Ever since me and DP got together he has made it clear that he is in charge. Even though he denies this, he makes it obvious in other ways.
It especially becomes apparant with the kids.
If they ask if they can have something, no matter what I say ... the end result has to come from him.
Like at christmas, my kids are used to having a stocking at the end of their bed. He refused to allow this as it wasn't the way he does things. (first christmas together).
My kids are used to being allowed to open their birthday presents on my bed in a morning. He won't allow this anymore.
Yesterday the kids asked "what's for afters" after their tea. I was just about to speak when DP shouted "yogurt".
The kids then scurried off to get yogurt.
What he says, goes. If I was to say something else, the kids would look to him as if to say "Is that ok?"
I'm sick of it.
Tonight, the kids asked "what's for afters?"
DP immediately said "fruit".
I added "or, you can have a packet of crisps."
Anyway he immediately rubbished my suggestion saying "no way, they're not having crisps" etc and the kids scurried off to get fruit. I got annoyed and went to the kitchen and said "you can have crisps if you want, it's the weekend after all" (bare in mind they've had no crisps or sweets at all today and they have a very healthy diet otherwise).
Anyway he went absolutely nuts. Started shouting and screaming at me. Ffing and blinding, calling me childish etc, he got really realy angry.
I tried to explain that I have as much say in the house as he does and he just got even angrier.
So, was I in the wrong here?