Not to give up the bariatric chair for the obese lady?

[AKMD]

I?m 33 weeks pregnant and had an obstetric consultant appointment yesterday afternoon. The antenatal clinic waiting room was packed and there were quite a few women standing up as there weren?t enough chairs. I had been waiting for over an hour as the consultant was running behind schedule and was sitting in the specially wide, reinforced bariatric chair as that was the only one available. A lady came in who was clearly very obese, looked around and saw me sitting in the bariatric chair and came over to stand beside me. Was AIBU not to spring up and offer her the chair? I would have done if there had been any other seats free for me to move to. I did feel a bit bad about it afterwards but TBH I'd been waiting to sit down for ages and felt that she could wait like everyone else.

i too have never heard of a bariatric chair but i will be trying to slip into conversation from now on to see if Others have heard of it

If she wasn't struggling to stand then I think you were ok, I was just playing devil's advocate. I think being heavily pregnant gives you rights to parking spaces and toilets anyway.

I'm a fat cow and I had a bump so you probably would have been able to tell if she was pg anyway.

why are there so many threads about fatness on here?

its a big/wide chair

for the larger person

yanbu to want to sit down, though maybe if you allowed the larger woman to sit down, then someone else may have given their chair to you

then again, maybe not

I am that none of you other ladies asked husbands to get up and give you a seat when waiting in an antenatal clinic. Yes, it was rude of them not to get up and offer, but I'd have come over all bolshie. And don't get me started on the people who leave their coat/bag etc. on a chair next to them when others are standing.....

gerof - obesity circles?

oh just stand fgs
itll do you both some good

I would have stayed in it til another seat became available then moved to that one.

I think that's fair.

If I had been there with my toddler I would never have let them have a seat to themselves and let heavily pregnant woman stand up. Kids in these circumstances can sit on the floor.

What the hell am I on about in that last post. Lol at myself - 'obesity circles' fgs

And lol also at the link - that is just a big fucking chair, how would anyone know that it was reinforced with titanium or whatev and was for fat people?

I think I have entered a parralel world of madness.

Because there are plenty of conditions around that make standing up much worse than a normal pregnancy, and they may not all be immediately visible/obvious.

I don't need to sit down, I am 33 weeks now with a great big bump, but it is just a standard pregnancy - just because my "disability" is obvious doesn't mean that I am more entitled to a seat than someone else and I would never assume that they should stand up for me because of it. When I had ripped my knee up but was to the point of being able to wear my brace under my jeans I needed to sit down on the bus and just rode out the stares because while it wasn't obvious I needed the seat I did.

If I needed to sit down, I would ask and accept the answer.

GetOrfMyLand, I work for a company that has these things somewhere among their myriad product ranges, so know the fancy words

I am very overweight (not super, super obese, normally size 24 ish) I wouldn't have expected anyone to give up a chair, bariatric or not, so that I could sit down if I'd just walked in.

However, I would gently point out that if she was pregnant (as I am) bear in mind that usually no-one notices even at full term, so you get absolutely NO special treatment EVER. No-one ever gives up their chair, no-one helps when you're struggling etc.

Good luck with your pregnancy and the birth.

i should htink obestiy circles are pretty big

snort

Lol, Getorf, you do make me larf.

And I'm also with nulgirl - my toddler would not be sitting on a chair while a heavily pg woman was standing either!

and tasty

i am failing to see the point of this thread other than to use the word bariatric

In my time on MN I have spoken at length about tea towels, tuna pasta bakes and cock rings in Asda, but I think talking about mystery chairs for the large and linking to pictures of said chairs takes the biscuit

AND goml
more worryingly you have STRONG opinions on it

do the obesity rings lurk on facebook grooming thin folk with promises of eclairs

cock rings in Asda? Do you mean they sell them, or that you were talking about them while in that particular shop or what?

YABU and so are the other adults in the rool who didn't ask the children to get off the seats!

i have just googled "round food" fgs to contune the gag
pathetic

cock rings are what you eat when you buy asda chicken nuggets