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Original poster

To put DD in nursery when I have the day off?

43 replies

PrivetDancer · 17/02/2010 10:43

I really don't think IABU but fully prepared to be put in my place

It's my birthday on Friday, and I have a strict policy of not working on my birthday, so am taking the day off! DD (18months) is normally at nursery on Fridays so I was planning on taking her in as normal and spending the day doing not very much, maybe watch This Morning, do some washing that sort of thing!

DH was when I mentioned it, and can't see why I want to do this. He's not being arsey about it but does think it's odd.

We both work 4 days a week so DD gets one day one on one with each of us, plus the weekend with both of us, and 3 days in nursery which she seems to enjoy, so I think she's got a good nursery / life balance

I will admit when I was pregnant, or when she was younger / not getting much out of nursery I would never have imagined doing this. But now I'm really looking forward to a day pottering around on my own. I'm not BU am I?!

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fernie3 · 17/02/2010 10:45

I put mine in nursery from 2 years old two mornings a week and I am a SAHM, so YANBU!

Northernlurker · 17/02/2010 10:49

No yanbu. I don't think I'm being unreasonable either in sending dd3 to nursery this week whilst dd1 and dd2 are at home with dh. They are having a lovely time doing stuff they can't do with her (6 years between dd2 and dd3 and 9 years between dd1 and dd3) and she is having a lovely time at nursery as usual. We are all having Friday off

It's not obligatory to have your child sellotaped to you at all times you aren't at work!

HappyMummyOfOne · 17/02/2010 10:50

Personal choice, not something I would do but we all have different views on spending time with/apart from children.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 17/02/2010 10:51

Enjoy, so much easeier doing washing etc without DC's in the house.

chelle38 · 17/02/2010 10:58

I agree if you have the chance to relax for a day with peace do it for yourself, your babs's in the nursery safe and happy playing with other kids, take time for yourself cause you are probably feeling, as well as a lot of mums are and I know I am that you have forgot how to relax and have a jammy day, fair enough shuv a wash on if you feel like you have to do something but take time out, have a super long bath, pamper yourself for a few hours.

Rejessta · 17/02/2010 11:00

Of course YABR. Think of it this way, happy mommy = happy child. It is imperative that you make space for yourself. Allowing yourself some special time seems like a perfectly responsible decision particularly when you consider that the alternative is feeling trapped and resentful, which is not going to do anybody any good.

So enjoy... and Happy Birthday!

TheFallenMadonna · 17/02/2010 11:01

I'd do it for sure, but I'd do something I couldn't actually do with child in tow I think. Not the bloody washing

nickytwotimes · 17/02/2010 11:03

Yanbu.

Perfectly reasonable.

Sounds like she has a very good balance, yes.

coralanne · 17/02/2010 11:09

Agree with TheFallenMadonna. Can't you go out to lunch with a girlfriend or something.

Having said that though, sometimes it is good to have a good cleanup first thing and then wonder around the house without things being mucked up behind you.

Rockbird · 17/02/2010 11:14

I have done this once or twice when I've wanted to spend a day off having a big de-clutter or something but I wouldn't do it if I was at home arsing. Your choice though, not a bad thing to do.

peppapighastakenovermylife · 17/02/2010 11:40

It's one day. It's your birthday! Do it! Its not like its any different to her routine anyway, you've probably already paid for it and you will have the weekend together.

My birthday was a sunday - grrr

mrsmindcontrol · 17/02/2010 11:42

YANBU. I'm doing the same today and it's not anywhere remotely close to my birthday. But I am preg and very very tired. So there.

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PrivetDancer · 17/02/2010 11:46

well actually the washing will be a bit of a treat as a new fancy machine is being delivered tomorrow as the last one just died.
I'm v lazy so would rather just have a day where I can do nothing than have to go out for lunch, and I'm out in the evening anyway.

And yes, I would have to pay whether she went in or not.

thanks - I feel vindicated

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LadyintheRadiator · 17/02/2010 11:48

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tortoiseonthehalfshell · 17/02/2010 11:51

I think this sounds like a wonderful birthday, to be honest. My daughter is 14 mo and I fantasise about being sick on a day when she's in nursery so I can spend it on the couch watching Dr Who (and, yes, cleaning) for a change.

You wouldn't feel guilty about sending her to her gran's for the day so you can have some time off, would you? And at 18 mo she probably really enjoys nursery, so same thing.

You have a great birthday, you reasonable person you.

nannynobnobs · 17/02/2010 11:52

I'm a SAHM and my DD2 is in nursery three mornings a week. She loves it and learns different things to what she does with me at home.
Plus I get to read the paper, eat a cake and sit on my own, do some child free shopping, pay some bills, go to the gym and a hundred other things that are just inaccessible or more difficult with a 3yo.
I hope you find something nice to do!

SarahMumtoAlex · 17/02/2010 11:58

YANBU, its your birthday, not hers. DH and I sometimes take odd days off just to be together and leave DS in nursery, its better for us than an evening with a babysitter and DS doesn't have any sense of missing out. You still need time alone even when you love being with your dc

bran · 17/02/2010 12:00

YANBU, I used to do this quite a bit with DS when he was little. I worked 4 days a week but paid for nursery 5 days a week (because they gave a discount for full-timers so was about the same price for 5 days as for 4). I used to have a day or half-day off about once a month. It was great for my sanity.

Lexilicious · 17/02/2010 12:02

hm, I posted earlier but it didn't show. All I was going to say was that I did this last Thurs (had a haircut and a pub lunch with DH) and so obviously I think YANBU . You have probably paid up front for your 3 nursery days perweek so why would you waste one?

And that it is also my birthday on Friday! I am having the day off but it is our non-nursery day so I am going to play with baby on my birthday.

MarineIguana · 17/02/2010 12:09

YANBU, we have a similar set-up and I do this several times a year (usually to go shopping by myself and have a haircut). It is great for your sanity as a mum and as a hard-working employee to have the odd day where you do exactly what you like and have total freedom - so, though I would be out for the day, if washing and pottering is what you want to do, you should.

And as it's your DD's routine day in nursery, you could argue that it's also better for her not to have her weekly pattern disrupted anyway.

babyOcho · 17/02/2010 12:14

We've done this a few times. DD loves it there anyway, and a couple of times we have dropped her, headed into town for some shopping and lunch in a restaurant where it's not child friendly

Plus, you're paying for the nursery day anyway.

EssenceOfJack · 17/02/2010 12:15

YANBU about keeping her routine and sending her into nursery, I am a SAHM and DD1 went to the free nursery place every day from the age of 3 and DD2 will do the same.

Howver Y AB totally U to be thinking of staying home and doing the washing, you weirdo.
As FallenMAdonna nd others have said, at least do something you can't do with a child, go to wine bar for lunch/clothes shopping/massage/haircut/cinema!

beeny · 17/02/2010 12:18

Enjoy yourself put her in nursey.

ronx · 17/02/2010 12:22

YANBU.

My DS is at the childminders today. I'm having a mass clear-out this morning, taking stuff to the charity shop and getting my eyebrows done - and this afternoon I will spoil myself by putting my feet up with a cuppa and a crap film on TV.

These quite times don't come round very often - enjoy them!

Have a great birthday!

OtterInaSkoda · 17/02/2010 12:36

Seriously, make the most of it. DS is at school now and DP and I both work full time. All my leave gets taken up by inset days, ds being poorly and so on so I never get to piss about at home on my own. I am most

HappyMummyOfOne - why wouldn't you do what the OP's doing?