to ask this woman to move away from us?

[Mummy2Scarlet]

I was in town with DD(6) this morning after taking her to the dentist and we were waiting to get the bus back to school.

As we sat and waited on a wall, a lady came and sat next to us and lit a cigarette. DD has asthma and so I moved us away, but the wind was still blowing the cigarette smoke into her face and she started to get wheezy from the smoke. I need both hands to manage her inhaler and spacer and so we had to sit back down on the wall again next to this lady so I could give it to her. As the lady's cigarette smoke was clearly making DD wheezy, I asked if she would mind moving away a little and I think I was as polite as I could be when I asked her. She refused and so I had to sit, trying to give DD her inhaler next to someone who was smoking a cigarette, which really upset me.

Anyway, the bus came shortly after and we got on and DD was fine, but was I being unreasonable to ask her to move?

Personally, I'd be happy to see some smoking pubs. But what about the other establishments such as cafes and restaurants? It's tricky isn't it? It wouldn't be a problem if all smokers were more considerate. I say All, because some smokers are very considerate.

thesecondcoming well quite - everyone knows if you sit at the next table to drinkers you can develop cirrosis from the fumes.

No no no to any smoking pubs. What about the poor staff who would have to work there? You cannot subject staff to this vile, stinking carcinogen.

secondcoming, the smoking and non smoking option was far too sensible and accommodating the those disgusting fuckwits that still smoke.

I should really try to keep out of these hysterical smoking threads but I cannot help it.

Ripeberry if you want somewhere for your children to play in the summer and don't like smokers then go to the bloody play park as that is what it is designed for.

Right now .

YANBU, but I take it, it was a small wall and you couldn't sit further away from her the 2nd time? If not she might have just thought that you had deliberately sat next to her, with the inhaler, just to make a fuss about her smoking.

It works the other way too you know. Non smokers can be rude and unreasonable towards smokers(I'm not saying that you were BU op). I was on the outside platform of a train station, just after the smoking ban. I sat on the furtherst bench away from the door, quite a walk away from the station. and lit my cigarette. The bench was empty, as were the other benches before the one I sat on. A woman walked up and sat next to me, started coughing and told me I wasn't allowed to smoke inside the station and could I put my cigarette out as it was making her ill. I refused and pointed out that I was not inside the station and she could have sat on any of the other empty benches, where she would have been well away from me and my smoke.

As i'm fully aware but those are not comparable situations! Someone sitting on a wall drinking won't give a child an asthma attack!

YANBU.

Smoking pubs would have to employ smoking staff obviously. Everyone has a choice about where they apply to work, so non-smokers need not apply. (Stir...stir...)
I agree that smoking is different to things such as drinking and dangerous sports, where people damage themselves. Nobody has suffered ill effects from the fumes rising from a Scotch and Soda. Although, come to think of it, I do think I've suffered ill effects arising from Rugby Player Fumes.

Alcohol misuse and addiction does have a very severe impact on other people, actually. Causes aggression, criminal behaviour, public disorder, vomit and pee in public places, puts an intolerable strain on families, uses NHS resources. And that's just off the top of my head, am sure if you looked at the AA website and medical journals you'd find much more.