To find this comment by my dinner guest a bit irritating..

[Irishchic]

Sat night, 6 of us having dinner in our house, including me and my husband. One of the girls I don't really know all that well. I have made a cake for dessert, (quite a nice cake too) and after I cut it, and give it around, the girl who I don't know says, Oh that's a real Women's Institute cake there, it's time you went back to work!"

She and the other girl at the table both work, and I gave up working as a solicitor to stay at home with my five very young children (having struggled to combine the two things).

It irritated me a bit, I have to say. AIBU? I suppose I am, or maybe just a bit touchy as feel that people judge me for having given up a supposedly decent job to be a SAHM, (although I am very happy with my choice btw.)

yes bil was around this wkend

I am actually working part-time at the moment but am 28wks preg so stopping again soon

oh don't worry he says ha ha ha I am sure DH won't mind picking up the slack

bil for example is a twat

I always over analyse these things and get annoyed afterwards. Would love not to.

Having overanalysed your comment, it could mean your cake looks like it was made at M and S.

I would have said something along the lines of "um, well, ive always been able to cook well, its one of my many talents, don't -choke on it now Enjoy! "

This makes me so actually. I am a SAHM to ONE child and i am heartily sick of my choice being belittled. I would never dream of criticising a working mother for her choice, but it seems to be fair game for me to have to put up with comments like - oh, but aren't you bored at home all day? oh and the favourite is "oh, i could NEVER stay at home all day, i would just go mad" "my brain would wither away if i had to do that" WTF?? I am, apparently, very bright - i must be, they don't give away PhDs last time i checked. So no, i'm not bored thank you very much. Im not saying i don't GET bored sometimes, i do - but i seem to remember being bored at work a lot of the time.

I honestly think that all those comments are from mums who either choose to work or have to work to make themselves feel better about their choice.

It honestly sounds like your "friend" was jealous, she probably can't even manage a batch of fairy cakes. But theres you, five children and STILL able to manage an impressive dinner party with WI styeee cakes - yep, she's jealous! I know i am slightly in awe

Had she been drinking? Sounds like the sort of thoughtless thing I might say after too much wine. Agree it was a bit rude. I think people sometimes struggle with their own preconceptions of how someone with with a hardwon professional status can give it up to stay home - and suspect that leaked into what she said. Entirely your choice to focus on one thing - and frankly with 5 kids it would be hard to focus on many other things!! I have one and juggling that with a career and a sometimes absent DH (in the military) is hard enough.