to have dumped this guy?

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Seeing this guy for a while. He was ok just a few iffy things that bugged me. After we became er, intimate. He would not cuddle me or touch me because he was "too hot" and didn't like to touch me until I was "cleaned up". I eventually became quite upset by this and showed it, he said that I was overreacting and really could not see the problem. Actually ended up making me feel as though I was being totally high maintenance and it is still bothering me and I am wondering if I was and it is only a small thing that I shouldn't get worked up about.

Have name changed as embarassed. Actually would like some opinions on this and some ideas as to what kind of fuckwittedness that is, psychologically I mean.

Agree with dittany, go and get your stuff, that will make the ending more final, but don't give him the impression that you are meeting up to talk things over or with the possibility of a reconciliation. He just doesn't want to loose his regular sex.

You have no obligatoin to justify why you wnded it or to 'talk it over' with him.

a friend is a good idea, possibly even leaving the car running outside, so it is literally a drop in to get stuff.

lucky, lucky escape

if you live anywhere near me pleeeeeeeease could I be the one who goes with you ???

just so I can remind myself what a true fuckwit looks like

Was thinking maybe a public place for a coffee or drink and ask him to bring stuff with him. We live quite far apart so it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask for a equidistant meeting place.

when I lived in a poor country people went straight to wash after sex, they also tended to wash their hands before eating in a way we've forgotten here because medicines weren't easily available. However, cuddling was always allowed on return!

Presume he has a Westernised background? If so...He sounds like one to avoid. Maybe he uses prostitutes and is used to finishing and going?

I'd let the stuff go if it's just books and toiletries.

Yes, he is from the UK.

Well just wanted to quickly update because frankly I am staggered by this.

I met up with him to get my stuff. I actually went to his place, unaccompanied because I felt pretty safe and confident. I was there for about half an hour, during which time he tried to kiss me about 10 times, when I sat down on the sofa, he actually came and sat astride me and tried to kiss me and touch me and basically just seemed to have real difficulty taking no for an answer. Managed to get out in one piece and as I left he said "this doesn't have to be the end you know, even though you have behaved like a complete DICK today!" I can only assume he felt that way because of my lack of response to his overtures.

So there you go. I feel that I have had an extremely lucky escape. I shudder when I think about him now so thank goodness I got out early on.

You are well out of that one. You probably want to just move on and forget about it now, but what he's done today could be considered assult.

I did think this while he was sitting astride me actually Seabright. It was pretty stomach churning I can tell you. I was quite intimidated actually and didn't tell him crossly to get off like I wanted to because I thought he might get angry and that might not be a good thing. In the end I sort of whimpered that my legs were going numb and could he move please. Horrible.