not to want random neighbour using our internet?

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New lady has just moved in next door, I popped round earlier as the lights were on to say hello but no answer. She knocked on the door just now (as I'd just got dd out of the bath...) to say hello, she's moved in just for 2 months and can she use our internet connection please, will pay for it etc?

I don't feel happy about this because a) who knows if she might use it to download lots of dodgy stuff, b) she might use up all our bandwidth, and c) even though I know there isn't a security problem with things like online banking, I'm still not totally convinced.

I know I probably should let her in the interests of neighbourliness, because it's a big faff to set up just for a short time. But then again if she's only there for 2 months it doesn't matter if we don't get on that well?!

So, AIBU to say no she can't use it?

no yanbu at all!

YANBU

if she is happy to pay for it, why doesnt she just get a dongle thingy?

YANBU. Tell her you're just about to be cut off for not paying and ask her to let you know when she's set it up so you can use hers.

I wouldn't. Do you have download limits? You don't know what you'll get charged for.

And what if she's an iplayer addict? You'll never get to use your connection!

yeah tell her to dongle off

No, tell her to get a mobile internet dongle if she is only there for 2 months. If she walks into an O2, Orange, Vodafone (etc) shop they will be able to explain it all if she isn't technical.

Just say you have a very low data limit package and don't want to share it as it would use it up.

Also there ARE security holes if you are sharing your wireless connection with someone unknown. I doubt she does want to steal your bank details as she wouldn't be so upfront, but the first two reasons are fine.

Cheeky cow to have asked! As she's not there for long, I wouldn't even think twice about appearing rude. I'd just say no.

YANBU at all. How did she dare asking? What a cheek? You know nothing about her, so I would definitely say NO.

YANBU - I'd suggest the mobile internet dongle thing too.

YANBU. I would go with what BertieBotts said, as it's polite but not really possible to argue against. May as well say no in a way that won't piss her off (just seeing you have to live beside her for two months).

YANBU.

Though at least she asked. My BT gateway thingy broke a couple of months ago and the replacement came with OpenZone on by default and a range probably covering our whole village - had it on a couple of days before DH realised I picked up several users within minutes of turning it on. We disabled it, though AFAIK there actually isn't a problem if its OpenZone, they aren't using your bandwidth or able to access your computer.

OMG noooooo don't let her.

On my street some of the networks are named things like 'PRIVATEATNUMBER27' and 'PRIVATENETWORK' maybe do that and she will get the hint!!

I can't believe the cheek of her to ask! Say no.

Good heavens. Is this some kind of AIBU first? Not a single dissenter. I was expecting to be told I'm being a real meanie and how unfriendly.

Right, shall gird loins and tell her no tomorrow.

Maize we're called something delightful like BThomebhubQ24X9Z48. Whereas the neighbours do have their house numbers in the name, which strikes me as a bit daft as their passwords are bound to have the cat's name in etc!

yanbu. Go and check your network is secure in case she tries to piggyback on it.

When I (was 'we') first got broadband it wasn't set up securely and a neighbour was pinching it, I had to pay a few quid extra every month to cover it . XP thought it was me MN-ing too much .

Tell her to try the local library? That's what I did when I first moved in here and had no internet (thank god, it was pre-MN otherwise I wouldn't have been able to cope!).

I think it is a bit wierd that she asked! So in that case I would definitely say no.

If it was me, I would let her, as it costs me nothing. It would take her weeks to set up an ISP. And the mobile companies don't do Dongles unless you pay for a full year.
But if you don't feel comfortable, just say no.

YANBU- DON'T even consider this- this is why. Our niece moved in to a flat across the road last year, and we agreed she could use our wireless on her laptop as it (just) reached her house. She has completely abused it, downloading anything and everything she fancies. As a result, our broadband has been throttled, reduced severely as we have overused it in the preceding 24 hours, and in the evenings we can barely load a page. She is away now which is the only reason I can get on MN.
I am seriously annoyed, she has completely taken advantage of us.
On the plus side, she asked us to feed her fish while she was away. She left her laptop on and downloading stuff while she was away. So we have changed our wireless key and we will tell her no more free internet.
Don't share internet- no good will come of it!

Absolutely not. You don't know her and if she's only staying for two months she could have all sorts of dodgy scams going which could be linked back to you! Has she not heard of internet cafes?

amnon - you can get PAYG dongles. I have an O2 one which I got when my broadband died and I had a really urgent work deadline. Think it cost about £20 including a couple of hours online.

You can definitely get pay as you go dongles. I think it is a recent thing.

If they were not available then I would think it was a reasonable-ish request (though not unreasonable at all to refuse either) but as they are, it's like someone saying "Can I pop round and use your phone every time I want to make a call?" when a sim card is not exactly expensive!

A pay as you go mobile broadband dongle is a useful thing to have anyway as you can use it if you go on holiday etc.

I have a t-mobile PAYG dongle for when I'm away from home. It costs about £20 per month. Connection can be a bit crappy, though.

So what did you say to her? 'I'll think about it and get back to you'?