckenholt · 24/02/2010 08:49

Do they actually know that humans are waterproof ?

Odd how they are happy to walk around in the rain in a tshirt if they are going to a social gathering but it is impossible to do that going to buy food, or go to school or work !

Original poster
Tortington · 24/02/2010 08:52

right am off - have a nice day all

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ClaraJo · 24/02/2010 08:53

"I thought you were taking me". When do they think this? DD1 does it all the time. "Please" never comes into it. Just the assumption that I am there to fetch and carry. If you feel like I do about it, YANBU to make her walk in the rain.

Embarrassingly, DD1 tried it on her grandmother the other day "Erm, because it's cold, can you come and get me?" (literally 3 minutes walk to my mother's house - it would take longer to get the car out and drive the distance) "No" says my mother. Ha ha ha. Where does my DD think I honed my skills?!

twotimes · 24/02/2010 10:43

Nope she's 17 not 7 YANBU

princessmel · 24/02/2010 10:49

I'd have taken her...and had a tea earlier.

If it was the other way round you would have liked her to take you.

nattnoobies · 24/02/2010 10:49

What would she do if you didnt have a car or couldnt drive?
My niece has to walk everywhere because her mum doesnt drive, she just gets on with it

juneybean · 24/02/2010 10:49

She's old enough to start taking driving lessons non?

lornski · 24/02/2010 10:49

YDNBU
she'll only get wet to get skin......

OTTMummA · 24/02/2010 11:06

i used to have to walk 3 miles to school along the coast line being batterd by sharp icy rain, i had a coat/mac,umbrella and good shoes, yes my trousers were slightly wet, but they dried off by 2nd class.

A 15 Min walk will do her no harm at all, i don't know where this sense of entitlement comes from teenagers, my younger sister is the same, don't know where the attitude comes from.

RatherBeOnThePiste · 24/02/2010 14:59

Hello?

Brolly time

Then... pop the kettle on to make a coffee to take in the car!

MrsBadger · 24/02/2010 15:02

Glinda is quite right, you know

Lucyellensmumma · 24/02/2010 15:05

now custy, if any of us had posted this what would have said, i know what you would have said, you would have said, let the lazy bugger walk! Thats what you would have said

thumbwitch · 24/02/2010 15:09

God, I used to go everywhere by bike at that age - even in the snow (ok, sometimes I walked) - never did me any harm! Yoof of today...

Original poster
Tortington · 24/02/2010 18:48

cheers all,

when i got in - she was very upset about a falling out she's had and just didn't stop talking to me for 2 full hours.

so all is forgotten, and there were no complaints about this!

thanks

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MiladyDeWinter · 24/02/2010 18:53

This reminds me of the "AIBU by Stealth" thread:

AIBU to not bathe DD?

Yes you are being unreasonable.

But she is made of paper and a bath could kill her!

MiladyDeWinter · 24/02/2010 18:54

Sorry the title does, not the OP.

Original poster
Tortington · 24/02/2010 18:56

leading? moi?

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EggyAllenPoe · 24/02/2010 18:59

i have just cycled back from work. It wasn't fun, and i defintiely wasn't enjoying the free shower.

however, i am an adult, and calling my DH to pick me up would have been just wussing out, like Janes The Red Engine (you know, the story where he won't leave the tunnel)

YANBU at all, she is a big wussy-pants, and should man up!

It's only rain. And she can pack dry clothes to change into.