to not change the sheets

[chandellina]

My MIL is coming to stay tonight and has already advised me that she is bringing a sheet and pillowcases so that I won't have to change the duvet after she leaves! I assured her it was no problem, but now that I think about it, the last person to stay was SIL (her daughter) and SIL will be staying again in a week.

Since I wouldn't mind sleeping on my mother's sheets and vice versa, AIBU to leave them in place?

Or should I just get her bloody son to take care of things and change the sheets twice? ;)

you have guests you change the sheets.why you dithering?

never mind the bedsheets, what the hell are poo crumbs? does no-one here wipe their arse?

think they mean arse biscuits.body detritus

again! arse biscuits?? I thought that was a fart? [annoyed at own stupidity emoticon]

go google like everyone else instead of hanging on for answer

arse biscuit,not fart.think solid and resembling triple choc chunk

oh yes how silly of me! I'll just fuck off now then.

oh come on!you wait aimlessly or go google in seconds.dont grasp why if you can find something out you need random others to come and explain or link something you'd find on google anyways

bitty learned helplessness
dont be so wet- you do it

of course I can look it up myself, but where's the fun in that? did it ever occur to you that I might want to interact with someone even if it's not "rl"

"hanging on for an answer", "bitty learned helplessness" how insulting! So sorry to have pissed you off, but thanks so much for taking the time to set me straight about how we do things her on MN

I honestly can't believe that people who had had children and presumably potty-trained them, etc, are still so bothered about a few bits of body detritus. I would be perfectly happy to sleep on sheets previously used by my mother. And I am not a filthy slattern. I am very clean.

here

so you do know how to google!clever ole you.now go google crabbit as in "you are crabbit"

I would sleep on sheets that only my Mum had slept on for a night, and vice versa.

OP - I would change the pillowcases but leave the rest.

Getorf - I know from previous threads on this topic that you change your sheets daily, so by your standards 99.9% of the country are probably slatternly in this area!

Me?! ha! anyhow, that mild spat of handbags has done the trick and I'm off to bed

no way would i google "arse biscuits"
asking for trouble

well, I think it´s fine.

Changing sheets does NOT take 2 minutes. You have to get them off, put new ones on, and then launder, dry and (iron?) the old ones.

It´s just another job when you have 100 jobs already.

Mind, I only started doing this when MIL let us sleep in beds 2 or 3 people had slept in before us. So I now take the relaxed approach for her and my SILS too.

For other people I DO change the sheets

UPDATE: I changed the sheets last night for MIL. But we never spoke about it, so I don't actually know if she went on to use her own sheet and pillow cases. Regardless, I will change the sheets again after all the guilt imposed by this thread.

Now wonder if I am slacking in changing my own sheet. I used to do it faithfully every week but it has slipped recently to two weeks. (mainly because drying is such a hassle in the winter and Dh freaks if I use the tumble dryer.)

that's a WHOLE other thread

How do all you people who are icked out by someone else's sheets manage sharing beds with your partners?!

OP, I don't think it is gross what you were suggesting. Not for a mother and daughter, when you are a busy person. But I guess the answer is whether you would be happy to tell them that - if so, then fine. If you would be a bit embarassed, then it's not fine. Simple as that.

You are not a scuzzball like people have said, just trying to be practical. Nothing wrong with that

Lol Alibaba.

See, I now feel redeemed by LeQueen's post. SEE SEE this is why I change my sheets every day. Tis not just madness. Is sensible.

Yes it does only take a couple of minutes to change sheets. Yes, it takes some time actually when they are being washed and dried, but unless you have a twin tub you are not actually doing anything whilst they are washing are you. And no, don't iron the damn things.

Plus only change them every day in summer, in winter every other day.

you are officially crazy! though i do have fond memories of working as a nanny in Italy, and the maid hanging out the sheets each day in the sun, and ironing my knickers too.

Chandlinia - I know. I am very sad aren't I. Oh well. It's just that I really like the feel of clean sheets, and plus me and DP don't wear pyjamas, so if we only changed the sheets once a week it woould be like wearing the same t shirt for a week (in my head anyway).

Why does your DP not like you using the tubmle drier? When it is freezing it is the only way to dry big things like sheets and towels really. I know it costs but is better than having sheets draped on airers all over the house.

My mum always insists on bringing her own bedding (sleeping bag, sheet pillow case etc), so all we did last time was put on a sheet and some pillow cases on the pillows.
When she arrived, she'd only brought a duvet cover, which she wasgoing to use as a sleeping bag, so we had to put a cover on a duvet and wash the whole shebang after she left.
It was a right faff!
I would not want to sleep in sheets that other people have used, unless there's a really good reason why it's necessary. I once borrowed some socks off my Mum and got a fungal skin infection on my ankle that it turned out she had picked up after stepping in a slurry pool whilst out walking - and had not thought to mntion before lending the sock!

There are far too many responses here from the houseproud so I've come to redress the balance.

Leave the sheets. I wouldn't have a problem sleeping on sheets that my mum had spent a night on. I don't see why anyone would unless they have family who are dirty skanks.

Anyone who suffers from poo crumb problems really needs to learn to wipe better