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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to tell my nan that I thought this was a bit young for DS or is it not too young for DS?

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Coldhands · 14/01/2010 19:20

Its my DS's 2nd birthday soon. My nan usually asks what to get/does he have thie etc. I assumed she would again and thought of something to tell her. Now it is a shame and I feel very guilty but she is known in the family for not picking great presents. I feel awful as she tries really hard but it got to the point that I had to tell her I wanted no more lavender stuff/drawer liners/slippers etc that she usually gets. I hate the thought of someone wasting their money on something I won't use.

Anyway, she said she has got DS a spinning top for his birthday. I said I thought this was a bit young for him. He is quite advanced for his age anyway and I can't see him playing with something like this when he is so car/train mad.

AIBU to think that this is a bit young for his age?

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GetDownYouWillFall · 14/01/2010 20:15

my DD is 2 and got a spinning top for Christmas. She loves it!

shivster1980 · 14/01/2010 20:15

YABU

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Coldhands · 14/01/2010 21:28

Vivia, how dare you tell me I have no respect for my nan. I haven't been horrible to her. This is the woman who raised me so don't you dare judge me like that.

I have already phoned her and told her that it sounds like a good present. She was actually willing to change it but I said I think it will help with hand eye co-ordination like someone on here said.

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kinnies · 14/01/2010 21:34

Good God!
Op didnt slap her Gran FFS!

She asked for advise and got it both barrels.

Her only 'crime' was to mention that her Ds is advanced for his age. He may well be. Dont see why op is getting so flamed.

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Coldhands · 14/01/2010 21:37

Thank you so much Kinnies, you have made me feel a bit better, I was wondering too why I have been flamed so much. Unfortunately Vivia has now made me very very angry indeed. I wish I had never started the bloody post. I said about how guilty I felt about it, its not like I said "what a fucking crappy present" (which I have now changed my mind about).

I think it is ruder to accept something then give it away tbh, but there we go.

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kinnies · 14/01/2010 21:40

Aww thats ok.
Tis a funny old place at times!

frogetyfrog · 14/01/2010 21:45

Coldhands - I have commented but have ended up envious of your relationship with grandma and grandad (enjoy) and think that you made a genuine comment which with hindsight may not have been necessary. You go away and enjoy your gran, tell her how clever she is to choose such a great present and just love being with her while many of us dont have that opportunity any more (sad emotion!). We all have times or events where we think our dds/dds are advanced. Perhaps they are!

fishie · 14/01/2010 21:47

coldhands don't you worry about vivia and some of the others who are happy to comment rudely and clearly haven't read the thread.

it is hard to have too much lavender for drawers though, please do give me your excess.

GetDownYouWillFall · 14/01/2010 21:52

coldhands - I think AIBU is a particularly harsh thread, you probably would have got kinder answers on "chat"!

fernie3 · 14/01/2010 21:58

mine love their spinning topand its good to have a variety of toys because their phases last such a short time!

secretgardin · 14/01/2010 22:04

YABU - hang your head in shame madam and go and apologise to your nan

gagamama · 14/01/2010 22:11

I love the idea of older relatives buying traditional toys. Just because it isn't branded with some cartoon, or isn't a scaled-down version of an adult item doesn't mean it won't get played with. How is you 'advanced' 2-year-old going to progress any further if all his toys are variations on the same theme and don't offer him any new stimulation?

You can't be too 'advanced' for a spinning top any more than you can be too advanced for a kaliedoscope or a spirograph. They're just curious, fascinating, but simple toys.

pranma · 14/01/2010 22:13

I think a spinning top is a perfect present and he will love it for years.

PavlovtheCat · 14/01/2010 22:18

yabu and ungrateful.

2 is not too young for a spinning top. Not all toys need to be advanced for a child. We found this with DD. We spent ages thinking, oh she is far to advanced for that...WRONG. She does not always need to be pushed, just needs to 'be' her age.

She is 3.5 and still LOVES a spinning top.

But, even if she was too old for a toy, i would say nothing. It has happened already, i am sure she will be bought things again that are not age appropriate. She will enjoy them anyway.

PavlovtheCat · 14/01/2010 22:20

Sorry, just saw the post about calling your gran to tell her you changed your mind. Good for you, he will love it when you have taken the batteries out of all the modern toys!

mum2all · 14/01/2010 22:25

Just another thought but even toys which are generally considered 'baby' toys or below a child's age or ability can take on a whole new lease of life when their imaginations really come into play - transforming the toys into all sorts of weird and wonderful new things.

babyicebean · 14/01/2010 22:29

Mine love the spinningtop we have, it plays a tune the faster you spin it and it lights up.
It has entertained a 3,5,7 and 30 yr old for hours.Also the 7 yr old has discovered if you hold the top and bottom and squeeze it like an accordian you can then use it as a weapon if you let it go across the floor.

The damn thing is metal and has chipped bits out of the skirting and various ankles.

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