To tell this 'friend' off for being, well, just disgusting?

[Rosieeo]

I suppose this is more of a 'what would you do'?

I find one of my facebook 'friends' depressing. Everything she says is a cliché or at the very least the kitsch-est expression she can find. Everything's a drama. Everyone's against her. She posts jokes as her status that I find annoying ("Woman answers phone and pervert on the other end sez "have u got a big fat sweaty hairy cnt". Woman sez ," yeah he's laid on the fckin sofa, do u want him!")

Today, she posted this as her status: "15 year old paki next door has asked me for a water fight so I thought I'd txt u while I boiled the kettle". Nice. Really nice.

So I have a choice between a)de-friending her quickly and quietly b)replying to her status expressing my disgust and then de-friending her or c)posting something derogatory on my status and then de-friending her.

Or am I being unreasonable?

I should say that I went to school with this woman. I do remember her (vaguely) but we've never been friends and I haven't seen her in 15 years. Not even sure when I accepted the friends request.

this is a non-question. are you really deliberating over this?

move on. de-friend, whatever, but just move on. don't you have a mortgage to worry about or summat?

i like fb, btw. for keeping in touch...not keeping awake at night

B

She sounds absolutely fucking horrible.

she sounds like she's the 'big hairy cunt' not her husband!

I had a friend like her many moons ago. She wasn't racist but she became horribly coarse in her humour and a bully - it's often a front to hide deep insecurities.

I just moved on quietly as I suggest you do. You don't want to start entering into big showdowns with these sort of people.

Glad you did B, that was my choice

What'd you write?

you can report her comment, not sure what FB do - if they send the person a message about their offensive status? I would remove her from your friends list, this is the problem with accepting old school friends that you haven't seen for 15 years, theres a chance that they've become ignorant, racist idiots.

I delete anyone who writes racist claptrap, an old school friend invited me twice to join an Islamaphobic group knowing I'm married to a Muslim!! FFS! and then the dozy cow kept inviting me to be her friend again!

Another old school friend keeps writing comments about how outraged she is that the UK is donating £50million to Haiti..... some people just beggar belief.

Most of the time FB is a good reminder of why I don't live in the UK anymore!

LOL, It hasn't kept me awake! It just happened. I'm stuck at home with a bug that's tapering off and had a look at Facebook. I acted pretty quickly to de-friend, but just wondered what other people thought. Isn't that what this forum is for?

I don't see that it's more insignificant than any other daft AIBU post, it just seems that lots of people don't like Facebook!

B.

What did you write in your reply?

I have reported her. MrsGubbins, I know what you mean - this woman even has some of our Pakistani friends from school on her list!

Connie, I can't remember exactly what it was. It was pretty pathetic I think, something like "that's really unpleasant. You're rude, racist and stupid. Just horrible and I'm sick of reading your ridiculous statuses". how rubbish am I at the witty put-downs?

surely her "joke status" about boiling a kettle to have a water fight with the pakistani child, could be seen as inciting racist violence?

That's utterly disgusting. I would have made a comment before defriending her too. People like this need telling-publiclly.

Why are you still in touch with her? From reading what you have said I am offended.

Report the post and unfriend her. Now.

Ali, I know, it's nasty isn't it? I'm not in touch with her as such. I went to school with her but didn't really know her. I received a friends request a while ago and then saw the above comment this morning. I followed the B option straight away (well, after posting on here in disgust/amazement) and have reported her.

I have to say that although I am disgusted, I'm not altogether surprised to see that kind of unthinking racism and nastiness from some people in this (and my, I suppose) area. It seems to be endemic to a degree. Another reason to add to the moving pros and cons chart.

Oh my, that status is sooo disgusting that I didn't even get the point about boiling the kettle until MrsGubbins spelled it out... I thought she meant to make a cup of tea and therefore the objection to the status was to do with her use of the word 'paki', (which in itself I think is offensive.)

Oh dear, she does sound like a nasty piece of work. Best off out of there OP.

I think she sounds a right larff!!!!!!!!!!

I'd be her mate n that coz she is well funny and you lot ain't got no sense of humour!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

B

To say nothing makes you complicit in my opinion.

Hully, you've missed a few exclamation marks off.

thank god you've defended her.
she sounds vile.

Feck, have just reeelized my grammatical error in post of 12:14:34. its' utility, not it's utility

or is it ? help !

oops, i meant defriended fgs, i can't type!

jamie: it's catching!

you were looking for its

B. She is awful

Don't be friends with people you don't like.

Just because there are morons on facebook doesn't mean that all of us who use facebook are morons.
There are quite a few on here too, and you are not morally superior becuase you haven't got the hang of don't use facebook y'know.