to be thinking about re-homing my bloody cats?

[Spidermama]

We've had them since kittens and they are now two and a half year old.

One of them is fine. She's out most of the time. She brings in live prey from time to time (rats and shrews) which isn't ideal but she's a cat and I could always get her a bell. My only real beef with her is that she's very fluffy and gets shite caked round her arse.

The other is very beautiful, more timid than her sister and doesn't go out very often. She is pissing me off and every day I want her to go and live somewhere else. She's always after me demanding and being needy. If it's raining she has been known to poo indoors. I've been tolerant up to now but that tolerance shattered when, last week, she squatted down and pissed in my hangbag. I was right there watching.

I grabbed her and locked her out for a few hours. Since then I haven't really been able to make up with her and I just don't like her. I want her gone.

Up to now I have never understood how people can re-home their pets, but I just feel she's too demanding.

Also why the hell doesn't she hang out with the kids? They're great with her. Why is it just me she wants?

I know they are s'posed to be part of the family blah, blah, blah, but I want her out.

Sounds to me like you would be doing the cat a favour! Poor thing, living somewhere where it's not wanted/liked

If you know it will poo inside if it's raining why don't you get it a litter tray? If you know it's needy why don't you set aside a bit of time to play with it/cuddle it and then it will leave you alone?

Please re-home them! Poor cats!

I'm not regressing to a litter tray. She'd never bother to go out again.

I used to cuddle her and she repaid me by pissing in my handbag! Why doesn't she bugger off to the other five members of the family who have more time to pet he?

I can't help the way I feel. I got cats because my childhood experience of them was great. I never knew anything about their poos and wees because they were so discreet.

Maybe you'd like her LisaD?

To be fair it doesn't sound like you really like either of them. Give them to a little old lady who will adore them!

Yes, please get them re-homed. It sounds like it would be best all round.

Maybe contact cats protection and ask for them to be put on the re-homeing list but give them a home until they are.

A litter tray is useful for precisely this- my cat will always 'go' outside if she can but if she's been in all night and is desperate she'll use the tray.
You know, cats are attracted to the people who like them the least- Desmond Morris said so!

Sceamingeagle what 'stress and issues'?

YABU. Sometimes, when cats are ill they will start soiling indoors - if this is unusual behaviour from her then I would consider that she might not be well if I were you.

I have to say you sound as if you want a couple of accessories rather than actual pets. Animals are much like children in that they often do things that we don't want them to do but it surely shouldn't mean that they are shown the door if they 'misbehave'.

On second thoughts, perhaps you should get them re-homed as your negativity is probably being picked up on by your timid cat and making her even more needy.

Spider: If you had asked me last week I would have jumped at the chance if you were local but we got a kitten on Tuesday!

Sorry if my reply was a bit harsh, I am pissed off at something else at the moment and yours was the first thread I saw, sorry.

Although I do still think, given that you seem fed up with the cats and don't sound like you want them, then yes, you should rehome them.

Nanny I think mine would always rather go inddors given half the chance. She rarely goes out even though there's a great garden and railway cutting she could be hunting in. Maybe she would be better suited to an old lady who would like the company. The last thing I need is a cat following me around. I have never come across such a needy cat. She's always after me.

By the way don't get your knickers in a twist ladies. I still feed her and she sleeps on my bed etc etc. I just haven't manage to summon the nuturing spirit I had for her before she pissed in my handbag.

No Eagle. Not I.

I am, however, on my todd with four children this cold half term while DH swans around abroad and am also facing the prospect of being alone throughout the summer holidays and the Easter holidays. I need to put in place some self preservation.

It's a sad situation which reminds me very much of what we went through with our cats when DS arrived. Our cats would poo regularly in the sink and weed in my labour bag when we were approaching 40wks. When DS was 3 months old I was just so stressed out with them and they were obviously unhappy too so the best thing for everyone was to have them rehomed. Give it a while though, and try different things to curb the behaviour that's annoying you first. I do miss our cats sometimes.

I can understand your annoyance (we had a cat who completely lost it with house training as a result of going senile), but please bear in mind that most rescue centers are full to the brim with cats, so that means that many of them will be put down because there isn't a similar surplus of old ladies needing cats.

Why don't you post in the pets section - you might find that someone has some good ideas for managing your cats' behaviour.

Disagree about needing a litter tray if they have access to outside. We had cats growing up and they never had a tray- always went outside- we had a big garden. They never went to the loo inside, although I guess some are a bit more fussy about going out when it rains.

Got two cats now. When we get a house,(we're in an apartment at the moment so the cats are confined to barracks) I will scrap the litter tray as I really hate having one inside. Both cats are ex-dumpster divers so they are well versed in outdoors living.

Spidermama- I know what you mean. One of mine has these tendencies (intermittent) and some days he really really gets on my nervesas I cannot do anything without him being literally in my face. Fortunately, he gets the message after a while, so we rub along ok. I think so long as you find her a nice new home, you shouldnt feel guilty. Cats aren't like dogs- they adapt to new owners pretty quickly.

I feel your pain. Our 15 week old puppy has just ripped a hole in DS2's favourite t-shirt. She put a hole in a pair of trousers DD had possessed for 15 MINUTES the other day and I had to pay over $100 a couple of weeks back to replace a friend's DD's "best party dress" while secretly being unimpressed that she had shown up in a velvet party dress for a normal weekend lunch when we had just got a puppy! (and yes, I am taking her to puppy training classes!). Of course I know it's "normal behaviour", "she's only a puppy" etc. etc. but I think if she pissed in my handbag all bets would be off

I do agree that pissing in one's handbag is a bit much!

Cats do sense things They do mark with urine so she is probably trying to get a message across peeing in handbags is quite common and a real PITA.I think maybe you are stressed in general and the cats are an extra thing to think about and tbh an easy target for anger(not a criticism I have been there)The calmer you are and the more routine cats experience the better ime.If you really feel no connection do rehome them as someone else would prob love them xx

i am really sad to read the whole thing but have a suiggestion about the other cat who gets a poo bum. we have a white fluffy cat who had this problem- it's horrendous innit. we found out that the food we were giving him was too liquid (a mix of dry and wet food with a bit of water added). i cut out the water for a while and the problem hasn't happened since. maybe you should try her on a different food of some sort?

if this doesn't help you should ask a vet as apparently cat poo is meant to be like rocks!

the cat you don't like presumably follows you cos she likes you- isn't that a compliment rather than an annoyance?

PS it sounds like you might have too much on your plate to read this but this is a guide to why cats wee indoors. it also suggests how you could clean your handbag, otherwise she might re-offend:

www.fabcats.org/behaviour/spraying/info.html

Was it a nice handbag? Cos if it was a crappy one from Primarni then YABU, the cat did you a favour.
If it was a Mulberry or somesuch then I would look in the yellow pages for a local taxidermist and YWNBU.

It's not a compliment to have a cat following you if it has nuggets around its' bum, it's an embarrassment.
Have you considered shaving it?