To think my friend should have kept her mouth shut

[CradleSnatcher]

My friend has a lovely neighbour how I have a bit of a secret crush on (see here), but I confided in her about it and she went and told him about it.

He has approached me and said that he feels the same and if I want we can do what all his friends are accusing us but just keep it secret.

I don't need this, I do actually really like this lad, but wouldn't have acted on it until he was at least 20... now this has come up it is really testing my boundries...

I just keep thinking we might as well if we keep getting accused of it...

[not entirely surprised]

If the OP wants a shag and the boy is experienced enough and that is all he wants then maybe fair enough.
My DS and more than a few of his friends would be a bit freaked out. A few others I can think of would definately find it difficult.

I would not regard a 23 year old who is shying away from relationships with her peers, and who is veering towards the obsessing about this one, as a great emotional move for my son.
[scary bitch mother]

Great shag tho...

TBH part of me cares about him in a nurturing kind of way, neither of his parents bother with him at all, him living alone wasn't his choice, his mum had an affair and fucked off with her fancy man and his dad then fucked off too.

I find myself nagging him a bit to make sure he is eating properly, going to college, looking after himself.

Part of me just wants to wrap him up and protect him, his parents have hurt him massively, I can see as plain as day but he won't admit it.

Rightyo.

?

If I found out a 23yr old was chasing my 16yr old there would be all hell let loose!

I have no problem with age gaps, there's almost 5 yrs between me and my DH BUT neither of us were CHILDREN when we met.

Leave him alone, sort your won head out, and move on.

"fancy man"?? How old are you really?

This is bollocks.

It's not even well written bollocks.

2/10.

gwan, shag him

and then work your way along the queue of 16 yo boys who will be waiting outside your house when they find out

I am sure Closer magazine will be be very interested in your experiences...

nagging him to eat properly and go to cllege, worrying about the hurt his parents have caused him, wanting to wrap him up and protect him

and....also wanting to boff him

leave the poor little bugger alone, he has enough to contend with without your predatory manipulating crap. Wake up and see how tawdry this is.

Please stop posting things.

I really don't think age matters. If you want to mother him, do so.

If you want to shag him, do so.

if you want to do both, go ahead.

But please stop posting about it, there is no point.

I have heard that crazy makes an excellent shag. Where was that? Dexter maybe?

I have shagged 22-year-olds when I was in my late 30s, no harm done to anyone, an evening's entertainment, end of.
Mind you, when I was about 35 there was this lovely wannabe rockstar type who was a friend-of-a-friend, utterly gorgeous. I got properly chatting to him one night and we were getting on massively well - until he mentioned that he was only 17 and I felt a switch flip in my head from pulling mode to 'mummy' mode.
I don't think that pursuing this teenager is a good idea for you or him Op as you sound too messed up to do anything other than mess him up and yourself as well. THough in a general way, there is nothing wrong with a mature 16-year-old having a non-manipulative older partner for a friendly, no-strings shag or two.