I may come across as a heartless cow on this but hey ho!
My DH is an only child and his dad is also an only he has a physical disability that will inevitably shorten his life.
I love DFIL very much, i have cared for him for the last 3 yrs, despite not being well myself and having my son. I help him bath, shave, clean, cook him lunch and dinner, take him to the doctors, etc and hospital appointments, infact i do more for him than my DH does, as he finds him frustrating to deal with sometimes.
although they have a good relationship.
basically FIL has told us everything ( inlcuding what he got a few yrs ago from his dads estate) will go to us and a much smaller amount to DHs younger nieces when he goes, he even showed me his will, which i thought was slightly morbid, but i didn't want to upset him.
he also told me his wishes rgds to his funeral etc, we had a laugh about that, which made me feel a bit better.
we've tried to pursued him to move in with us, but he won't, even though it would be easier logistacly etc, i think its his pride.
however although i am in no way hoping he goes sooner than later, i have found myself, thinking and day dreaming about what we could do with the inheritance, i feel a bit guilty about it in fact a lot guilty :S, is this normal or am i horrid???
anyone else been in a similar position?