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my coffee table is vibrateing- i want to slap the neighbour

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drloves8 · 05/02/2010 16:33

my coffee table is vibrateing with the noise, its oak ffs!. the downstairs neighbour is playing crappy music very loudly.(or her teenage nightmare of a son) .
i want to slap them.ive a headache.

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Curiousmama · 05/02/2010 16:34

YANBU

Have you been in touch with enviromental health? Sounds awful

drloves8 · 05/02/2010 16:39

no , will they do something?. ive phoned police in the past about the same thing, they just get them to turn it down, then it goes back up when police go. neighbours from hell.
i havent bothered this time...whats the point?

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drloves8 · 05/02/2010 16:41

feck i thought they`d turned it off for a minute there, but no luck - must have been changing cd or summat.

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drloves8 · 05/02/2010 16:48

ahhh silence !

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taffetacat · 05/02/2010 16:50

I used live below a nightmare neighbour. It all degenerated - I was fed up of being woken at 3am during the week by his parties ( pre kids obv!) and despite asking nicely nothing changed.

I lost it one night, started banging with a broom on my roof, he just turned the music up so I went and banged on his door. He answered the door and put a large gun to my forehead.

I retreated, shaking, and drove straight to the police station. They were lovely, and despite me deciding to withdraw the charge as I wanted to be able to sell my flat without having to lie to the estate agent or buyer, they nailed him on some other charges.

It was a deeply unpleasant experience. My only regret is that I put up with it for so long.

Is moving an option for you?

< sending much empathy >

drloves8 · 05/02/2010 16:58

I wish i could move , we just cant afford the rent for a private house (its about £500+ for a 4 bed)and we cant get a mortgage since i gave up work to be carer to dd4.)
Im praying that they move instead (or at least the son does).

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drloves8 · 05/02/2010 17:01

Taffetacat - i am ed at your neighbour from hell. A gun ? i hope he`s locked up far far away.defo sounds unhinged.
You must have been so frightened.

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taffetacat · 05/02/2010 17:05

Fingers crossed for you.

TheArmadillo · 05/02/2010 17:05

You should contact environmental health.

They will usually ask you to keep noise logs for a certain period of time as evidence and they may also test the noise levels to see how high they register.

They can take court action etc against the neighbour. They are also good for advice and telling you what your options are.

Should be based at your local council.

IS the other flat privately owned or owned by a housing association/council? If council or HA you can contact them to complain about their tennants. They might have proceedures they can follow.

expatinscotland · 05/02/2010 17:07

'ive phoned police in the past about the same thing, they just get them to turn it down, then it goes back up when police go. neighbours from hell.
i havent bothered this time...whats the point? '

we have a neighbour like this. thankfully he's on the run from gangs, because he's a drug dealer and user, too, and is laying low just now.

i'm so fed up of the police not being able to do jack shit to these assholes!

they know it and just turn the music up after the cops leave, the bastards.

they're a blight on peoples' lives and they truly just don't give a shit about anyone but themselves (and drugs, in this guy's case).

fuckers.

taffetacat · 05/02/2010 17:09

It wasn't one of the good times in my life tbh. Moved a distance away to feel safe.

Horrid neighbours can be just a nightmare, I do feel for you.

drloves8 · 05/02/2010 17:18

expat , @ your on the run drug dealer neighbour ! omg . Thats awful
My neighbour is not a dealer , shes an alcoholic and its her son that causes all the trouble in the area. Hes 15 , so thinks he`s invincible ....twat in the making imo.
I think there should be a way to check what the neighbours are like before you take on a house. Its just a question of luck at the moment.

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expatinscotland · 05/02/2010 17:23

thing is, you can have good ones when you move in, then some twat comes along.

it right pisses me off.

i have zero sympathy for addicts now, too, for having had to put up with their violent and anti-social behaviour through no fault of my own and being stuck next to twunts like this. over and over again.

have you bought a EuroMillions ticket?

