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My husband doesnt get jealous..ATALL, no matter what I do??

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LadyVolupta · 31/01/2010 19:21

Ok, my husband Is a very laid back guy most of the time unless it involves me spending money, its the only time he gets angry,!!....I know I really shouldnt complain, ...but When we go out for a few drinks, I always get rather drunk, and I tend to 'flirt' I suppose, I dont know at the time what Im doing, but I know I am overly friendly with people, (men), My husband is always with me and see's me dancing with other blokes, but is completely unfased by it, ..he will simply tell me the next day that I was dancing with someone, and laughs??...Ive been with him for 6 years, we have two kids,..basically I cant beieve he isnt bothered that Im practacally hanging off other mens necks sometimes when Im plastered, He tells me that he knows that I wouldnt cheat on him and that Im just drunk and being silly?? (basically I never act provocatively, more like a person that has just been let out in the first time in years (close to the truth))....all my friends blokes would react in the complete opposite...Im confused??...He is always very very frienly with women, and has a very good way with them, being a son of a mother with a womans clothing shop which he was brought up on) am I being paranoind to think he is letting me be like this because he has a guilty conscience??...Or Am I just very very lucky to have such a cool bloke??....he works away btw home for a few days a week??

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butadream · 01/02/2010 17:08

Well it is obviously fine to drink and dance with men but I do think, even though it's wrong, that it can provoke an adverse reaction with the other men either getting too keen or upsetting the other men's partners.

There is therefore a strong argument that we should ALL do it and then noone can make anything of it.

ImSoNotTelling · 01/02/2010 17:26

lequeen happy days

babyball · 01/02/2010 18:02

YABU - You are extremely lucky. If he is with you at the time, he knows that he can trust you. I think people tend to get a little bit flirty when drunk. We all want to feel attractive to the opposite (or same) sex. I lived with a jealous partner for 5 years. He threatened to commit suicide if I wanted to go out with work mates for example. He also tried to stop me going to uni to get my degree as he felt I would "shag someone else". I went in the end, he came with me and did that himself! My current husband is completely trusting of me and it is so much better for your soul to be treated like an individual who can be trusted and is free to go out with male friends and have fun.

LeQueen · 01/02/2010 20:01

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MumtoEliane · 01/02/2010 21:56

"but my point was that he doesnt mind when im dancing with other blokes when im pissed."

WTF? why should he??? as everyone has said, he trusts you. Simple!!!!!!!

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