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Original poster

to buy the baby swing i want and tell dh it was alot cheaper than it really was?

56 replies

issysmilkbottle · 17/02/2010 22:13

ok... Dd is 12 weeks and a real pain with daytime naps, unless she lies on you she wont sleep and even then she has now started only taking 10-20 mins at a time, nightimes are good...

I would really like to get the fisher price smart swing which would last through toddler years but its around £90! Dh would have a fit at this price but all the cheaper swings end by 9 months or dont have music etc so to me it makes sense to get the fisher price one... aibu to get it anyway and tell dh it was half price or something?

I've been looking at ebay etc but none closer than 30-50 miles from me and all say pick up only... Wwyd?

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SpicedGerkin · 17/02/2010 23:22

My DCs hated them. They'ree not a guarantee to send baby off to sleep.

emmymama · 17/02/2010 23:24

oh, and its completely useless as a chair when you arent usuing it as a swing, my dd tipped it a few months ago and shes only 11 months now...

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issysmilkbottle · 18/02/2010 02:13

thanks for the offer emmy, unfortunately i think i'm about 200 miles away.... Interesting that your 11 month old tipped it though, i could see my little 'darling' perhaps being as awkward....

Re the lying bit, it wouldn't be malicious in intent and i'm sure no one else here is lying to hurt but sometimes men can be a bit harsh on us when it comes to essentials and yet happily 'waste' hundreds on beer/useless hobbies etc a year.... and i earn more than dh just about anyway so its not as if i'm spending 'his' money...

Mmm, mixed reviews about swings then.... Will check gumtree again tomorrow....

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tortoiseonthehalfshell · 18/02/2010 02:22

Buy it (although I agree that most babies are out of them well before 9 months, you do never know) and tell him what it actually cost.

You're going to have to make a stand sooner or later. If you lie now, you'll always lie and he'll keep thinking he has the right to dictate how you spend your money.

seeker · 18/02/2010 05:10

Well it you've earned the money yourself, why on earth would you not tell him what it cost?

threetimemummy · 18/02/2010 08:08

SKidoodle, Janeite - I completely agree. Why is it OK to lie to your other half? If you really want it that much, explain your reasons why, then compromise or he may agree with you.

izzybiz · 18/02/2010 08:12

I had the Mamas & Papas starlight swing dor Ds, it has a clip that you can use to keep it still for use as a seat, was the only way I could get him to sleep in the early days!
I got it on ebay, some people will do delivery, keep looking!

diddl · 18/02/2010 08:24

Why would you lie?
If you can afford it what´s the problem, if not-don´t buy it!

Wouldn´t baby sleep if you took her out in the pram?

That used to get mine off.
Then used to leave them in it whilst I also slept.

PfftTheMagicDragon · 18/02/2010 08:55

I think if you will use it, a swing is a good buy, Ds loved his. But after a certain age, they don't want to be in it so it's a false economy to buy a more expensive one on the grounds that they will get more use out of it. Once they can crawl and get about, they don't want to be confined to a swing. Both of mine used their swing for about 6 months or so, no more.

get the cheaper one, stop swooning after the more expensive one. we got a fisher price one from an nct sale and it was great, less than £20. You can have mine for a tenner if you like, in the midlands.

lou031205 · 18/02/2010 09:00

YABU

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 18/02/2010 09:13

Why not ask your dh to drive and collect one of the ebay ones? I assume the petrol wouldn't make them cost as much as a new one. Then if he refuses, you have a cast iron reason to get a new one!

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 18/02/2010 09:15

And for what it's worth, I don't lie to dh about how much I spend, but some receipts don't make it out of my purse and into his accounting system! I may also forget to mention the odd online purchase......

Skegness · 18/02/2010 09:20

I think swings are a bit marmite for babies. My daughter hated the one I got from ebay! I'd have been a bit gutted if I'd spent ££££££££££££.

JemL · 18/02/2010 09:20

Buy on ebay and have it couriered, or drive and collect. 30 miles isn't that far and your DD might nap on the drive!!

Honestly, you can waste so much money on stuff like this, and it only gets used for a few months!

Chulita · 18/02/2010 09:20

I agree with tortoise.
I also don't lie to DH about purchases because I'd hate it if he bought stuff behind my back.
And diddl, some babies don't sleep in prams...DD never did

diddl · 18/02/2010 09:27

No I know Chulita- I was wondering if OP had tried it.

I think it often has to coincide with them being sleepy also.

My pram also had a rocking motion.

SpicedGerkin · 18/02/2010 09:29

'But sometimes men can be a bit harsh on us when it comes to essentials and yet happily 'waste' hundreds on beer/useless hobbies etc a year....'

Let me correct that for you

Sometimes your man.

I think you'd do better to sort that issue out rather than start lying to him tbh.

If you are bringing in equal or more of the family income you have the same amount of say as to what it goes on.

Infact i'm a SAHM and I have an equal say on what our money is spent on.

I know most people on here who are saying lie or don't tell him, which is lying by ommission would do their nut if their DH/P did the same to them

ImSoNotTelling · 18/02/2010 09:43

not a swing but we had this one that vibrates and it was the only thing that would stop DD1 yelling. It was like magic!

Having said that DD2 can take it or leave it, she has sat in it and had a good play with the dnagly things though. Mind you the batteries for teh vibrate have run out so maybe that has something to do with it!

ImSoNotTelling · 18/02/2010 09:47

I wouldn't lie BTW but then if I said I needed something for the baby DH wouldn't be anyway. He'd just say fine let's get it. In fact it would be something for us and the baby rather than for me anyway IYSWIM.

Different people have different relationships though I guess, if one is having sneaky beers and the other is buying baby swings and that works for them then fair enough IMO.

GuntherMcKilocodie · 18/02/2010 10:23

Buy it if it makes you happy, but word of warning, my DD2 hates her swing with a passion and will not sleep in it for love nor money.

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issysmilkbottle · 18/02/2010 14:02

right.... Had a chat with dh this morning and i've just ordered the fisher price rainforest one from amazon for £39! Half price and about the same price as second hand ones in this area...

Dh is tighter than a gnats arse but paranoid about germs and tried getting dd to sleep this morning too unsuccessfully so agreed to the new purchase which wont lose too much as and when we sell on (we havent decided whether to have another dc yet...)

Thanks everyone for advice!

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ImSoNotTelling · 18/02/2010 14:07

Nice one issy hope it does the trick!

Chulita · 18/02/2010 14:12

Hope your little one sleeps like the proverbial baby in it

ouryve · 18/02/2010 14:56

YABU

If your husband has a real reason for not wanting to shell out £90 on something, then you don't want to be dishonest about it. I'm sure you'd be pissed off if he did the same to you over something that was hardly going to last a lifetime. Or anything, for that matter.

If you really can afford it, but he's being unreasonable, himself, then you still don't want to go behind his back. You're going to have many tougher decisions and compromises to make as parents together and if you can't discuss a baby swing with each other like adults and respect each other's views, then it doesn't bode well, IMHO.

pranma · 18/02/2010 18:40

be warned not all babies like swings.I bought a fisher price one for dgs1 because my step dgc had loved it so much.He hated it and so did his baby brother.Fortunately it was second hand so DD passed it on to someone whose baby loved it.

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