not to want random neighbour using our internet?

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New lady has just moved in next door, I popped round earlier as the lights were on to say hello but no answer. She knocked on the door just now (as I'd just got dd out of the bath...) to say hello, she's moved in just for 2 months and can she use our internet connection please, will pay for it etc?

I don't feel happy about this because a) who knows if she might use it to download lots of dodgy stuff, b) she might use up all our bandwidth, and c) even though I know there isn't a security problem with things like online banking, I'm still not totally convinced.

I know I probably should let her in the interests of neighbourliness, because it's a big faff to set up just for a short time. But then again if she's only there for 2 months it doesn't matter if we don't get on that well?!

So, AIBU to say no she can't use it?

goodness no.wouldn't share internet access with neighbour.weird request.eugh dont share - its a slippery slope next she will to asking to borrow your husband

It was very rude of her to ask and I'd be inclined to say no on principal, added to which you don't know her. However, to be fair, in my previous house I used my neighbour's internet connection via wireless through the connecting wall (at his suggestion of course) and paid him the cost of his monthly standing order as I was aiming to move and was loathe to commit to a 12/18 month long contract.

It worked perfectly well, neither of us abused the situation nor did we suffer any loading/bandwidth problems. Fine perhaps for people who have known each other for some time and trust each other but in your case I think a no is reasonable and not unneighbourly, just sensible.

No. I've turned down a similar request from a neighbour and never regretted it, even though we cross paths frequently. I thought it was a really out of line request.

YANBU - you don't know her, she could use up your're bandwidth and (depending on your ISP) you could find yourself restricted under a fair usage clause. At worst you could end up with cease and desist notices or threats of court action for illegal downloads of music or movies.

i wouldnt feel comfortable with that either. cup of sugar is less complicated.

I'm planning on knocking on the door to say hello this morning so will say no - she caught me very much on the hop last night as I was holding a dripping baby and instead of just giving an answer said "I'll have to check with my husband" - there's an internet cafe at the end of the road so it's not as if she'd be completely out of touch with the world...! English isn't her first language so might have to be straight rather than subtle but that's probably for the best.

No way, cheeky mare!

She should bloody well sort herself out

Cheeky so and so for asking.

I would definitely say no. You don;t know what she may download.

Well I share with 2 neighbours.. cheap and no problems whatsoever. We do know each other fairly well though and I dont know if I would have dared to ask someone I dont know... but if you dont ask.....

I dont think its that much of a problem really so I think YABU just a tiny bit.

Perhaps she would also like to sleep in your bed, use your cooker and borrow your hair straighteners?

No, YANBU at all - she is though - tell her to use the library!

It's not rude of her to ask; it's not rude of you to refuse. I've lived in places where we've all shared a connection, and others where I wouldn't care to. Perhaps it would have been better manners to invite you in for tea and get to know you for a bit before asking, but she's just making an offer.

As Leningrad says you can hide your ssid so that the neighbours can't see your internet connection at all. Important to also password protect it.
sharing should be a mutual agreement where you pay half and half and if you do share you can still have it hidden etc so that you don't share it with all the neighbours.

You should also check your ISP terms and conditions, as lots forbid sharing of wireless between properties.