to not want to get involved in all the bunfights any more?

[Peachy]

Normally I pile right in, but lately I am just feeling- nah why bother, maybe things that matter tome but I am wasting energy on people who won't ever chnage their minds or quite likely even read my posts.

Being me takes a lot of energy, what's the point of debating things on repeat esp. on a few things* if you know pOP has strong opinions and no history of listening anyway.

*I promise this isn't about any specific threads, just feeling lately about being always worthy / wrong / stuck on repeat

I'm with you GetOrf

I try and steer clear of some subjects but will try very hard to avoid a couple of posters where they have expressed really vile views about disabilities.
I think I almost avoid wind up osters as much as issues.
I will occassionally be able to manage a converstaion about SN or such if the rabid wankers don't arrive

Ye,both to the gay threads, sn ones......

i think that my problem in some wasys, fordifferent reasons I have been exposed tolots of different ways tolive and do have opinions,usually around the'what you don't know scares you but thesearepeople' level.

Custy you may have a point too LOL.

Thanks all, just coz I ahven't namechecked you doesn'tmean I am not reading and appreciating- heavy toddlerstuck overlefta rmsleeping LOL. Thank you

(And Spidey from you that means a lot)

yyy to the typing and deleting. who can be bothered? i just want a laff.

god, listen to us moaning and yawning at the bunfights.... you know you've been on mn too long when....

i love the fat ones where anna gets all shirty and cats bum mouth

You are all being Very Unreasonable

i love anna, full stop. i hope she's real. but then i believed in mozhe, who used to drive even anna nuts with her snobbisme, so what do i know?

i do worry that i've put on weight every time i see her name. i feel her judging me.

I hide threads that make me want to head butt the screen. Unless i'm premenstrual, then all bets are off.

I also love Anna's 'life in the 16th Arrondissement' statements. I used to believe that Anna was Xenia's SAHM alter ego.

I thought Mozhe was my MN-friend until she was outed

Butb I have a history of getting suspected trolls to agree with me. Which probably is weird.

aitchy are oyu not on twitter
i am more interesting there where I cant be interrupted

Anna is actually real, another MNer knows her in RL and says she is really nice, which doesn't always come across in some of her wilder posts!

I am still relatively new but learning to stay away or back off from most controversial points - certainly I try not to get as riled up as I used to when I first joined - and I tend to be more circumspect about what I type these days. OFten I will retype something 2 or 3 times and then delete it anyway, cos there is no way to get it across calmly/rationally.

Ah well....

i must learn not to get involved with depressives i think. not that i am not supremely sympa, just i dont htink mn is the place for them to seek help

i remember with fondness my first few bunfights, early weaning and ff/bf. i looked the threads up quite recently (definition of boredom?) and as i read them through thought wistfully...

I was such a nob!

lol qos.
not on twitter, i would be subsumed.
and i am BRUTAL with the depressives. click and hide. unless it's a really obvious troll like cryingveryattentionseekingly, obv, then it's just all the way.

i live in a small coastal town, with 3 small children a large dog and a dh. Not an incredible amount happens. Mumsnet is an accessible window on the world giving me something to think about as i clear up baby sick, empty bins etc etc ad infinitum. I didnt even know there was such a thing as a white poppy until i read peachy's thread about her son.

i also find the support here v heartening, and also what is and isn't considered acceptable - it gives me perspective on my life and values.

what i'm trying to say is that you do not post in vain - somebody somewhere is reading and most probably learning

oh i love a good barney me, but have definately drawn back from it unless someone really pisses me off, or should i say, someones point of view - i often find myself ranting away only to find someone has already said what i wanted to say, probably better and i just get all worked up for nothing, my house remains a pigsty and the world keeps on turning

Tend to avoid most in relationships as seem to be ultra depressing and sound like they are in marriages from the 1930s.

Used to end up feeling very sorry for people and then discover they were trolls anyway.

Stick to Style and Beauty, chat, AIBU and generally very trivial stuff, is easiest that way.

That said MN has been incredibly helpful when i have had some family trouble, think soemtimes is a bit off to post threads asking for advice help, and never to give it in return.

i think the problem with depressive threads is that there is NOTHING you can post to make them better. and i say this as an anorexic who had severe PND. when i was ill, noone could say or do a thing to switch that lightbulb on. use mn as a place to rant and pour your heart out by all means, but see your gp and get REAL help too.

now hang on one doggone minute MOHZE wasn't real???????

Now you see, i wasted a lot of energy on that woman/spectre

plus, had my fingers burnt very badly by Hillllls. had a v bad relapse not long after.

actually, an i just say - there is lots of things you can say on the "depressive" threads, i know, ive posted enough of them and people here have made a REAL difference to me. Apart from those who spent their whole time mithering me to get a job [poking tongue out] it wasn't the answer - but on the whole, i got lots of help

whow as hils

anorexic, the one who came back as a friend to report her own suicide. a pretty mixed up character but imo at least not a wicked troll.