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Original poster

to think a youtube video of my kids in the bath is not "inappropriate content"?

87 replies

dontcensormykids · 22/02/2010 10:54

Have namechanged for this...

I have several videos on youtube, including one of DD1 (2.4) and DD2 (6 months) in the bath. Youtube have removed it - only explanation given is: "Rejected (content inappropriate)"

As fasr as I can see, youtube guidelines only ban porn, not nudity, and it says videos are not taken down automatically by the system, but only after being reviewed by youtube after being flagged by a user.

AIBU to be and that innocent childhood nudity is considered "inappropriate" and censored in this way?

OP posts:
Rockbird · 22/02/2010 11:23

I can only echo everyone else. Why would you do that? For a start, youtube is meant for sharing videos that the world at large would find interesting. No offence, I'm sure your children are delightful but why would you think the rest of the world needs to coo over them in the bath. Not even sure why relatives would need to. I have family in Ireland who love my DD but bathtime shots would bore them rigid, I'm sure.

This is a daft thing to do for all the reasons laid out on this thread. And yes, if you are not going to protect your children then youtube should definitely step in and do it. They have a responsibility that goes beyond their T&Cs

Rockbird · 22/02/2010 11:25

Sorry I mentioned the Ireland thing to demonstrate that I have family somewhere else who would love to see photos, it wasn't a random 'get Ireland in the conversation' thing

Ziggurat · 22/02/2010 11:25

Would you want videos of yourself in the bath or shower on youtube?

Give your children some privacy for heaven's sake.

Dodginess aside, it's the privacy which would matter more to me - they're little humans after all and entitled to just as much privacy as you are.

To be honest, this just doesn't ring true. I can't believe anyone would be so deliberately obtuse...

GypsyMoth · 22/02/2010 11:25

would make a good story in a journalists column.....or in a newspaper...

Original poster
dontcensormykids · 22/02/2010 11:27

OK I get the message everyone. Am a bit now as most people obviously have a very different attitude towards this than me.

DD is pestering me for a story so may not be back for a while but I assure you I'm not a troll.

OP posts:
rookiemater · 22/02/2010 11:27

YABU. I can understand why you may want to post these, but if you absolutely must then safer to do it on Facebook where only your friends can access the images ( although not sure if you can view films on Facebook)

kikid · 22/02/2010 11:28

Yes, lets discuss!!

Original poster
dontcensormykids · 22/02/2010 11:28

or a journalist!

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EcoMouse · 22/02/2010 11:28

TBB, I think you might be on to something there! Like Zig said, deliberately obtuse.

BigBadMummy · 22/02/2010 11:29

Youtube are doing what they feel is right and yes that is probably classed as "censorship".

They are trying to protect children worldwide, and that means there is a blanket decision made.

They cannot think "oh their mum uploaded this it is okay". Therefore, if they deem the video inappropriate, then they will remove it.

I have no family living in the UK, they are all abroad and if I want to send video or photos I do it via email.

I regularly post photos of them to my Facebook page but I have changed all the settings so only friends, and not friends of friends can view. And I always get their permission first.

I would never put photos of them naked, even if in the bath, or on the beach or whatever, on the internet.

GypsyMoth · 22/02/2010 11:29

not really interested in why this is wrong....more interested in youtube removing it....worrying

Rockbird · 22/02/2010 11:31

Why is it worrying?

BattyKoda · 22/02/2010 11:34

I think your a bit of a nutcase for putting it on YouTube in the first place.

I still cringe when I remember my Dad showing holiday pics to my Uncle, which included one of me skinny dipping! Not sure how your children would feel if they found out that a video of them in the bath had been posted on the internet for all to see. I'm glad YouTube acted on their behalf.

GypsyMoth · 22/02/2010 11:37

rockbird....because the op cant see its inappropriate??

Nancy10 · 22/02/2010 11:42

This has to a joke really! You are either ingredibly naive or just plain stupid to believe there is no harm in putting a film like this on you tube for everyone to see. There are a million other ways for your friends/relatives to see it. Anyone with half a brain could understand why you tube removed it. Why did you feel the need to name change before you wrote your question????

Rockbird · 22/02/2010 11:43

Oh ok, I majorly misread your post I thought you were saying you weren't interested in why it was wrong, you meant it was worrying that YT had taken it down. Was preparing for a big 'this is a free internet!' speech!

Ziggurat · 22/02/2010 11:44

Nobody's saying don't share them - just not with the whole world, where you have zero control over how they're being received!

Think of the bigger picture too, as BigBadMummy says. It's not just a matter of you being OK with your children's images being available for everyone to see, but of children en mass being protected from less desirable aspects of society. This is just the thin end of the wedge, and while it's a shame that innocence can't be celebrated, it's not as simple as that realistically, is it?

Plus - again - it's their privacy I'd be thinking of!

Seriously - these points (and many that others have raised) are what I mean about being deliberately obtuse - I am really surprised that all of this needs spelling out to a grown adult.

sungirltan · 22/02/2010 11:47

!! i didn't think youtube were that responsible - maybe they are!

posting your dcs on the net should be an informed choice. once you post something online you lose control of it - even if you have a change of heart and remove it again.

i'm not sure what the t&cs are for youtube but if you read the facebook ones they state that ionce you upload content that fb have the right to sell it on to 3rd parties without asking you. i dont think the privacy settings over ride that either - they only stop fb users seeing the content. with all that in mind i'm happy enough to see photos of me (at parties/nights out etc) online but not my wedding and not my dc.

onagar · 22/02/2010 11:52

YANBU, but nowadays everyone will think you are.

Remember that celebrity? She sent photos of her kids in the bath to boots to be developed and they reported her to the police.

If you see kids in the bath you are supposed to go "awwww aint they cute" not "who can I report this too" which says a lot about what our society has become

2shoes · 22/02/2010 11:53

if you put stuff like this on you tube, your kids will be mortified when they are older.
just cos they are little, does that mean thay have no right to privacy

MillyR · 22/02/2010 11:55

It isn't the same Onagar. Most people thought it was acceptable for that woman to have pics of her kids in the bath. Photography places will develop those pics without reporting people.

There is difference between having photos of your children and distributing them to huge numbers of people.

Children should have a right to privacy.

KerryMumbles · 22/02/2010 11:55

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Rockbird · 22/02/2010 11:56

onagar that's totally different. Can you not see that putting naked images of your children onto the internet to be viewed by any mix of people out of the 1.67 billion odd who have access is totally different to getting one snap developed in Boots, an incident which showed just a complete lack of common sense on Boots' part.

It's not what our society has become, it's what happens when you open everything up to the whole world in one click.

ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 22/02/2010 11:57

There is a big difference between taking photo's of the kids and showing family/friends, and posting something on the internet which will exist forever and be viewable by anyone, IMO. I'm not someone who believe's there are millions of paedo's on every corner, waiting to leer at my children, but I do believe that my children should get a say on who sees them naked. Its a privacy issue.

tethersend · 22/02/2010 12:04

Onagar, paedophilia is not a symptom of our times.

Increased awareness is.