to send a pissed off text to DH about porn?

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

About a year ago we got 3 porno films on our virgin media bill. DH swore blind he didn't order them. Virgin admitted one had been a mistake (ordered when I was only one in house so I knew it was) but the other two were when I was away for the weekend and they didn't budge. I thought it was possible that DH either didn't realise how much they would cost or that I would find out (phone bill in my name).
Anyway, I gave the benefit of the doubt but said in future if you do want to look at porn please can you find free stuff online as I don't want to waste money on porn thank you very much.

Have just got the phone bill and there is another one on there from a night I was at my parents'. DH is away with DS now so I text him to the effect of 'why the fuck have you ordered a porno when I told you not to and you know I have to pay the fucking phone bill - plus with the calls you made to morocco the bill is huge and now I have to pay it, why the fuck do you think it's ok to order porn to our phone bill'?

I relented and text him saying 'i'm over it now but please don't do it again'. So - AIBU? Is it a big deal? (not the porn watching, but the ordering it to our phone bill without telling me and leaving me to see it on the bill, plus pay a fiver for his jollies)

YANBU, I would be furious. Surely he can go one night? I'd make him give you the money for it, or at least spend it on a nice box of chocolates to make up for it!

I will don't worry! He can go many nights - but I don't even care if he has a wank or watches porn - but not bloody pay per view that I have to bloody pay for!

Hang on a minute - given that Virgin admitted they made a mistake in the past, is it not possible that they have made another mistake? Or has your H admitted it?

YABU to text him. Why can't people at least speak to each other any more??

Haha Kat fair enough Well if you are so good about him watching porn in general, he is definitely taking the piss! A lot of women would crucify him just for watching it, never mind having to pay for it!

Depends if it was "trade tv" .

God have you seen the trailers for PPV porn on Virgin? - god it's grim, especially the readers wives one, DH said he'd need a sick bucket handy to be able to stomach one of them. They are right next to bloody film 4 as well.

Can't you just tell him that he should pay the bill?

Help your self to money from his wallet/bank and pay the bill

1- he's in a van somewhere between spain and morocco hence the text
2- virgin definitely didn't make a mistake - all of them have been late at night when I've been away
3- he didn't admit it last time, but I didn't believe him
4- he almost never watches porn, I don't think he knows how to find it online - maybe I should tell him?

I reflected and think I might have been a bit U. I have a couple of dirty books and a vibe which all cost money so maybe he should be able to pay for porn. It just seems such a waste of money - especially, as Mal says, the virgin media porn is total crap apparently - my friend said they don't even show penetration, so what's the bloody point?

Yeah I'll get the money from him, of course. It's only a fiver but that's not the point. Thing is, he knows I do the bills and especially now as he'll be out of the country for 2 months so I'm taking from our savings which seems a bit wrong!

YANBU. He should pay for it and then grovel and beg for forgiveness. You are so good to be completely OK with porn anyway, he's taking the piss.

I doubt he doesn't know how to find porn online.

Even my DH , who doesn't watch any kind of porn, has heard of redtube and xtube, purely through other blokes talking.

Is he from Morocco / has relatives there? Just curious with you saying he had ran up a bill to there and was going there for 2 months with your son? Is that right?

TBH if I have your situation correct I would not be daring to send him arsey texts - unless he was on his way back that is.
I'm sorry if that seems harsh but it was my first thought once I had read through thread.

He should pay for it.

Virgin media are famous for making mistakes though they once said I had ordered some boys gangster film (18) five times. I told the man on the phone that when I watch The Bill I have to hide behind a cusion so why the hell would I order this scary thing 5 fuckin times?!

you should download a load of suitable porn for him that is to your taste, give it to him for valentines day and maybe watch it together

WTF?

Ok, have to bow out of this thread now. If I read it rightly a poster has just suggested that my husband might abduct my son because I sent him an arsey text about him downloading a porno film.

I really can't engage with that - sorry.

I read it that way too Kat! What are you talking about Silver??????!!!!!!

Is that really what Silver was implying?

Um, is it just me, or is there anyone else out there who actually wouldnt at all be cool with their dh even watching porn in the first place??

YANBU there is plenty of free porn online, its just sheer laziness ....

Nikita - I feel the same as you, and would not be at all cool with it ...feeling like he wasn't getting what he "needed" from me?
I guess it depends what kind of relationship you have

I think so!

have calmed down slightly...so, um... he's my husband. He loves me. He has taken our son to see his family. I am going out in two weeks for two weeks then he will come back a month later. I know where his family live. They like me and would have no interest in helping to abduct my son. I have a stake in the shop that DH owns there. Under Moroccan law a married couple who separate have to share assets and custody always goes to the mother - so even if he were planning to ditch me and attempt to raise our son there I could go over, get the police and have DS returned to me forthwith.

Not that that's actually a possibility, you understand, the fact that he's moroccan doesn't automatically make him a child stealing bastard...

lmao nicely put kat!!

maybe it was the fact that he watches pron which makes him a child stealing bastard - although as a morrocan who watches porn its a double whammy and clearly he has taken your child never to return ...

GetDown that's good, cos was beginning to wonder if I was some sort of throw back there for a while!