DP flies into a rage if I turn a blind eye to this, which I do from time to time. Now a huge sandwich I would veto, but I just can't summon the energy to get excited about a biscuit. It's different upbringings. In my (middle class) family food was around and available and we all enjoyed our meals, but my mother wouldn't bother herself if we nibbled beforehand sometimes. Also - sometimes I get hypoglycaemic if I wait too long to eat, so I just think - don't suffer, eat!
My DP looks back and in his mind's eye he sees the setting of the farmhouse table, the 'come right NOW or else', the rigid rules, the 'eat everything up' mentality. In my relaxed family, we used to drift in to the table with our books. But we knew if we left it too late there might be nothing there, so we did come.
I want harmony above all things in my house, and I also wish to hell he would just leave it to me!!
He starts yelling and moaning at him. It's not pretty. I don't want issues over food. Everyone gets upset.
AIBU?