more or a wwyd than aibu.
a few weeks ago I got an email re a friend's 40th. it just said to keep the date free. I replied saying great we'll see what we can sort out kid wise. so not so much an invite and an acceptance - all rather casual, but the implication was that we would come.
a couple of weeks later we get a follow up with details.
the friend lives about 3.5 hours drive away. he was in dh's year at uni, dh was his best man. I was at uni with him too so obv a close friend of mine as well. we see each other as families a lot and until recently lived about 20 mins apart. last night I had a moment of horror when I realised that the party is the night before I am meant to be doing a 22-mile rather awesome running race - it's not just any old road race it's a mountain/fell race across stunning wild scenery. it happens once a year. it fills all its places. it's near where I live and next year I may well not be living here any more. and obviously I've been training for it.
we see the friends a lot - they;ve visisted us since we moved, we went away with them over new year and going away with them again a week after the party.
if I don't go dh will still go.
[if anyone who knows me reads this I will be instantly recognisable...I've never bothered hiding on mn]
so what would you do? be gentle with me...I post with no preconceptions about what I should do. I guess the only thing you can slate me for is for even asking. but surely, in their inner thoughts, most people would have at least a wee bit of uncertainty