now that we are financially comfortable, and could actually afford all that lovely baby stuff, I am too old

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whereas when I was pregnant with my first and my second, we were skimping and saving, bargain hunting, buying and selling on ebay, etc,

and now?
I am old, sad and fat. (and slightly drunk) But we could quite easily afford babystuff.

How old?

you could buy one of those little rat dogs and outfit it with a wardrobe of clothes, jeweled collars and designer carry bags

Tulips, I am not THAT well off. We just wouldnt have to skimp and save.

I am 37

its all a waste of money spend it on more wine

Yeah well by your reckoning I shouldn't have had either of my children.

37?? Hardly old. I had my first, and only, two weeks off my 42nd birthday. If you want another baby, get on with it!

I know what you mean. We could have afforded some really swish baby stuff for DS this time (he is 11 months) but when i was pg with DD1 17 years ago it was all about scrimping and saving.

I didn't have anything for DS this time round as there was a fair old gap between him and DD3 but i just COULDN'T bring myself to spend £500 - £600 on a pram, or £250 on one of those bedside bed thingys - i spent a fair bit on an aponea (sp) alarm but that was for my own peace of mind and enabled me to sleep a bit more easily.

I'm old, happy and fat - but think that you don't have to spend loads anyway, it's fun to but doesn't last them 5 mins anyway so hence have Ikea cot and Graco buggy

That's life's great irony.By the time you can afford it, you don't want it.
I'm old and sensible enough to turn down 'free' booze in posh airport lounges.

37 NOT too old! Don't be daft. If you want another then try and have one. If it doesn't work, cry, buy shoes and carry on. If it works buy baby stuff.

The expensive babystuff is crap anyway. You'd be hugely disappointed with it.

It's naff to buy expensive baby stuff anyway.

It's a great law of life that you will have most money when you least need it. At least you had lovely babies even if they didn't have lovely baby stuff (I'm sure they didn't notice).

Doesn't wine cost a fortune in Norway? Too much maudlin drunkeness will probably result in a return to poverty.

Agrees with Moondog.

YABU. Don't mean to be narky (although I know I will sound like I am) but I started trying for my first at 37 and over 2 years later I am still trying with no success and about to start IVF.

At least you do have 2 kids and presumably they do need stuff still and will in the future. Why not spend that money on a nice holiday or if you are really keen to have a 3rd you could always try assisted reproductive techniques if you really think you are too old or fat.

I was 37 when DC1and only was born. We could have afforded some nice stuff, but didn't. I am the third of 4 children, was a student for 7 years and can not depart from a lifetime of thrift.

Buy bedlinen and icecream insread [wink.

lol at you lot. Would you believe I spent £6 on this half bottle of Chenet? (at least it comes in a half bottle)

No, I dont mean I woule go berserk, just that we can get a nice moses basket, Cot, pram from mothercare without worrying.
I am too old and mature to be swayed to get silly expensive stuff (like you, moondog, I would pass up free stuff from airport lounges, etc)

Maybe I am not too old in AGE, but in body, I had such horrible spd with my last one.

But dh has wanted to ttc nr 3 for a year now, and I am just eating myself silly.

Some of my colleagues are off to (regulalry attended) conference in Norway this week.They take wine boxes and sit like students in tiny extortionately priced hotel rooms as too expensive to go out.

Yep I know how you feel.

When I got pregnant with DD she was a happy accident - just one contraceptive mishap and I was pregnant. Me and DH (then DP) were NOT prepared at all, we weren't even living together at the time and were both very skint.

Now I'm married, with a mortgage and a loft full of baby stuff, in an excellent position to have another child, but I can't bloody get pregnant

Such is life.

DuellingFanjo, I must seem ungrateful, and I hope you have success with the IVF. I have a friend about to start IVF, she has tried for many years.

But I couldnt walk for nearly 6 months after my last, and got very bad pnd, I am just worried. And I have so much other shit to deal with that a baby probably should be the last thing on my mind. However, I am not getting younger, and it might be a blessing.

Spend it on your DC and holidays

God, don't have a baby in hope of dealing with your present low mood.I can't think of anything more likely ot plunge one even further down that the inevitable incarceration that a bay brings.

mondog a 20cl bottle of wine from your hotel fridge usually cost £20, so even I would bring my own. In the "wine monopoly" (state run wine shop with regulated opening hours) your average bottle of good wine cost £15, and a nice chablis £25-30. I usually go for something around the £11 mark. Which in the Uk would be £5-7.

I know what you mean. With DS1 (not planned but very happy) we lived in a one bedroom flat, we had no money and I had PND. Everything was a struggle financially and emotionally.

Now we live in a lovely house and there is a teeny bedroom that would have made a lovely nursery. I never had the baby room thing. I know it is a waste of money but it still would have been nice.

NO! I would not have a baby to cheer me up!