to not want to get involved in all the bunfights any more?

[Peachy]

Normally I pile right in, but lately I am just feeling- nah why bother, maybe things that matter tome but I am wasting energy on people who won't ever chnage their minds or quite likely even read my posts.

Being me takes a lot of energy, what's the point of debating things on repeat esp. on a few things* if you know pOP has strong opinions and no history of listening anyway.

*I promise this isn't about any specific threads, just feeling lately about being always worthy / wrong / stuck on repeat

Lol at that Mozhe going waterskiing 2 weeks postpartum leaving behind a baby in SCBU.

And Mozhe wasn't the most shocking thing on that thread, the most shocking thing was the fact that a couple of people were going 'leave Mozhe alone, it doesn't mean she is a bad mother for going to Tobago when her prem baby is in an incubator, god MN is so judgy sometimes'.

I had only been on here 5 mins and I was laughing my socks off!

I don't think that many of the people with depression use MN as their only source of help its just that some times you lose grasp of what is real and what is in your head and it is immensely helpful to have another point of view on your life to help you make a decision. I think MN can be really, really helpful with that.

I have always really liked MN and never actually been in a bun fight, but lately I find that it is harder to avoid them.

ron, hillls was a poster who was anorexic and a "friend" posted that she had committed suicide. there was quite an outpouring of grief. then MNHQ confirmed that the "friend" was Hillllls. i have no doubt that she was a very ill lady and feel sorry for her. i hope she has the help she needs but i and other anorexics (a very easy illness to fall back into) invested a lot into her and became quite ill as a consequence.

I must disagree with you, RonNumber. Violently and vehemently. ;

i go through phases of being really "meh" about a lot of the things posted for exactly the same reasons as mentioned already.

BUt then i get times where i seem to be on every single handbags at dawn type thread.

i do get tired of repeating myself sometimes though

I know; it's like groundhog day sometimes.

YANBU.

I've been involved in a couple recently and tbh they have left me feeling a bit drained and feeling 'what was the point of that? - waste of energy.'

I do hate seeing people wind up someone who is obviously upset/distressed though and find it hard not to comment on that.

Some threads just have 'red flag' written all over them.

You F*ING APATHETIC FEMALE

DON'T YOU HAVE ANY CONVICTIONS LEFT?

YOU'VE SOLD OUT

Oh and btw when you post in AIBU you can expect robust responses

no, YANBU

I feel a bit like this lately.

It's making me both apathetic and overly abrupt, because I've become too lazy to think about what I post before I post it.

IE "AIBU Stepdaughter being total bitch to my daughter, SD is nearly 8 in 6 months, and DD only turned 7 5 months ago, AIBU to think she should not be such a bitch to my poor baby????""

I say "get a grip, you twat."

I 6should^ give a lengthy explaination of the pressures SD might be under, as a seven year old competing with another 7 year old the same age and gender, when she previously didn't have to compete for attention. I should mention the maturity ages of both children involves, ie - LOW. I should remind myself that the Sm in the OP is likely to be feeling the pressure herself. But I can't be bothered.

Well, well, well. Have had a totally pointless spat this very day. Hugely frustrating, but I suppose I can always turn the computer off...

I don't have the patience for it, really. Never did, but I've definitely got worse.

I have learned to stay away from the 'Outraged of Tunbridge Wells' type threads about baby ear piercing and disabled parking, but can still get sucked in to a good ol' WOHM/SAHM or BF/FF scrap when I'm bored. It's a disease

MrsMattie, it is good old, not "good ol". Are you trying to offend?

I can't move for offending some crazy bint on MN these days

Op - yanbu.

I have some experiences which might be useful to people (crash caesarian/elective caesarian/happy controlled crying/the art of laundry) but I can't be bothered to type them all out any more.

I should have a little place where I store all my paragraphs and can cut and paste them.

The depressives should be somewhere else, agreed. I have long ago hidden Mental Health which feels brutal (as I used to enjoy hanging out with my fellow emetophobes on there) but I just got cross with people publicly counting up their paracetamol.

Mrs Mattie

I don't know what you have against Tunbridge Wells. It's probably a bad case of Tunbridge Wells Envy. I don't know why you have to deride TW like that. In fact I think it is Bang Out Of Order and I have REPORTED your post.

bibbity - I find your comment that people with depression should be somewhere else very sad and unkind. Where exactly should they be?

In real life, Fab.

Right. And what if they have no one in real life? Maybe they need the escapism of a forum? I can only assume you have been very lucky and never suffered from depression, bibbity.

That is extremely sad.

I would go so far as to say not having someone to talk to in rl is probably a contributory factor in depression.

I don't like your aggressive tone, btw.

Aggressive? Where?

Know exactly what you mean. It does become very groundhog day doesn't it.

I enjoy a good spat, always have tbh. I like getting involved when it's something I care about, but on the big bunfight threads you end up drowned out, and by the time you've posted the page has raced along without you.

It goes in cycles like any forum - and we all flounce at times only to come back when we're more in the mood.

There's bunfights and bunfights. You just need to watch out for the good 'uns.