To want to buy a wooden trike for our 1yr old despite having wooden floors and neighbours underneath?

[Masalamama]

My lo is turning 1 and loves pottering up and down our flat. I'm dying to buy her a wodden lamb shaped trike, but I'm worried about the noise it'll make against the wooden floors as we have neighbours downstairs.

Am I being insensitive or should I take some comfort from the fact that our childless neighbours have kept us up until the wee hours of the morning for weekends on end with their dusk to dawn parties (some have ended at 8pm).

We've been at some of them too. They're all great friends...

Does it have to be wooden, as there are lots of other fab trikes out there, like scuttle bugs. However if you really want to get it you should, it may not even be that noisy.

YABU
I don't subscribe to Old Testament ideology

Seriously, I'd be really pissed off if I had to listen to the racket it would produce all day

And I live in a flat with 2 DC, and there is a DC upstairs

If I lived below you I would set fire to the thing.

I guess it would be okay for your LO to use during the day if they are out at work. Just not at 6am.

Would it make alot of noise?
Ds had a lovley wooden trike with rubber round the wheels. It didnt seem to make any noise on my wooden floors.

Do they work during the day ? Could you get a trike but only use it when they are out ?

Ha ha. I broke the news to the poor bugger gently over a glass of vino and he went pale pretty quickly. But my man stepped in with the rubber idea and we'd set the thing on fire ourselves if it was used too early/too late/too often. So I guess I'm buying one. Apparently they never hear my lo, but I swear she is SO LOUD that she almost bursts my ear drums sometimes!!

I meant 8am party ending not 8pm... ugh!

Having lived under neighbours with wooden floors I think you are inconsiderate anyway, despite their parties, so go ahead.

I used to live in an apartment and person above me had hard flooring (even though it was against Management Co rules). The noise was unbelievable. I could have told you how many times a night he got up to go to the loo! If he'd had a child and got her a trike to use around the apartment I would have been pretty p*ssed off. When you live in an apartment you really have to learn to compromise and that does, unfortunately, mean limitting what your LOs can do.Would it be possible to buy the trike but only let her use it in the park or out on the pavement and hide it out of her sight otherwise?

I think you are being unreasonable. The rubber-wheeled trike may not make a noise in your apartment, but may still rumble around from below (if that makes sense). Buy it but keep it for outdoors or if you know the neighbours are out.

Sorry, but I think YABU. Wooden floors are a curse in flats anyway (unless you're on the ground floor) and to expect someone to listen to a trike being ridden backwards and forwards isn't acceptable imo (rubber wheels or not).

However, they are also being unreasonable having loud parties when they know you have an lo. Maybe the threat of the trike will remind them of their neighbourly responsibilities.

Do you have somewhere to store an outdoor trike? We got one with a long handle when DS turned 1 and he loves it. It gets them outside and you can take the handle off when they're old enough.

The noise will be incredible. You know it would. YABU

what a horrible neighbour you are

YABU. If you live upstairs in a flat with wooden floors then I'm afraid there are sacrifices to be made. This is one of them.

PS. Two wrongs never make a right so I'm afraid you can't justify your unreasonable actions on the basis that your neighbour makes a quite different sort of noise!

Buy some rugs.

YABU

Alright ladies. This is what I am going to do. I am going to buy the damn thing and trial it with the neighbours downstairs listening in. I forgot to mention that we don't have exposed floorboards, and two layers of soundproofing under the flooring. We also never wear shoes in the flat and they can never hear us downstairs. Unlike the neighbours above, who have exposed floorboards.

If they think it's too noisy, it's going straight back! We have no outdoors... the alternative is a drum kit

Ok so if they say 'actually we can hear it' you will seriously smile, say no problem, and tell your kid that the trike is going straight back to the shop?

I dunno. I struggle to believe you actually will do that.

Also, will your neighbours not feel a bit awkward saying 'it's too noisy. take it back'? I know I would.

I'd say give it a go but if it is noisy take it back. We have wooden floors in our house and if someone is in the room above the kitchen the noise below is incredible - much worse than it seems in the room funnily enough.

Exactly. You can't put it onto them. It's up to you to keep noise to a minimum, not to them to tell you what's noisy and what isn't. If they're friends then they won't want to say your kids toys are noisy. You're putting them in an unfair position.