to think that renewing your wedding vows is a bit tacky and naff

[sincitylover]

Hardly even post here and really shouldnt be watching This Morning but isntthere something really uuugh about renewing wedding vows - the wedding dresses not a good look on middle age women (and I speak as one myself)

Whats wrong with just celebrating significant anniversaries?

YABU why not! I dont agree after a short amount of time, but to celebrate a milesone like (30,40,50) years of marriage than why not, what a great achievement! As some posters have said, some couples have been through so much heartache or tragery in their marriage and have got through that, why not reaffirm their love and committment for each other in front of loved ones. Gosh sorry about my spelling its dreadful!

We're going to renew our vows on our ten year anniversary. We're not inviting anyone, though, and plan to do it on a beach with our DC as part of a holiday. Don't see the problem, tbh, it only matters to us.

If it makes them happy, why not?

yes fimble hobbs its the tackyness of it not the renewal per se.

And you can still have a party - my parents just celebrated their 50th

There is a woman on there who can still fit into her wedding dress which is great but its one of those meringue things.

Also surely if your marriage so great you should be generally adhering to the vows?

Yes, I agree Fimblebobs.

I have to say, when my DH had an affair a very long time ago, we worked through it and re-built our marriage, but for a long time afterwards I became a bit obsessed with renewing our vows. I really wanted to do it and yet I'm not religious, but for some reason it felt very important to 'mend' them.

Anyway, we never actually did renew them and that feeling of needing to do it just passed eventually. But I think when (not if!) we reach twenty-five years, it would mean a lot to me to do it very quietly, no family or fuss-maybe combined with a special holiday.

So I would be one of the 'had-an-affair-and-patching-it up' stereotypes!

Ah, so it´s the meringue dress that is the problem!

we will be married 25 years in September we wont even mention it to each other i have nothing but respect for people who are in love and want to renew their vows it must be lovely

NOOOO! Step Away from the meringue!!!

ME and DH will be married for 10 years next year and were planing on renewing our vows/have a party. When we first got married we didn't tell anyone, nobody was there, so it seems a lovely way to celebrate 10 years.

Just flicked This Morning on in my lunchbreak and saw the mass renewing of vows. OMG it's like a moony wedding!

OOps, just looked up the moonies on wikipedia and it seems this can be a derogatory term. I'm very sorry, I didn't know that, thought it was the bona fide name.

Only - that's very sad.
We do feel that it's something very special to still be totally head over heels in love with each other after 25 years of marriage -
it is a private thing, just for us , hence the doing it in Vegas bit.
We could have done it on holiday on our actual silver anniversary next month but I don't want a load of other people gawking at us on the beach or whatever.

YANBU - got married once,had the big day, that's enough. personally though I can't be bothered with a big fuss so quite happy with the way things are.

But if you wanted a big day for your wedding, you should have had one, or saved and waited to be married until you could have a big day. There's nothing wrong with a small wedding, and there's no need to justify a small wedding by saying you will have a big reaffirmation of vows later on.

Have a big wedding, or have a smaller wedding, but do it when you get married. really, weddings are not that interesting first time around, let alone watching someone do it twice!

YANBU

It is naffola , especially with wedding dress etc.

well i think YAB a little U - DH took me to vegas as a surprise for our 10th anniversary and we ended up (after a few cocktails) having our vows renewed by Elvis.

It was brilliant. A real laugh (we were both wearing jeans so not at all taking ourselves too seriously) and we both got a little emotional as well.

It was a good feeling reliving it all over again

there seems to be a trend of naffoid celebs having a renewal ceremony to raise their profile and feature in shiteous publications... most of them have been married for a ridiculously short time.

i have a horrible feeling this trend will spread.

YABU

I would love to renew my vows with DH when we are older. We eloped and got married mid ski trip. Would go back in however many years time with DC's in tow and re do vows in a heartbeat. But I wouldnt make it a public thing/ wear a wedding dress.

I would get ridiculously pissed again though.

I want to renew our vows at one point.
I don't actually remember our wedding. I was very ill and actually passed out at the reception and was hospitalised for over a week, so I really don't have any good memories.
And the photographer's camera broke, so I don't have any wedding photographs.

So yes, we plan at one point to do it again. It's 20 years this year, so maybe we should give it some thought...

I want to renew our vows as well.

It would be very small - only our very closest friends, some of whom we did not know when we married first time round. It would aslo be the kind of thing I wanted first time but was not assertive enough to insist on for fear of upsetting relatives.

The DSs will be there, and it will be a way of celebrating our family as well (we are atheists and did not have them Christened).

Celebrities can make anything seem naff

YANBU OP and Dragon- I agree with both of you. Truly cringe-making. Renewing vows is very naff and very tacky. Looks like we are in a minority of three though...

I've got a nasty suspicion that vow renewal is going to be another essential and craptastic element of the wedding industry - rather like "themes", and matching chair covers and chocolate fountains. So if the original day wasn't enough like a tabloid mag spread, 12 months later you get on everyone's tits all over again by demanding more white dresses, more "save the farkin' date" magnets, more besuited "paige" boys, and more opportunities to piss off your friends and family by doing the Bridezilla number. Or rather the Somewhat Tarnished Bridezilla number...

People who quietly, and with real meaning, renew their vows after, say, 25 years of marriage are doing a different thing altogether.

I've got a nasty suspicion that vow renewal is going to be another essential and craptastic element of the wedding industry - rather like "themes", and matching chair covers and chocolate fountains. So if the original day wasn't enough like a tabloid mag spread, 12 months later you get on everyone's tits all over again by demanding more white dresses, more "save the farkin' date" magnets, more besuited "paige" boys, and more opportunities to piss off your friends and family by doing the Bridezilla number. Or rather the Somewhat Tarnished Bridezilla number...

People who quietly, and with real meaning, renew their vows after, say, 25 years of marriage are doing a different thing altogether.

Sorry for double post. The database ate the first one and assured me it had gone nowhere. It lied.

I'm glad you can see the difference Pikelit.

Having another public wedding , is not renewing your vows, it's showing off.