Access for my ex-husband

[frazzle26]

My ex-husband and I divorced 18 months ago and don't get on well at all. We have a 6 year old son together who lives with me. Ex husband has a new partner and a 5 month old daughter. Basically, I don't like the way he looks after our son. For example letting him play on the street unsupervised, making him change out of his clothes when i come to pick him up, hitting him (I don't do this).

Anyway, matters came to a head on halloween weekend when there was a big hoo-ha which i won't go into because it will take too long but basically the police were called and he didn't see our son for 8 weeks. I finally let him see our son 2 weeks ago but it didn't go well and our son wanted to come home after one night saying he'd been hit again and wasn't allowed anything to eat. His father also put him in nappies after he soiled himself.

My son later said that he had lied about being hit and not being given anything to eat although the nappy thing was definitely true as i saw them.

What i'm finding so hard is that I constantly have my mum telling me that I can't possibly let my son go and see his father. She constantl goes on about it and is a bit overbearing about it at times. I have my son one minute saying that he doesn't want to see his father and the next minute saying that he does. I have his father constantly ringing up demanding to see him. I've got the worry that my son may be playing out on the street unsupervised (although my ex says he will stop this)

I feel as though my head is going to explode!!

I wondered if anyone else had had any similar experiences,

Thanks

BTW don't pay any attention to WWC who is an attention seeking nutjob.

Make a written log of all these incidents and date them. Write simply, clearly and factually what happened, who was present, and what the effect on your son was.

Then get in contact with a solicitor and ask their advice on how to proceed.

Please don't send your son back there to be abused again.

Have you asked your ex why he thought it was right to put him in a nappy?

do you and you ex have an agreement that the duty responsibility and priority of your relationship and thus any communication between you is the happiness and safety of your son. Leave the issues aside and get that agreement between the two of you.

It is important not to be influenced by the wroth that comes out of these situations as often getting others involved i.e.caffcass can have a detrimental effect, but remember what your son needs now and later in life and you need to TALK to you ex and his partner if she is reasonable about how you are all going to achieve the things he needs.

No doubt there will be hurt and pain between all adults in this situation but i think as littleones mummy you need to take charge and request that a new start be had where all involved in his life understand thier responsibilities towards him.

What ever you feel you must not be quick to anger and you should show you ex and his partner attributes that you would be happy for your sone to see.

Your son is reacting to what is going on and he needent be.

why are you commenting on a thread thats 6 months old?

Because CLEARLY people still look at it! and i felt i had something important to add.