New member needs help

[goblinsmummy]

Hello
have 3 yr old girl and 10 month old son

on way home from nursery 3yr old had hissy fit in middle of road whilst we were crossing, rainy weather, stranded in road with buggy and road thrashing daughter whilst there was an on coming motorbike! Spanked said daughter and put her straight to bed. Never done either before.......feeling bad. She did go straight to sleep. Need some support or am I just bad?

Give yourself a break. It's awful weather, she was being a pain and you were scared. Put it down to it being a rubbish day in February and have a nice glass or 2 of wine cup of tea.

glass or two of wine

You are human,many would do the same and she will wake up as right as rain I am sure.No one here would advocate spanking as a regular thing and I am sure you wont do it again-hopefully neither will she!

nope. Can't do the strike through

The only time I've smacked one of my boys is when he ran off in Tesco's and nearly got hit by a car. I was angry and frightened. It's a natural reaction. I was spanked a lot by my parents (different parenting) and I love them dearly.

Pour yourself some wine.

jc - You need to do it before and after every word like glass or two of wine

OP - We all have rubbish days AIBU probably isn't the best place to post if you're looking for some support.

First of all welcome to Mumsnet
You're not a bad Mum at all, we've all been there (hissy fit in road etc). Have a glass of wine

Yes, threenagers having a hissy on a crossing is my personal favourite, along with headbanging a pavement.

We all understand. She probably went straight to sleep because

a) the tantrum tired her out or
b) the tantrum was a result of her being tired in the first place

If you need advice about future events, Behaviour/Development or Parenting is the place

Hello and welcome. She'll be fine - remember that kids don't have that whole internal anxiety about what constitutes good parenting or bad parenting that we all have. For her it was a one-off horrible experience all mixed in with her hissy fit and now it's over and life goes on as normal.

Have a lovely evening and recover from a crappy day.

And, of course, drink some wine.

Wow
what a great response. Can't believe I haven't tapped into this wealth of experience before. Thank you for comments, feel a lot better. And she is still sleeping. I should add that I went in 10 minutes after she was put to bed to give her a hug and tell her that I love her and she responded by giving me a lovely sleepy lovey hug back
Vive la moms
xx

goblin MN is the go-to place when you have smacked your DC and are feeling crappy [grin

Only joking. It's a very hard stage you are in now. My DSs are 2 and a half years apart. Wish I knew about MN then ....

What is DC DS and MN?

lol at all the instructions to drink wine... this is optional you realise, we are not encouraging you to medicate yourself with alcohol.
look here for acronyms

am drinking wine!!!

Cheers goblinsmummy, I am too!

As my DH tells me in these situations - A bad Mum wouldn't care.

Your DH is a wise man Sugartits (love the name btw!). We've all been there Goblinsmummy (well I have anyway). Try not to be too hard on yourself.

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If you're new, (welcome) this will help

sorry, someone aleady linked!

Blimey, this is all very convivial for AIBU. Must be the wine.

Digression- We have no wine so I am drinking cheap mini beers from Sainsburys that we still had in the fridge from the other week with Blackcurrant juice. It's horrible but DP said the BJ would add an exotic flare and that we can have wine on Friday when he gets paid. Bloody February!!

junkcollector Yes, a Blow Job certainly would add exotic flair to some cheap beer. You DP is certainly no fool .

< has had too much wine >

I'm not keen on frothy beer.