My husband doesnt get jealous..ATALL, no matter what I do??

[LadyVolupta]

Ok, my husband Is a very laid back guy most of the time unless it involves me spending money, its the only time he gets angry,!!....I know I really shouldnt complain, ...but When we go out for a few drinks, I always get rather drunk, and I tend to 'flirt' I suppose, I dont know at the time what Im doing, but I know I am overly friendly with people, (men), My husband is always with me and see's me dancing with other blokes, but is completely unfased by it, ..he will simply tell me the next day that I was dancing with someone, and laughs??...Ive been with him for 6 years, we have two kids,..basically I cant beieve he isnt bothered that Im practacally hanging off other mens necks sometimes when Im plastered, He tells me that he knows that I wouldnt cheat on him and that Im just drunk and being silly?? (basically I never act provocatively, more like a person that has just been let out in the first time in years (close to the truth))....all my friends blokes would react in the complete opposite...Im confused??...He is always very very frienly with women, and has a very good way with them, being a son of a mother with a womans clothing shop which he was brought up on) am I being paranoind to think he is letting me be like this because he has a guilty conscience??...Or Am I just very very lucky to have such a cool bloke??....he works away btw home for a few days a week??

thanks, yes, I will stop acting like a twat when im hammered,(well i will try) but my point was that he doesnt mind when im dancing with other blokes when im pissed.

cherry is your OH usually attentive otherwise?

OP, are you very, very young ?

< realises that is the 2nd time I have written that tonight >

Ah anyfucker that is because some of us are old gimmers compared to most MNers these days.

I feel like Methuselah on here sometimes....

Here's a radical idea... why don't you NOT get utterly plastered?

Then, you'll be in ... shock horror ... control of yourself and not throw yourself at other men

And you might even have fun!

What a bizarre thread. Neither DH nor I do the jealousy thing. Because we both know that whatever the circumstances/temptation neither of us would act on it. It is known as trust.

Do you not want him to trust you?

Um, it;s not against the law for a woman to have a few drinks and a dance, with men

The implication that she might bring some kind of trouble on herself is so depressing.

Our local is great like this - everyone has a few, and everyone gets up and dances. It's a wide mix of ages and everyone is having a laugh. Dancing with someone of the opposite sex (who you've probably seen in there for years) is not construed in any way, it's just a laugh. Sounds like the same at the s local from her posts.

OP I would be pleased that your OH is sensible and trusts you.

If we went out to our local and I was dancing around a bit pissed with everyone (not that I drink anymore but anyway) DH would be pleased that I was enjoying myself.

Your dh can't win really can he, he lets you get on wiht it and do what you want so you think he's hiding something. If he was a jealous type you'd be complaining you couldn't even talk to a bloke wihtout him thinking your doing something you shouldn't.

Op said "dance with someone of the opposite sex, like I said not in a provocative way, more stupid if anything"

I son't think she's doing sexy moves and lambada.

I'm thinking more grease megamix

Your dh sounds very grown up, you should try it.

ISNT, if the OP herself feels that her dp ought to be jealous about the way she is dancing and getting suspicious of him when he isn't- then that rather suggests that she is trying to provoke him, doesn't it? She knowns this is what happens when she drinks, she hasn't cut down on drinking and now she thinks there should be some kind of reaction from her dh. If she is just having fun and being happy and not trying to be provocative- what is she doing on this thread? Or more specifically, what is she doing in her OP?

Cory is right: if you are doing something where you think your DH should be jealous, stop it. If you are doing things where he shouldn't be jealous, be glad that he isn't.

Oi, Orm, quit with the walking stick.

WHy do you think your H should be jealous? Jealous people are pathetic, nothing is a bigger turn off than a possessive whiner. Did someone tell you once that 'real' love is obsessive monogamism and frantic policing of the other person's behaviour? Because that's bullshit.
Or is it that you feel your H is neglectful generally ie he never seems to notice you or find you attractive himself?

I read it that the OPs mates boyfriends, and her exes, would not have allowed this sort of behaviour, and it is confusing her that he doesn't mind her dancing and having a drink.

Not that she's trying to provoke him, but she knows that many men would go bananas if their OHs danced with another man.

She says "Am I just very very lucky to have such a cool bloke??"

The answer is Yes, although I think his behaviour is normal TBH.

Lequeen: Why 'poor him'? The OP isn't sucking other bloke's cocks in front of him. She is just dancing with other people and being friendly - behaving, in other words, as you describe yourself doing. IF it's all right for you and both your H and hers are 'normal' for not getting all whiny or aggressive about it, why is her behaviour not all right?

her behaviour is all right

her looking for a reaction from her DH seems a little wrong though...

I used to love drinking and dancing with men...