MrsChemist · 05/02/2010 17:32

My friend had this problem for a while. She contacted the council and she had to fill in log books about the noise, and towards the end, she would call them up and the would come round to witness the noise. They got a warning, which they did't heed and then they had their stereo and TV taken away from them. If they bought any others, they were taken away as well. They got an Asbo, and then got evicted because they hadn't been paying rent anyway.
The worst they could do to her for complaining was make more noise, which just hastened their stuff being confiscated. Idiots.
She would also occasionally go down to the basement, switch off their mains power and leg it out the building. That isn't a very long term solution though, and only really works if you have access to their electricity box thing.

drloves8 · 05/02/2010 17:41

I know what you mean expat...end of teather, and all that. boils down to selfishness imo.
DH usually gets lottery tickets , i dont.
MrsChemist ive got a stack of those forms.Harrasment diaries their called by our council.Makes no difference.i was given harrasment points on a waiting list but there is no houses left so its useless to try and move.(i know , its council housing , but we do pay the rent and council tax,)

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drloves8 · 05/02/2010 17:52

feck feck feck its started again.

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drloves8 · 05/02/2010 17:57
Confused
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taffetacat · 05/02/2010 18:13

large glass of something strong

put your music on

breathe deeply

heQet · 05/02/2010 18:18

Do you have a cliff richard or barry manilow cd or something? Classical music? Something that you know they'd HATE? Put it on full blast, see how they like it!!!

heQet · 05/02/2010 18:19

or classical music. I don't think cliff richard is classical music

GlendaTheGrizzlyPiggy · 05/02/2010 18:30

Drloves8 I could of written that post. We have the same sort of situation.
We live in a lovely maisonette on a cul de sac of young families & elderly people but our upstairs neighbours are hellish.
The woman is in her 40s, her partner is in his 20s and her teenage son lives with them.
At least once a week they get drunk, coked up and have violent screaming arguments. We can hear what they are screaming with depressing clarity.
The police are regularly round to either break up the fight or to arrest the teenage son for theft or drugs or both.
The night before I was due to go into hospital to be induced with DS the police raided the house at 2am on a drugs bust
All the neighbours are joining forces to try to get them evicted. We can't take much more.
Blimey sorry that's quite long. It's very theraputic to write it all down.
I really hope you manage to get it sorted out

taffetacat · 05/02/2010 18:46

how about some SuBo?

maristella · 05/02/2010 18:58

really sorry you're going through this. i know what it's like, and it feels like your neighbours are kinda invading your home
every time it becomes anywhere close to unbearable, call the police. if the 101 number operates in your area call it every time the noise in unreasonably loud. the 101 is a link between the council and the police. they log every call you make and pass it onto environmental health.
also speak to environmental health, they will give your neighbours notice then record their noise levels for approx 2 weeks.
also keep a diary of the noise probs, that way a pattern can be easily communicated to the authorities.

expatinscotland · 06/02/2010 00:32

I just fed that dope dealer's niece tea and painted her nails without even knowing who she, or he, was.

Man, how fucked up.

That's the brightest kid I've ever met.

I usually have a lot of kids in here at evenings. DD1 made friends with a little boy who lives in this building and he comes here and we don't mind he put the word out.

I'm usually here on my own and I feed them what I can and make sure they're not all in the street acting ghetto and here is safe and warm.

Kids need a place to go.

She said, 'I don't know why he acts like that.'

She's 10, ffs. She's into Harry Potter. She spent a long time looking at my bookshelves.

There are three of them in here. It's fucking mess but there are rows of bookshelves and I'm the only who who is over functionally literate.

So I told her to just pick whatever book she wanted and she could have it.

And earlier I'd told her about this guy downstairs and how all these people are after him, trying to get in, getting in, screaming they're going to kill him. Because, well, it's not like they sounded like they were here to play bridge.

I had two blokes with Eastern European or Russian accents wrap on the door softly and when I said, 'Yes', say, 'We were just checking if there were someone else in this close' and slide a £50 note through the letterdrop.

I stayed up the rest of the night afraid they were going to petrol bomb this dude's flat and kill all of us.

I was out on the balcony (okay, I was smoking a fag). And she says, 'That's my uncle Andrew down there,' worry all over her beautiful face.

WTF do you say to that?

I said, 'He needs to sort himself out.'

WTF. That girl probably all worried about him.

The police are after him, too. I've seen him, he's a good looking fella.

What a fucking waste!

LegendLay · 06/02/2010 01:39

why did i laff out loud? too late for giggles

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